A spokeswoman for anti-domestic violence organisation Shine says there hasn't been enough public evidence that entertainer Chris Brown has reformed to warrant an exemption being made for him to enter the country.
Jill Proudfoot said she wasn't aware of any public effort that Brown has undertaken to show his remorse and make amends.
"When the event was so public, the making amends has got to be public, too."
She said she could not see any justification for an exemption under the Immigration Act to allow Brown into New Zealand to perform.
"He has to be remorseful genuinely, not just as a self-serving act," Ms Proudfoot said.
"I wonder how [supporters of Brown] would feel if it was their daughter."
Rob McCann of White Ribbon New Zealand said he had been approached by Jevan Goulter, a media representative acting for Brown's promoters, on whether the organisation would support Brown coming and talking to young people about his experience.
He said White Ribbon would neither support no oppose Brown's entry to the country because there was not enough information about his rehabilitation following the assault.
"We work with many men who have been violent in the past ... Those men go through a process and we make sure they're safe that the violence is in the past they've taken on board responsibility for their actions and they're no longer violent.
"The question with Chris Brown is has he changed his behaviour? Has he taken responsibility for his actions? We have absolutely no way of knowing that has occurred.
"Without being able to put in place some of those checks we would not organise such an event. We would want to make sure the person is who they say they are."
Mr McCann said young people will always emulate the behaviour of stars they look up to.
"Young men can look to Chris Brown and say 'well that's the way he treated Rihanna' ... and go 'that's okay'. Our young women will go 'well the way my boyfriend is treating me is okay because its occurred with a superstar'.
"They have an ability to affect what our youth see as normalised behaviour."
Mr McCann said the good that has come out of the Chris Brown debate was people were thinking about domestic violence and talking about what it meant to have been rehabilitated.
"We see violence thrives in silence. So when people are talking about this issue they're thinking about peoples behaviour."
Mr Goulter has sent emails to a number of organisations and church groups explaining the ways Brown has "repented" since assaulting his former girlfriend Rihanna in 2009.
Mr Goulter said he was asking organisations: "Is there a way you could utilise someone like Chris Brown to the benefit of the campaign or cause you're trying to do?"
He wouldn't say which organisations he had approached so if they do intend on speaking in support of Brown.
"I think the media reports have gone quite in depth about the incident and not necessarily the steps he has taken since then to do what would constitute being remorseful or rehabilitated," he said.
Mr Goulter said Brown had made "a terrible mistake" when he was a teenager, and was now 26 and doing good work for charities in the United States.
He said New Zealanders should consider "what we expect of [Kiwi men who have been violent to partners] and when do we consider them reformed".
"How long do we throw [the assault against Rihanna] at him for?"
Mr Goulter said it was hypocritical to let other entertainers with domestic violence charges like Tommy Lee of Motley Crue to come and perform here when people weren't willing to give Brown a second chance.
Brown is not eligible to enter New Zealand because he has been barred from two countries because of his domestic violence conviction.
He will need to apply for an exemption under the Immigration Act in order to get a visa to perform here.
He served community work and five years probation after pleading guilty to the charge of assault against Rihanna. A police statement at the time was quoted in American media saying Brown strangled, bit, and repeatedly punched Rihanna in a car.
Since the assault in 2009, he was part of a nightclub brawl in 2012 that involved hip hop star Drake and the following year singer Frank Ocean accused him of punching and shouting a homophobic slur at him.
He was ordered to enter a drug rehabilitation centre after breaching conditions of his parole, then served time in a prison after he was kicked out of the rehabilitation centre.
Dame Tariana Turia, former Maori Party leader who has worked to reduce family violence for decades, said she supported Brown's entry to New Zealand because of the connection he would make to young people.
She said the state spent tens of millions of dollars on trying to reach the same group and "very little of it works".
She said the country should take the opportunity for young people to hear from Brown.
"I'm a firm believer in the philosophy of forgiveness. I believe people can change.
"If Chris Brown was willing to come, willing to share some of his time with our young, I am sure would love to spend time with him, I can only think of the benefit to them rather than focus on what he did in his past."