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Dutch teen Noa Pothoven's story isn't about euthanasia

By Anna Bianca Roach
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12 Jun, 2019 08:39 PM6 mins to read

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Ignoring the ways the mental-health-care system failed the Dutch teenager is a mistake. Photo / Instagram.

Ignoring the ways the mental-health-care system failed the Dutch teenager is a mistake. Photo / Instagram.

Before her death on June 2, Dutch teenager Noa Pothoven was most famous in her home country for her autobiography, "Winnen of Leren" ("Winning or Learning"), and its insightful critiques of the mental-health system.

She's better known now for the supposed method of her passing: The dubious Central European News claimed that Pothoven's death was due to "legal euthanasia" and the tragic story quickly went viral, prompting a renewed debate about the right to die and whether it ought to be available to someone so young.

That debate is important but misplaced: Pothoven's story is not about euthanasia. It is about a 17-year-old girl who never found the help she needed to survive the trauma of two separate sexual assaults, and about the mental-health system that fails many other people like her.

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A 17-year-old teen, Noa Pothoven, who was a Dutch mental health activist and author; starved herself to death. While the entire debate is revolving around “did she die of euthanasia or she committed suicide?” nobody is talking about what made her so helpless that she decided to take her own life at her own home. Most people reacted to it as an act of weakness, that she should have sought some help or should have reported it. This 17-year old girl was not a coward, she spent 3 years "battling and fighting" PTSD, DEPRESSION AND, ANOREXIA after being abused at the age of 11 and raped at 14... She was constantly seeking help from everyone and everywhere possible. She was being medically treated for depression and anorexia for years but nothing helped and she "lost the will to fight". . . . #noapothoven #help #mentalhealth #seekhelp #fight #ptsd #rape #depression #eatingdisorder #anorexia #survivor #dutch #indian #noa #pothoven

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Though it took time for the record to be corrected, at this point, we know the end of Pothoven's story well. In 2018, she approached the Levenseindekliniek, an end-of-life clinic in The Hague, requesting euthanasia. Her request was denied on the basis that she was too young. This June, she died in a hospital bed in her living room.

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But there has not been nearly enough discussion about the tumultuous years preceding her death. Pothoven said she was assaulted for the first time when she was 11, and then raped by two men three years later. (She did not feel psychologically able to make formal police reports, and her alleged assailants will not be prosecuted.)

Though her caregivers did not learn about her trauma until years later, these events triggered severe symptoms of anorexia, post-traumatic stress disorder, depression and other psychiatric disorders.

"I have been in care for years," she wrote in a blog post published in a university paper. "... I am getting worse and worse." She was clear about the root of her problems being PTSD, but she only received treatment targeting her symptoms, which she found to be ineffective at best and damaging at worst.

"We actually want one place for her," her mother told the Dutch newspaper Algemeen Dagblad, "where she can stay and where all her physical and mental problems are addressed."

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But those institutions had months-long waiting lists. Instead, Pothoven was treated as an inpatient between 20 and 33 times, sometimes involuntarily, in as many as 23 institutions.

She was held in isolation for months against her will - an experience she repeatedly described as humiliating.

She was also placed in an institution normally reserved for people with "serious behavioral issues," often people who have been committed for being aggressive or violent, explained Dutch activist Pieke Roelofs, who also echoed the mistreatment of inpatients held in isolation.

Pothoven, Roelofs and Peer Van der Helm, a lecturer and psychologist who worked with her over four months, noted that being housed with potentially violent boys risks retraumatizing people who have experienced sexual violence. "My eating disorder likes it here," Pothoven wrote in her memoir.

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Then the flowers turned red And the shadows grew tall . #noapothoven #noalives

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Freedom wasn't always a better alternative: Institutions that focused on one of her symptoms often ignored or exacerbated others. Pothoven mentioned that anorexia treatment was ended as soon as she hit a target weight, but she was given no additional resources to address the underlying problems that fueled her distorted relationship with food. Another facility where she was admitted after suicide attempts prevented Pothoven from harming herself but failed to treat her anorexia and PTSD.

Not only were the institutions themselves unhelpful: Many of the staff were as well. After asking for help over the intercom after having harmed herself, one caregiver told her they "don't have time for [her] nonsense."

Before she went public about her experience with rape, another caregiver told her she had "no right" to be so troublesome - "you have not been raped or something."

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“Colpisce tanta determinazione, così mal riposta”. “Se lei ha davvero vinto la sua battaglia, noi abbiamo perso la nostra”. Sono alcuni dei passaggi dell’articolo che uno dei principali quotidiani italiani ha dedicato sulla sua edizione cartacea alla vicenda di Noa Pothoven, diciassettenne olandese morta domenica dopo aver smesso di mangiare e bere. Con qualche giorno di ritardo la sua tragica storia è diventata il centro del dibattito nel nostro Paese. Con tante, troppe storture. Ieri quasi tutti gli articoli sulla storia della giovane sostenevano come si trattasse di un caso (choc) di eutanasia. E ci spiegavano che in Olanda può essere concessa dai 12 anni in su, dietro la certificazione di un medico e (fino ai 16 anni) dei genitori. Motivo ritenuto sufficiente da alcuni per condurre una battaglia di civiltà, contro “quell’Europa che ha smesso di difendere la vita” (cit. Giorgia Meloni). Peccato che le cose non siano andate proprio così. Sappiamo distinguere tra suicidio ed eutanasia? @marcocappato ci spiega perché è tutto sbagliato e strumentale. LINK NELLE STORIES #noapothoven #eutanasia #rollingstone #rollingstoneitalia

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Although the details of Pothoven's death are unusual, her story, unfortunately, is not. Roelofs, who has extensively navigated the Dutch mental-health system, highlighted how common it was for inpatients to be discharged too soon.

Van der Helm estimated that the decentralized Dutch health-care system has overlooked "250 Noas." And the issues Pothoven faced in institutions, including a lack of trauma-informed care and a consistent invalidation of the effects of sexual violence, are not particular to the Netherlands.

In the United States, the number of people suffering from serious mental-health issues has skyrocketed since 2009. The suicide rate for teens ages to 17 shot up by more than 60 percent between 2009 and 2017, and there have been sharper increases among girls than boys.

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Last year New Zealand's annual provisional suicide number was once again the highest since records began, rising for the fourth consecutive year to a record 668 deaths.

New Zealand's suicide rate – the number of suicides per 100,000 population - is now over 13 for the first time. It has been recorded as 13.67, up from 12.64.

Yet access to mental-health support remains expensive and inaccessible. Like the Netherlands, the United States lacks beds in psychiatric institutions that provide more comprehensive care, a change driven by the deinstitutionalization efforts that began in the 1950s and 1960s. The community health centers that were meant to be alternatives are dramatically underfunded.

Pothoven was a precocious and talented writer who tirelessly advocated for herself and others in similar positions. A report by an unreliable news source turned her life into a story about euthanasia.

Instead, her legacy ought to be a robust conversation about the mental-health systems that fail young people, women and all those who have experienced sexual assault.

Ending euthanasia couldn't have saved Noa Pothoven. Improving mental-health care might prevent another tragedy.

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WHERE TO GET HELP:

If you are worried about your or someone else's mental health, the best place to get help is your GP or local mental health provider. However, if you or someone else is in danger or endangering others, call 111.

If you need to talk to someone, the following free helplines operate 24/7:

DEPRESSION HELPLINE: 0800 111 757
LIFELINE: 0800 543 354
NEED TO TALK? Call or text 1737
SAMARITANS: 0800 726 666
YOUTHLINE: 0800 376 633 or text 234

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