If you are staying late because you have to get to inbox zero rather than organising date night it's a reflection that reducing anxiety around work tasks is more important than creating fun and a connection with your partner.
When you drag yourself out of bed in the dark to train for that triathalon it's a reflection that your body and completing that event is more important than a lie in.
When you turn down the party to work on your novel it shows your true priority is to be a published author.
When you skip Friday wines to take the kids to laser quest your true priorities are laid bare.
The thing about how busy life is these days is that we are confronted with an almost endless conveyor belt of choices for us to make over our time. We are constantly choosing, whether we realise it or not. Every choice adds up to a pattern - when we look at our pattern of choices - that's when our true priorities are revealed. We are what we consistently do, not what we say we want to do or would like to do.
Busyness is not the enemy. It's an amazing opportunity to assess your true priorities without judgement.
This is not, repeat not, an opportunity for you to beat yourself (and everyone around you) up! It's a chance to reflect on the real balance of your time and priorities. It's an opening of awareness to reflect on your relationships and the respective energy and priority that they are for both you and the other person.
Busyness forces choice. And choice reveals our true priorities. Have a look, without judgement, at what you consistently choose to prioritise. Is it in line with what you really want and who you truly want to be?
