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Obesity: How parents can help children deal with issues around weight and food

By Anna Tyzack
Daily Telegraph UK·
30 Jan, 2024 12:00 AM7 mins to read

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Child obesity in the UK is rising, with pandemic weight gain persisting in children, posing long-term health risks; addressing it requires professional help, healthy eating, and exercise, not just diets. Photo / 123rf
Child obesity in the UK is rising, with pandemic weight gain persisting in children, posing long-term health risks; addressing it requires professional help, healthy eating, and exercise, not just diets. Photo / 123rf

Child obesity in the UK is rising, with pandemic weight gain persisting in children, posing long-term health risks; addressing it requires professional help, healthy eating, and exercise, not just diets. Photo / 123rf

Child obesity is on the rise – here’s how to help them while building their self-esteem, by Anna Tyzack

As a parent, how do you handle your child’s weight? With ever-increasing awareness of the risks of eating disorders, the question about the best tactics for dealing with potentially shameful feelings around food is more urgent than ever. One in five children is now obese by the time they leave primary school and most will stay overweight as adults, increasing the risk of future ill-health.

A new study from the University of Southampton and the National Institute for Health and Care Research took data from the National Child Measurement Programme (NCMP) to examine the long-term expense of post-pandemic obesity. It found that pandemic weight gain caused by lack of activity, closed schools and sports clubs, and extra screen time has persisted in 10 to 11-year-olds. Unlike many of the rest of us, this group haven’t lost their lockdown weight and are in danger of becoming permanently obese, with a projected cost to the NHS of £800 million ($1.6b) over their lifetimes, and the cost to wider society of £8.7 billion.

It’s not just a pandemic-related problem. There are currently around 450,000 children with severe obesity in the United Kingdom, 2 million with obesity and 2 million in the overweight category. More than 60 per cent of the population as a whole is now classified as overweight. By the time our children are adults, obesity will be the leading cause of death – and yet most health professionals are convinced that dieting is not the answer.

“You need to seek professional help early on to help your child understand the relationship between their body and food,” explains Dr Ashish Kumar of the Royal College of Psychiatrist’s Faculty of Eating Disorders. “They need to eat healthily, with normal portion sizes, and they should exercise regularly. Weight loss is a question of shifting eating patterns from unhealthily to healthy, combined with physical activity.”

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If this sounds remarkably like a diet, it’s because really it is, according to Professor Paul Gately, a professor of obesity and exercise at Leeds Beckett University. While most doctors in his field refuse to use the “D” word, Gately is pragmatic: in order to lose weight, an overweight child will need to eat less. “Their energy output needs to be higher than their energy input,” he says. “It’s a fundamental principle of how you manage weight.”

Gately agrees with Kumar that this must be based on healthy, normal eating principles combined with plenty of physical activity rather than aggressive food restriction. He founded MoreLife, a weight management and health improvement programme for children and adults, which is now an NHS partner. Young people like Ella are treated by dieticians but also psychologists, therapists and fitness experts.

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“You can’t just put a child on a diet: you have to help them lose weight while raising their self-esteem,” he says. “Obesity is a very complicated issue and most parents don’t get the right support: if you go to the doctor with a child with a broken arm or asthma you immediately get referred but, if your child is obese, you can’t talk about it in case you damage your child.”

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It angers Gately that society has become so afraid of addressing the topic of weight that parents feel paralysed into doing nothing. “We want our children to talk about their feelings but not their weight, which is surely a very mixed message,” he says. “The fact is there are half a million children out there whose weight is so dangerous that if they were adults they would be eligible for surgery. We urgently need to talk about obesity.”

Given that anxiety and depression are on the rise, not just among teenagers but very young children too, along with eating disorders including anorexia and bulimia, one can understand medical professionals’ fear of diets. “I had children as young as 9 coming to me with eating disorders during lockdown – it’s heartbreaking to see,” says Kumar. There are also plenty of studies to show that restricting the food children love only encourages them to eat more of it. Research also suggests that labelling foods as “good” and “bad” can encourage disordered eating – and eating disorders – among children.

Honey Kinny Ross, the activist and plus-size model, has spoken out against the “absolutely toxic” diets her parents, Jonathan Ross and Jane Goldman, suggested to help her lose weight when she confessed to hating her body. She believes parents must not shame their children into weight loss, warning them to “keep as far away as possible” from that topic.

Christine, a mother of two girls in Wiltshire, agrees that enforced diets in childhood haunt you in later life. Her mother, who is a different build to her entirely, put her on various regimes when she stopped being skinny aged around 9: one required her to eat bran for breakfast and lunch, another banned carbohydrates including bread and pasta.

“I became a secret binge-eater,” says Christine. “At friends’ houses I’d steal food; at school I’d double up on biscuits and snacks. As an adult I struggle with my weight; I turn to food and alcohol for comfort and still, aged 42, I feel my mother’s judgement whenever I eat in front of her.”

Yet Belinda from Manchester, whose 9-year-old son, Jack, has recently been discharged from the MoreLife programme, is certain that, in the right environment, calorie control can be wholly positive for children and their parents. A team of specialists helped her make healthy changes to Jack’s diet, while also supporting his mental wellbeing, helping him to become confident enough to get involved in a multitude of activities including football, basketball and swimming.

Medical professionals emphasize the importance of addressing the issue of childhood obesity with the right professional help to prevent destructive thought patterns related to body image. Photo / 123rf
Medical professionals emphasize the importance of addressing the issue of childhood obesity with the right professional help to prevent destructive thought patterns related to body image. Photo / 123rf

“I was scared about the effects it would have on him but it was such a relief when Jack quickly started making such positive steps,” Belinda says. “He quickly realised that all the changes were for his own benefit and was therefore willing to try new things. I didn’t know what would happen when he was discharged but he’s continued to be a healthy weight and although he sometimes gets frustrated as like any child he likes to eat the sugary stuff he knows it’s better to eat it in moderation.”

Cornwall-based Steph Barton-Johnston is also convinced of the benefits of a weight-loss programme for children. She suspects she was obese as a child and yet her parents never took her to see a doctor as they were concerned it would “hurt her feelings” when she was already ashamed of her size. When, aged 16, she was finally taken by her mother to see a dietician, she had such low self-esteem that she was continually making poor choices academically and in her social life.

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“I was diagnosed with a wheat intolerance and put on a weight-loss plan – within two months I’d lost three stone and the weight continued to shed over the coming year. I wish my parents had been onto it earlier – my own daughter is only 4 but if she starts putting on too much weight I’m not going to waste a second before getting help.”

Professional help is key. Both Gately and clinical psychologist, Dr Rachel Rodgers, a specialist in body image and eating concerns, are adamant that, due to the complexities of the parent-child relationship and the numerous outside influences (advertising, social media, peer pressure) that affect a child’s sense of body image, parents shouldn’t try to help them alone.

Their advice to anyone whose child is uncomfortable with their weight is to find a specialist who will listen to their concerns; with the right help, destructive thought patterns regarding body image can be prevented. “We mustn’t stick our heads in the sand,” Gately says. “Feeling ashamed of your size is a legitimate experience – that with the right help, you can put behind you.”

- This story originally appeared in the Telegraph UK

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