His leadership qualities must have been evident very early. He became All Black captain in just his third test, aged 23. He would have been as content not to be chosen, and played happily in the great Auckland Ranfurly Shield team of the early 1960s under the captaincy of Bob Graham. But the All Black captaincy was his for as long as he wanted it, and he set the mould.
When he retired after eight years, a new young leader of similar quality was found in Brian Lochore. Sir Brian readily acknowledges the example he drew from Whineray. So would the captains who followed Lochore - Ian Kirkpatrick and Graham Mourie - and through them, something of the Whineray style has been transmitted to later leaders, especially the incumbent, Richie McCaw.
Sir Wilson's qualities were readily transferred to business, at the helm of Carter Holt Harvey and later the boards of other companies, including the owners of the New Zealand Herald for a period. But regrettably he could not be enticed to public life. In that respect, too, he has set the pattern. Leadership esteemed on the rugby field has not yet been transferred to government.
Perhaps it is just as well. A nation needs people such as Sir Edmund and Sir Wilson to idealise, not to subject to the arguments and criticism of political contests. Great All Black captains have their own lasting value.
On the weekend of the Rugby World Cup final, exactly a year before his death, Sir Wilson wrote on our front page. "Win or lose, we will be humble and gracious, no matter what happens," he said. "Fortunately, winning is never forever, neither is defeat."
Great leaders remind us what matters. Sir Wilson Whineray was our greatest.