A widower who successfully lobbied for parental leave payout turned down the money and has now left town as he is struggling emotionally in the wake of his partner's death.

Rangiora dad Keith Falconer shared his story with NZME last month hoping to highlight a gap in the law after he was denied paid parental leave because his late partner was not working during the 12 months before her death.

After the story was published Workplace Relations Minister Iain Lees-Galloway said the Government would award Falconer an ex gratia payment of the equivalent amount to the paid leave he had missed out on.

Read more: Widower Keith Falconer sparks Government intervention after being denied paid parental leave

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Falconer refused the payment, saying he spoke out to draw attention to an injustice and did not want the money.

He told the Herald today that he had not received any help, was struggling to cope and had felt suicidal.

Falconer said he had left Christchurch while his son was still in the hospital, a decision he said was "stupid" but was a reaction to the stressful situation.

"Every day I think about my son and what has happened it makes me very sick every day. Did I take on to much," he said in an email.

"Who knows, have there been mistakes made while handling this situation - yes "

The baby boy, who was born by emergency caesarean at 33 weeks after his mother's heart stopped beating, is now being looked after by a family member of his late mother, Joanne Manera, Stuff reports.

Manera is also looking after the child's two half siblings, who are not Falconer's biological children.

Falconer earlier told Newstalk ZB his partner planned to be a stay-at-home mum, and didn't have a job in the 12 months leading up to the expected date of delivery so she wasn't entitled to paid parental leave, according to the Ministry for Business, Employment and Innovation.

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He had been supporting his family, including his late partner's two other children, by working but that was no longer a sustainable option after her death.

His employer and colleagues had been very supportive, he said.

Lees-Galloway said the case had exposed a gap in the legislation.

"More immediately I'm very pleased to say that we have found a solution for this particular gentleman and his family.

"[The Ministry of Business, Innovation and Employment] will make an ex gratia payment to him to the equivalent amount that he would have received under paid parental leave."

Lees-Galloway said this was the first time this had happened.

Prime Minister Jacinda Ardern said she was so concerned about the case that she personally read through the legislation that morning.

"I think everyone wants to see that support in place and I have to say I was baffled when I read it," she told reporters at Parliament.

"No one would agree that this is a good outcome."

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