To be quite clear, we must maintain both faces. Again our army is a good example. It calls itself Ngati Tumatauenga - the tribe of the God of War - but it trains to maintain the face of Rongo - the God of Peace - at all times unless mortally threatened. New Zealand understands that as tough as making war can be, making peace is harder.
It is impossible to disagree with President Obama that "when people spew hatred towards others because of their faith or because they're immigrants, it feeds into terrorist narratives ... It feeds a cycle of fear and resentment and a sense of injustice upon which extremists prey. And we can't allow cycles of suspicion to tear the fabrics of our countries."
However, most New Zealanders know that. Our friends know we know.
Other things feed the cycle of fear and resentment and the sense of injustice. Cycles of suspicion are fed when we do not act in a coherent and practical way that respects the dignity and rights of those who observe what we do.
If we learn from the mistakes of Operation 8, which the police have apologised for, we will think deeply before we act about the collateral damage of those actions. Hopefully, we will not in years to come have Muslim children visiting our Parliament as part of an apology, truth and reconciliation process as we saw recently for the children of Tuhoe.
A coherent or practical counter-terrorism strategy would be to consider practical, New Zealand-centric ways to deal with the people we might arrest and jail, and their families and friends. Treat them with dignity and respect and we cut the ground from under those who might make them martyrs for their cause. By not thinking the consequences through, we do the violent extremists' job for them. We create a bigger "them and us".
Peacemaking at home will require the same common sense and courage that saw us go to Bougainville with nothing more than guitars, a kapa haka group and our reputation.
Treating people with dignity and respect looks like this: people are imprisoned only after due process with proper legal representation; once detained we do not dehumanise people and are sure to alert relevant watchdogs.
It demonstrates to all that we have the welfare of their sons, daughters and friends as much in mind as we do the potential victims of violent extremism.
David Rutherford is the Chief Human Rights Commissioner.