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Trump's chief of staff, whose son died in combat, defends president's call to Gold Star widow

By Anne Gearan, Philip Rucker, John Wagner
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19 Oct, 2017 10:22 PM5 mins to read

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Donald Trump claims that no President has ever called the families of fallen troops. Source: Fox News

White House chief of staff John Kelly said yesterday that US President Donald Trump "bravely" called families of four fallen soldiers, lending his credibility as a retired four-star general and the experience of losing his son in battle in defense of a president accused of politicising tragedy.

Kelly told reporters in the White House briefing room that he counseled Trump on what to say to families of those killed on the battlefield. He also said "it stuns me" that Democratic Frederica Wilson listened in on a call, which was heard on speakerphone, between Trump and the widow of Sgt. La David T. Johnson, who was killed in an ambush in Niger.

Kelly confirmed Trump's claim that then President Barack Obama had not called his family when his son, 1st Lt. Robert M. Kelly, was killed in Afghanistan seven years ago. But Kelly said he did not fault the former president for that choice. Kelly added that he had recommended to Trump that he not make such calls.

"I said to him, 'Sir, there's nothing you can do to lighten the burden on these families,' " Kelly said.

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Kelly's voice grew thin at points during an extraordinary and emotional briefing called as questions about Trump's handling of the Niger deaths and other military losses swamped the White House this week.

Kelly did not bring up - nor was he asked - how he felt about Trump thrusting his son's death into the political debate this week.

Trump had been asked Monday about his uncharacteristic silence following the deaths of four Special Forces soldiers on October 4. Trump responded, in part, by saying that Obama and other predecessors had not called each family as he claimed he does. Trump invoked Kelly on Tuesday, saying "you could ask Gen. Kelly" whether Obama had called him when Robert died.

Kelly, one of several former military men Trump has brought into his administration, angrily called the actions of Wilson "selfish" and shocking.

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Myeshia Johnson cries over the casket iof her husband, Sgt. La David Johnson, who was killed in an ambush in Niger. Photo / AP
Myeshia Johnson cries over the casket iof her husband, Sgt. La David Johnson, who was killed in an ambush in Niger. Photo / AP

The congresswoman spoke "in the long tradition of empty barrels making the most noise," Kelly said.

Wilson, a family friend of the fallen soldier, had criticised Trump's tone and choice of words in a call he made Tuesday to widow Myeshia Johnson.

In media interviews and on Twitter, Wilson said the president had been callous in telling Myeshia Johnson that her husband "must have known what he signed up for."

Trump denied saying that, and accused the lawmaker of trying to score political points.

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Kelly, who was listening in on the call, did not dispute or directly address the substance of Trump's remarks to Johnson, but said the president had done a hard job well.

"He elected to make phone calls in the case of four young men who were lost in Niger. . . . Then he said, 'How do you make these calls? If you're not in the family, if you've never worn a uniform, you've been in combat, you can't even imagine how to make that call. But he very bravely does make those calls."

Kelly recalled how a friend told him after his son died that "he was doing exactly what he wanted to do when he was killed. He knew what he was getting into."

It was Trump's use of a similar phrase this week, made public by Wilson, that triggered a backlash in the media.

Trump had said Wednesday that the lawmaker's account was "totally fabricated".

"John Kelly's trying to keep his job," Wilson told Politico yesterday. "He will say anything. There were other people who heard what I heard."

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Kelly, who became the highest-ranking military official to lose a child in Iraq or Afghanistan, watched both his sons follow him into the Marine Corps. When Robert died after stepping on a land mine in southern Afghanistan in 2010, Kelly and his sons had participated in 11 combat tours in Iraq and Afghanistan combined.

Sgt. La David Johnson, who was killed in an ambush in Niger. Photo / US Army Special Operations Command
Sgt. La David Johnson, who was killed in an ambush in Niger. Photo / US Army Special Operations Command

Kelly noted yesterday that his surviving son is currently serving in Iraq. He has been private about Robert's death, even though both his and his sons' military service clearly informs his thinking on White House foreign policy and national security decisions, several White House officials said.

"In my case, hours after my son was killed, his friends were calling us from Afghanistan, telling us what a great guy he was. Those are the only phones calls that really matter," Kelly said.

"If you elect to call a family like this - and it's about the most difficult thing you could imagine - there's no perfect way to make that phone call."

Kelly said he had taken a 90-mionute walk among the graves at Arlington National Cemetery to clear his head on Wednesday morning, when Wilson's claims and Trump's rebuttal dominated news coverage.

The intervention puts Trump's remarks during the call - which have been condemned as callous by critics - in a different light.

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However it does not explain why Trump said Obama never made calls to relatives of soldiers killed in battle - the claim that kick-started the row and proved false.

Nor does it address the fact that the mother of the fallen soldier, called La David Johnson, also said Trump has showed "disrespect" in the call.

- with the Daily Telegraph

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