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There's no question that cycling is good for my mental health. Photo / 123RF

LIFESTYLE

Kyle MacDonald: Cycling for mental health

19 Dec, 2019 2:00pm
3 minutes to read

Our roads are overwhelmed and existing public transport is bursting at the seams.

At this time of year, for those it struggle with their drinking, it can be hell. Photo / 123RF

LIFESTYLE

Kyle MacDonald: The danger of alcohol at Christmas

12 Dec, 2019 10:00am
3 minutes to read

At this time of year, for those it struggle with their drinking, it can be hell.

I was a white-privileged Shore boy. The cops never stopped us. Our dealers never got busted. Photo / 123RF

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Life as a white-privileged Shore boy with access to cannabis

5 Dec, 2019 3:00pm
4 minutes to read

Psychotherapist reflects on the ease of access and impact of cannabis on his development.

Gangs, in many ways, are the most extreme expression of outside-ness. A world of alternative rules and belonging: a law unto themselves. Photo / 123RF

LIFESTYLE

The trouble with 'harassing gangs out of existence'

28 Nov, 2019 11:00am
3 minutes to read

COMMENT: Fear is a powerful motivator and politicians understand this.

LIFESTYLE

Boomer-millennial warfare explained

14 Nov, 2019 7:00am
4 minutes to read

Psychotherapist Kyle MacDonald on what's behind our intergenerational tensions.

It was the night of October 23, 2011 and Kyle MacDonald was among a crowd of 60,000 teetering on the edge of a collective nervous breakdown. Photo / Supplied

LIFESTYLE

Kyle MacDonald: The most awful game of rugby ever

7 Nov, 2019 7:00am
3 minutes to read

And what it did for our collective neurosis as a nation.

Arming more police will only serve to guarantee one outcome: more people will be shot, says Kyle MacDonald. Photo / Getty

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Kyle MacDonald: More guns won't make people safer

24 Oct, 2019 7:00am
3 minutes to read

Arming more police will only serve to guarantee one outcome: more people will be shot.

Research suggests we are facing an epidemic of loneliness and isolation. Photo / 123RF

LIFESTYLE

Comment | All the lonely people - the Kiwis who feel most alone

17 Oct, 2019 12:00pm
4 minutes to read

How did we reach a point where we need to force institutions to care via regulation?

Such is the brain washing and mis-information we've all been subjected to as part of the failed

LIFESTYLE

Kyle MacDonald: The real problem with illicit drug use

10 Oct, 2019 7:59am
4 minutes to read

Psychotherapist Kyle MacDonald on the real problem with illicit drugs.

Swedish environmental activist Greta Thunberg. Photo / AP

LIFESTYLE

What your reaction to Greta Thunberg says about you

3 Oct, 2019 2:18pm
3 minutes to read

People's responses provide a pretty clear litmus test, writes Kyle MacDonald.

At least one third of women will experience violence in their relationships. Photo / 123RF

LIFESTYLE

Horrors missed this Mental Health Awareness Week

25 Sep, 2019 2:55pm
4 minutes to read

COMMENT: Promoting "wellbeing" does nothing for those battling overwhelming depression.

All Black TJ Perenara revealed this week the All Blacks have formed a

LIFESTYLE

The era of woke All Blacks is upon us

19 Sep, 2019 11:00am
3 minutes to read

This is what generational change looks like, writes Kyle MacDonald.

Our public health system has been failing to effectively reach, communicate with and make it easy for parents who care, but are struggling with day to day life, to immunise, says MacDonald. Photo / I23RF

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Kyle MacDonald: The anti-vaxxers - and the rest

5 Sep, 2019 8:16am
3 minutes to read

Angry about the measles outbreak? Be careful where you target it, writes Kyle MacDonald.

A recently published study of ethnic bias in New Zealand medical students also suggested a moderate bias towards seeing Pākehā patients as more

LIFESTYLE

How unconscious bias impacts Kiwis' health

22 Aug, 2019 8:52am
3 minutes to read

No one wants to own being "racist", but we need to talk about it, writes Kyle MacDonald.

It can be easy to take voting for granted when you've always had the ability to cast one - even if you choose not to. Photo / Getty Images

LIFESTYLE

Should New Zealand prisoners be allowed to vote?

15 Aug, 2019 8:06am
3 minutes to read

It can be easy to take voting for granted when you've always had the option.

Access to good quality health care is a human right, not a financial decision, writes Kyle MacDonald. Photo / Getty Images

LIFESTYLE

Kyle MacDonald: Why I don't have health insurance

8 Aug, 2019 11:05am
3 minutes to read

Psychotherapist Kyle MacDonald on why he's chosen not to take out health insurance.

Psychiatry and psychology has an important role to play in what we consider

LIFESTYLE

Why do some people have multiple partners?

1 Aug, 2019 7:21am
3 minutes to read

Quietly, people have always practised all sorts of ethical non-monogamous relationships

A lack of close intimate relationships is correlated with worse physical health, a lower sense of wellbeing, and worse mental health. Photo / Getty Images

LIFESTYLE

The life-long impact of a mother and child's first moments

18 Jul, 2019 7:00am
3 minutes to read

Fracturing the bond causes deep and lasting harm, writes psychotherapist Kyle MacDonald.

Largely, our beliefs are shaped by a desire to make sense of the world we live in. But they also serve to protect us, and to enable us to feel comfortable with our place in it. Photo / Getty Images

LIFESTYLE

Why you're inclined to think ill of the poor

11 Jul, 2019 7:00am
4 minutes to read

Kyle MacDonald on the truth about creating our own successes, or failures.

Psychosis is a serious and chronic mental illness that affects about one per cent of the population. Image / Getty Images

LIFESTYLE

Kyle MacDonald: Does cannabis cause psychosis?

4 Jul, 2019 8:00am
4 minutes to read

Psychotherapist responds to a question that divides, sparks fear and sows misinformation.

Voyueristic interest was a factor in the case of a Dunedin woman jailed for abusing her mother, due - it was claimed - to her Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.

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Comment | Mental health and the justice system - were you curious or compassionate?

27 Jun, 2019 11:00am
3 minutes to read

Psychotherapist asks if interest in the Dunedin woman with OCD came from the right place.

Kanye West has very publicly struggled with his mental health and recently been diagnosed with Bipolar disorder. Photo / Getty Images

LIFESTYLE

What Kanye West has right about mental health

13 Jun, 2019 7:00am
4 minutes to read

Maybe it's time I started listening to Kanye, writes psychotherapist Kyle MacDonald.

Is $1.9 billion impressive? Yes. Is it transformational? That remains to be seen. Image / Getty Images

LIFESTYLE

Is New Zealand at a turning point for mental health?

6 Jun, 2019 8:35am
3 minutes to read

Will we look back and say this is where the transformation started, asks Kyle MacDonald.

There's a problem with believing psychological pain is an illness in the first place. Photo / Getty Images.

LIFESTYLE

What we've got wrong about destigmatising mental health

23 May, 2019 7:00am
4 minutes to read

There's a problem with believing psychological pain is an illness in the first place.

You can't bully a bully into stopping bullying. Image / Getty Images

LIFESTYLE

Why our school bullies need love

16 May, 2019 7:00am
3 minutes to read

We punish too easily in New Zealand, writes Kyle MacDonald.

It's a fact: you can't learn to talk from a screen. But is the advice out there helpful? Photo / Getty Images

LIFESTYLE

What we're missing in the kids and screen time debate

9 May, 2019 9:00am
3 minutes to read

It's a fact: you can't learn to talk from a screen. But is the advice out there helpful?

How do we set a target when we can't even predict who is at risk? Photo / Supplied

LIFESTYLE

Kyle MacDonald: Ardern and our uncomfortable truth about suicide

1 May, 2019 2:48pm
4 minutes to read

We know a lot less about why people kill themselves than anyone is comfortable admitting.

Should New Zealand allow those who are in pain to choose to end their lives? Photo / Getty Images

LIFESTYLE

Psychotherapist's concerns over euthanasia in NZ

18 Apr, 2019 7:00am
3 minutes to read

After spending his career taking a stance against suicide, Kyle MacDonald is worried.

LIFESTYLE

Why you trust some people more than others

11 Apr, 2019 7:00am
3 minutes to read

Kyle MacDonald on overcoming inherent prejudice and the 'in-group' phenomenon.

We don't have to be more careful with young people and children, or try to protect them from the truth, writes Kyle MacDonald Image / Getty Images

LIFESTYLE

How to talk to kids about mental health

4 Apr, 2019 7:00am
3 minutes to read

When explaining mental health to kids, don't sugar-coat it, writes Kyle MacDonald.

LIFESTYLE

Psychotherapist on PTSD, processing Christchurch tragedy

19 Mar, 2019 10:35am
4 minutes to read

Psychotherapist Kyle MacDonald on what you may be feeling and how to address it.

Charity is a strange thing. Somehow in the last half of the 20th century we bought the idea that tax is theft, but charity is virtuous, writes Kyle MacDonald. Image / Getty Images

LIFESTYLE

What Kiwis are missing about tax, love and charity

14 Mar, 2019 7:00am
4 minutes to read

Kyle MacDonald asks: Are your morals more important than young people's lives?

Perhaps the real point about school strikes is that we should be supporting the next generation to have a voice. Photo / Getty Images

LIFESTYLE

What should Kiwi kids be allowed to wag school for?

7 Mar, 2019 8:34am
3 minutes to read

Royal visits? Definitely okay. Family trips to Fiji or America's Cup parades? Sure.

In addition to potentially legalising and strictly regulating cannabis, should New Zealand also be following Portugal's lead for all other illicit drugs? Photo / Getty Images

LIFESTYLE

Legalising drugs: What can we learn from Portugal?

28 Feb, 2019 8:38am
3 minutes to read

Is the Portugal Model the best approach as New Zealand looks to legalise cannabis?

Being secretive is mentally hard work, as the theory goes. Photo / Getty Images

LIFESTYLE

The best thing you can do with your darkest secrets

14 Feb, 2019 8:00am
3 minutes to read

Kyle MacDonald on the science of keeping secrets.

According to a new study, early risers are less likely to suffer mental health problems. Photo / Getty Images

LIFESTYLE

Is early rising really better for your health?

7 Feb, 2019 7:29am
3 minutes to read

While early birds get the worm, night owls a having more fun according to Kyle MacDonald.

LIFESTYLE

How to start being kind to yourself

31 Jan, 2019 7:00am
3 minutes to read

We all have times when we could be a little kinder to ourselves.

Beraiah Hales and Joseph Parker were members of a group called the Roast Busters who were investigated by police from 2011. Photo / supplied

LIFESTYLE

A lesson in saying sorry for Roast Busters ringleader

25 Jan, 2019 3:00pm
3 minutes to read

Psychotherapist Kyle MacDonald on Parker's textbook "Public Relations Sorry".

LIFESTYLE

Why 'toxic masculinity' is harming everyone

17 Jan, 2019 7:00am
4 minutes to read

Staunch ideas of how men and women "should behave" can cause serious damage.

Drinking or taking drugs to excess, deliberately hurting ourselves, arguing with and hurting those we love, avoiding important meetings or even job interviews, can all make it look like we're our own worst enemy. Photo / Getty Images

LIFESTYLE

The truth about people who are 'self-destructive'

3 Jan, 2019 7:00am
3 minutes to read

COMMENT: What's really going on when we describe ourselves or others as self-destructive?

The expression of the self is pushed aside in favour of what we call a

LIFESTYLE

What it really means when someone needs to 'find themselves'

27 Dec, 2018 7:58am
3 minutes to read

Taking time to "find yourself" makes me wonder: if you're lost, who's looking for you?

It's bizarre how some still wish to sanction incredibly poor treatment of children. Photo / Getty Images

LIFESTYLE

As New Zealanders, why do we hate children so much?

26 Dec, 2018 7:00am
4 minutes to read

That children should be excluded from public places is quite simply discrimination.

It's natural to want to point the finger. But the uncomfortable truth is we are all responsible. Every single one of us. Photo / Getty

LIFESTYLE

The uncomfortable truth about New Zealanders and suicide

24 Dec, 2018 1:00pm
4 minutes to read

COMMENT: Kyle MacDonald on how our efforts to help someone may make things worse.

Some believe personality may even be genetic. Certainly it has been a widely held assumption that personality, beyond adolescence, is fixed for adult life. Photo / Getty Images

LIFESTYLE

What you really need to know about your personality type

20 Dec, 2018 10:20am
3 minutes to read

The vital element often forgotten when considering your personality type.

Many hold onto this magical wish that one day their parents will change and they will get what they need and what they've missed out on. Photo / Getty Images

LIFESTYLE

The reality of Christmas for abused Kiwi kids

13 Dec, 2018 7:24am
3 minutes to read

Comment: For many it really is the most wonderful time of the year. But not for all.

Am I dreaming? No. If every one of the 40 recommendations of

LIFESTYLE

What mental health in NZ could look like in 2030

6 Dec, 2018 9:03am
4 minutes to read

A psychotherapist imagines NZ if new mental health recommendations were implemented.

It's time for the Govt to deliver what we can truly call a People's Mental Health System. Photo / 123RF

NEW ZEALAND

Kyle MacDonald: Time to put people at heart of system

5 Dec, 2018 5:00am
3 minutes to read

COMMENT: Time for Govt to deliver what we can truly call a People's Mental Health System.

Ete, pictured with his wife, Mele, talked about how he overcame his violence. Photo / Getty Images

LIFESTYLE

Kiwi comedian shares battle with domestic violence

29 Nov, 2018 7:00am
5 minutes to read

Kiwi comedian tells Kyle MacDonald how he overcame his battles and found forgiveness.

The fact they are so dangerous is exactly why we need to make them legal, argues Kyle MacDonald. Photo / Getty Images

LIFESTYLE

Kyle MacDonald: Why we need to legalise synthetic drugs

15 Nov, 2018 7:00am
3 minutes to read

The fact they are so dangerous is why we need to make them legal, writes Kyle MacDonald.

Generosity towards those we aren't related to does nothing to improve our genes' chances, yet experiments have consistently proved that people of all cultures engage in altruistic behaviour. Photo / 123RF

LIFESTYLE

Why you shouldn't lose your faith in humanity

1 Nov, 2018 7:00am
3 minutes to read

Given the opportunity, and the right conditions, most people will do the right thing.

Politics, of course, provides no shortage of targets for our hate. Photo / Supplied

LIFESTYLE

Jami-Lee Ross saga: It's time for compassion, New Zealand

25 Oct, 2018 8:09am
3 minutes to read

Comment: Psychotherapist Kyle MacDonald on JLR, mental health and hate in our communities.

LIFESTYLE

How 'keeping up with the Joneses' can make you sick

18 Oct, 2018 8:26am
4 minutes to read

Kyle MacDonald on how pronounced status anxiety is here in New Zealand.

Psychotherapist Kyle MacDonald on why he feels

LIFESTYLE

Psychotherapist's concerns about Mental Health Awareness Week

11 Oct, 2018 7:07am
4 minutes to read

Psychotherapist reveals "deep confliction" about Mental Health Awareness Week.

What I wanted was someone to ask if I was okay. To see past the wilfully disobedient, sharp tongued persona, and offer to help. Photo / Getty Images

LIFESTYLE

Fraser High walkout kids: What we've misunderstood

27 Sep, 2018 7:00am
3 minutes to read

COMMENT: Psychotherapist on why it's crucial we support these student protests.

Why would women who self-identify as valuing equality actively discriminate based on gender? Photo / Getty Images

LIFESTYLE

Kiwi feminists discriminating against our transgender community

13 Sep, 2018 7:00am
3 minutes to read

As transphobic posters appear around NZ, Kyle MacDonald unpacks the group behind them.

While Harry Potter ultimately overcomes Voldemort, in reality we can never truly defeat evil. Photo / Supplied

LIFESTYLE

Harry Potter, school expulsions and the nature of evil

6 Sep, 2018 7:59am
3 minutes to read

Psychotherapist Kyle MacDonald on the call to remove schools' rights to expel kids.

Reputedly coined by the right wing British Magazine

LIFESTYLE

Is Jacinda Ardern guilty of 'virtue signalling'?

23 Aug, 2018 7:00am
3 minutes to read

Kyle MacDonald discusses the term and whether or not it applies to our Prime Minister.

Conversion therapy is a highly controversial topic. Photo / Getty Images

LIFESTYLE

Why gay conversion therapy needs to be banned

16 Aug, 2018 7:00am
3 minutes to read

COMMENT: Why would we want to make a vulnerable group feel even less accepted?

There is no doubt that being a mother is hard work. But should you be getting paid to do it? Photo / Getty Images

LIFESTYLE

Why we need to pay mothers

9 Aug, 2018 7:00am
3 minutes to read

COMMENT: "Why do we not pay mothers who choose to stay home and provide full-time care?"

Images of dirty old men, strangers with sweets and trench coats dominate what we wrongly assume to pose a danger to our children. Photo / Getty Images

LIFESTYLE

Why we need to end the 'stranger danger' myth

2 Aug, 2018 7:00am
3 minutes to read

Strangers aren't the real danger when it comes to protecting your children.

The truth is, I don't know many rich therapists. More to the point, I don't know a single one who does it for the money. Image / Getty Images

LIFESTYLE

Why is mental health therapy in Auckland so expensive?

19 Jul, 2018 7:00am
3 minutes to read

Comment: "Inequality is toxic. Nowhere is this inequality more obvious than Auckland."

We're all hardwired to care more about our ego and being right than the facts. Photo / Getty Images

LIFESTYLE

Kyle MacDonald: Why you'll never win an argument online

12 Jul, 2018 7:00am
3 minutes to read

People say 'don't read the comments'. But of course you do. Here's how to handle them.