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'I don't want a gay person doing my wedding': Bride refuses makeup artist

By Luke Kenton
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16 Jun, 2019 10:52 PM4 mins to read

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Makeup artist Kristian Cardenas was told she would only be hired for a wedding if she "changed her mind about being gay." Photo / Facebook.

Makeup artist Kristian Cardenas was told she would only be hired for a wedding if she "changed her mind about being gay." Photo / Facebook.

A Texas bride-to-be has sparked outrage online after her response to a gay makeup artist were exposed.

Ater refusing to book the woman because she was a lesbian, the bride proceeded to lecture her in a series of homophobic texts about why being a gay is "sinful".

Cosmetics expert, Kristian Cardenas, from Lubbock, said she was taken aback by the woman's shift in attitude after her sexuality was revealed in a chain of text messages on June 12.

The interaction ended with the anonymous bridezilla declaring that she didn't want Cardenas anywhere near her wedding, but told her to let her known if she 'changes her mind' about her sexuality in time for the ceremony so she can hedge a booking after all.

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Cardenas took to social media and uploaded pictures of the vile interaction, accompanying the screenshots with a message urging people to be kind to one another regardless of their differences.

The post has since been like 310,000 times and received in excess of 71,000 retweets – sparking outrage online.

Cardenas' interaction with the woman, who has not been named, started out harmlessly, with the her inquiring about pricing for Cardenas' services.

But immediately after receiving the information she requested, the woman opened a completely separate line of questioning.

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"Are you gay?" the woman abruptly asks.

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happy lesbian visibility day💗 i thought this would be a great day to go ahead and let my friends and family (that don’t already know) know that i’m gay. i’m so supported, and loved by everyone close to me. if you don’t agree with this, it’s okay. i’m not here to please anyone or ask for you to understand. i’m happy with who i am. oh and it’s not a phase 😉

A post shared by k r i s t i a n✨ (@ktaay) on Apr 26, 2019 at 2:43pm PDT

Cardenas confirmed that "Yes ma'am, I am," but asked what such a personal question has to do with her services or abilities as a professional makeup artist.

"I don't want a gay person doing my wedding," the woman responded, adding that she had been wondering if she was gay or not from her photos.

Opting for a professional response, Cardenas told the woman that's "totally fine" and told her to have a nice day, but the insults and judgement from the would-be client kept coming in abundance.

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happy thanksgiving lovelies. hope y’all all stay safe and have a good day💛🦃

A post shared by k r i s t i a n✨ (@ktaay) on Nov 22, 2018 at 2:33pm PST

"I still have more questions," she continues. "How can you be a Latina woman and be gay? You do know being gay is a sin, correct?"

"I will pray for you my friend. I'm sorry that you've chosen a path that's going to take you straight to hell."

The tirade of abhorrent messages ended with the woman saying: "I think you do beautiful make-up but I just can't have someone who's gay being a part of my special day."

"The wedding is in a church and I don't want you walking into my church. If at any time you change your mind about being gay, let me know and I'll book you."

Cardenas never replied to the latter texts but she spoke out online against the homophobia she endured, insisting the exchange shows the adversity the LGBTQ community face even still, in 2019.

"Openly sharing who I am with the world is my choice; a choice I will never apologize for,"Cardenas said in a tweet, emotionally reflecting on her conversation with the woman. "I love what I do and who I am. Today I was taken back a little bit."

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"Homophobia is a real issue still in 2019," she continued. "Please just be kind to everyone you meet."

In the tweet's wake, thousands poured in with support for Cardenas lambasting the "Bridezilla's" behavior, branding it "disgusting" and "judgemental".

"This is disgusting," one user said. "I'm so sorry you were talked to this way! They said they'll pray for you? Nah honey, way I see it they the one that truly needs Jesus. I'll be praying for that judgmental homophobic human who thought this was okay."

Another added: "Wow! I can't believe people like that idiot exist in real life! It's so surreal! All my support and love. Your makeup work is fantastic!"

Though she missed out on a potential booking, Cardenas' post seems as though it may lead to potential new opportunities for the budding makeup artist.

"As a recently baptized Catholic (raised Catholic my whole life just never had the education), I want to fly you to Pittsburgh next year and have you do all the hair and makeup for me and my fiancée's wedding," said one outraged user.

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Cardenas thanked everyone for their support, providing an update that she had now blocked the woman's number and the friend that had recommended her services.

"I blocked her number, name and her friend's name," she said. "I don't want anyone to be hateful to her even though she was to me."

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