Step 1: Lock in 'time out' - every week
Recharge and personal time is too important to leave to chance - it needs to be planned for. If you consistently plan your week rather than just your day it's far easier to schedule 'me' time. Most people use their diary as an appointment taker and if there's a gap, other things are squeezed in. I encourage you to flip that behaviour. Instead, turn your diary into a planning tool.
Step 2: 'Me' time is NOT selfish!
If you've ever thought that giving yourself time out is selfish - GET OVER IT! In fact it's a caring thing to do, for others as well as yourself. If you're burnt out and exhausted, who's going to do your job and keep your home fires burning brightly?
Step 3: Get the right language around the issue
Don't say 'I can't fit it in'. Instead ask 'How can I fit it in?' The quality of the question determines the quality of the answer.
Step 4: Even a few minutes a day makes a difference
Ask yourself: 'If I give myself 30 minutes a day to do anything I like, what would I do and when and where would I do it?' Just the very idea of regular 'me' time is energising and exciting (and for some it's so uncommon that at first it's scary!) If you're in a family or partnership, you can support each other to have this space.
Step 5: Separate home and business
This is one of the hardest issues for business owners, and even more challenging if family members also work in the business. Trouble is, keeping going becomes a habit. Decide on an action that says 'we're done for the day'. It might be turning off the computer, shutting the home office door or a humorous penalty system (like a Fines Jar) if work is discussed after a set time. The list below includes a couple of other techniques.
Some daily 'chill out' strategies:
• Drive home by a lovely setting and take 10 minutes to walk in the fresh air.
• At the beginning of the day get up 30 minutes earlier than the family and use that as your quiet time.
• Change your clothes and take a shower as soon as you walk in - cast off the day's events by casting off the clothes.
• Instead of turning on the TV with its attendant crop of noise and disasters, put on some quiet relaxing music.
• Get into a regular exercise programme. If you don't like exercising alone, find a support group or start one. Five years ago I began running with a group of friends on Saturday mornings. It's so much more fun (and consistent and effective) than pounding the streets on my own - and our coffee at the Botanic Gardens afterwards is the icing on the cake.
• Have a regular time to stop. Many people have a ritual 'before-dinner' drink where they sit down and relax. If possible, avoid having such a break with the 6 o'clock news - instead of relaxing you're bringing in the world. No 'me time' there - just gloom and doom! If anything really dramatic happens someone will tell you!
Everyone needs regular time out. Don't wait until the next holiday to recharge. Make it a consistent daily and weekly habit and you'll be far more productive when you are at work.
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