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New York woman has been on a three-year road trip across the US documenting acts of kindness

By Cathy Free
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24 Jun, 2019 10:57 PM9 mins to read

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Mary Latham of New York with Old Blue, the Subaru once owned by her mother that she's driving across the country while looking for acts of kindness. Photo / Sarah Henry

Mary Latham of New York with Old Blue, the Subaru once owned by her mother that she's driving across the country while looking for acts of kindness. Photo / Sarah Henry

After Mary Latham's mother died in 2013, the New York wedding photographer spent several years feeling adrift, wondering how long her emotions would feel so raw.

Her mind would routinely go back to something her mum, Patricia Latham, had told her after the 2012 Sandy Hook mass school shooting in Newtown, Connecticut.

"I'd been feeling terribly sad about it, and she said, 'Mary, there are always going to be tragedies in the world, but there will always be more good - you just have to look for it,'" Latham, 32, recalled.

It took almost three years for Latham to truly understand what her mother meant. And to honour her mum's legacy of looking for goodness, she came up with a plan: She would pack a suitcase with several changes of clothes and hit the road in her mum's blue Subaru Outback to visit all 50 states in search of simple acts of kindness.

Mary Latham has been collecting stories of good as she travels the US in her mum's old car. Photo / Instagram
Mary Latham has been collecting stories of good as she travels the US in her mum's old car. Photo / Instagram
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Latham decided to call her road trip project "More Good" and document all of her stops on a website, with the goal of publishing a book to donate to hospital waiting rooms coast-to-coast.

On October 29, 2016, she set out in "Old Blue" from her family's home on Long Island, taking along dozens of "More Good" T-shirts to hand out to people who followed her journey online and agreed to host her for two or three nights.

She also packed the back of the car with a camera and several notebooks, plenty of water and snacks, and a blanket, candles and flashlight, joking that she wanted to be prepared for a blizzard in Maine.

Almost three years later, other than occasional weekend flights home to Long Island to photograph weddings and replenish her funds and her energy, Latham is still at it, with only seven more states to go on her road trip, including Alaska and Hawaii.

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For those states, she's hoping to rent a blue Subaru rather than ship her car to Hawaii or spend weeks alone in the Alaskan outback.

"My mum would be impressed - I've already put more than 61,000km on the odometer," said Latham, who has thus far stayed with about 140 different families, mainly in small towns along America's back roads. People who follow her journey on her website invite her to stay in their guest rooms and refer her to people to interview in their communities who brighten others' lives.

"I spend a lot of time alone in my car and it can get lonely," said Latham. "So to stay with people and have a home-cooked meal and hear their stories of kindness provides a big boost. I haven't had a single bad experience with any of them."

From her first stop in Niantic, Connecticut, to her latest stay in the Cincinnati area, Latham has collected hundreds of "do good" stories along the way.

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In Rhode Island, a bank teller told her about the time she'd had a bad day at work and a customer asked if she was okay, said Latham. When the teller said she'd be fine if she ate some M & Ms after work, the customer bought a bag of the candies and returned to slip them under the teller's bank window.

In Indiana, she met a woman who was molested as a child and now takes in dozens of foster children with special needs. "She hopes to provide them with the happiness she never experienced," said Latham.

Latham only has seven more states to go on her road trip, including Alaska and Hawaii. Photo / Instagram
Latham only has seven more states to go on her road trip, including Alaska and Hawaii. Photo / Instagram

Among her most memorable experiences, she said, was a stay in Cape Elizabeth, Maine (minus a blizzard), at a 100-year-old farmhouse.

"This woman reached out to me on Facebook and when I looked at her photo I thought, 'This could be the nicest woman in the world or a serial killer,'" Latham recalled with a laugh. "The photo showed her riding her bike with a puppy in the basket."

Latham was delighted (and relieved) when she arrived to smell the aroma of freshly-baked blueberry muffins drifting through the front screen door.

"I pushed the door open and was instantly smacked with this warmth," she said. "There was a wood stove burning and the puppy from that basket ran out to greet me. And then the woman hosting me gave me a big hug. Although we were strangers, we sat and talked like old friends."

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She had similar experiences with a family in Indiana who fixed her flat tire and then put her up for three nights, and a man who recently had a double-lung transplant who left a $20 bill in her backpack.

Some of her hosts are now her friends, like Walter and Ava Butzu, teachers from Ann Arbor, Michigan. Earlier this month, they introduced her to three different people she interviewed for her book: a French Holocaust survivor, a college graduate who worked his way from poverty to medical school and a former University of Michigan band director who spoke eloquently about his decades of teaching. She now has hundreds of hours of interviews to transcribe for her book.

"We were thrilled to open up our home to Mary and connect over meals, walks and yoga," Ava Butzu, 49, said. "When she left, my husband, who can be a bit jaded at times, said, 'I miss Mary,' and talked about how Mary sees the world as a place of hope and optimism."

Latham's long journey has at times been hard on her emotionally, added Butzu, who spent an evening talking to her about the challenges she's faced on the road.

"She's staying with people she's never met, offering herself up to hear people tell their stories of loss, tragedy and hardships," said Butzu. "She knows it's taking a toll on her body, but she remains dogged that she will complete her goal."

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On the last evening in the 89th home of the More Good road trip I decided to go for a walk. Exercise isn’t a word I can use too much on this journey and with my throbbing leg pains these days (from driving, or sciatica, or Lyme Disease...) I have realized I need to make it more of a priority. However, I am not very good at knowing my limits. My first attempt at exercise was going to be a lovely walk through Muir Woods. Somehow this turned into getting lost on a hike for three hours. My leg was not pleased, and it made that very clear. I attempted a second try at this whole walking exercise thing the other evening and somehow this turned into a 2 on 2 basketball game. I was walking past Khari as he was whispering some moves to himself as he played a solo game of basketball. I figured it would be fun to have a shot and nervously asked for one. He smiled and passed me the ball. Swoosh. A beautiful shot right below the hoop into the netting. About one second later his two siblings ran outside and joined us. The little sister immediately yelling, “I want to be on her team!” (Luckily she hadn’t seen my shot.) We teamed up and so began an hour-long game of solid basketball. And even though I’ll probably never see them again, and my leg is furious at me, it was one of the best memories I’ve had lately. Don’t listen to all of the rumors folks, kids are pretty damn cool. They have a way of making you feel very welcome and very loved, which when one is 3,000 miles from home, is just about the best feeling in the world. Happy Earth Day from a girl who has seen a whole lot of beautiful places the past 540 days, and even more beautiful people. ✌I hope you all go out there and talk to someone new today. Do it for your mother. #happybdaymamaearth 🌏✌🏻#moregood #roadtrip 🚙 #california #kindness #happyearthday

A post shared by Mary Latham (@moregoodtoday) on Apr 22, 2018 at 7:07pm PDT

Latham also made a lasting impression on Kim and Chris Rothe and their twin 11-year-old boys in Mansfield, Massachusetts. They offered up their guest room to her in 2016 over the Christmas holidays.

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"Reading Mary's story (online) brought me to tears," said Kim Rothe, a 46-year-old special education teacher, whose father died of cancer. "Mary and I both knew how cruel cancer can be, and yet Mary was looking for the positive. What better way to honour her Mum than to share what she finds with everyone?"

When Latham pulled up to the Rothes' home in "Old Blue" two days before Christmas, she was exhausted with a bad cold and shortly after she said hello she went promptly to bed and slept for 22 hours, recalled Rothe.

"I was so touched that she felt comfortable enough in our home to collapse and just sleep," Rothe said. On Christmas morning, Latham played basketball with the boys, said Rothe, and delighted in watching them open their presents.

"We also exchanged gifts, and we both cried when she left," she added. "How brave of her to travel the country and rely on the kindness of strangers. It's exactly what this country needs in a time that seems so divisive."

Latham said she never discusses politics with the people she stays with or interviews. She's found that it simply doesn't matter.

"I've been in Trump homes, Hillary homes, Bernie homes, atheist homes, Christian homes and Jewish homes," she said. "One guest room I stayed in had 52 crosses hanging on the wall. For me, there is really only one underlying common factor: They're good people who want to be a part of something good."

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After a long day on the highway when she feels like pulling over and crying, Latham said she thinks about her mother and what her journey would mean to her.

"My mum went up (to heaven) probably thinking that she'd put her feet up, drink some chardonnay and play Scrabble, and now I've got her on full-time angel duty," she said. "But I know she'd be so happy that I'm doing this. That makes every single mile worth it."

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