"We felt the judge's comment about the offender's smart looking [appearance] was out of place. We were concerned when we read them. We hope that we will be represented well in the court."
Officials also confirmed for the first time yesterday that the girl had lost some of her teeth in the attack.
The December 21 incident at a Turangi campsite led to an outpouring of national shame.
Sensible Sentencing Trust spokesman Garth McVicar said New Zealand had been "disgusted" by the case. "The outpouring of donations and shame reflects how New Zealanders are feeling and the judge has got it wrong."
Judge Munro's comments provoked widespread concern on internet forums and social networking sites.
The little girl had to undergo four hours of surgery at Waikato Hospital. The surgeon who performed facial reconstruction surgery on her was disturbed by her injuries.
A trust fund set up for the girl has risen to $61,000.
The alleged attacker indicated through his lawyer, Katherine Ewen, that he would plead guilty to charges of burglary and sexual violation by rape, as well as a third charge of aggravated wounding that was amended to causing grievous bodily harm.
The family again thanked the New Zealand public who continue "to send us prayers and messages".
"They have also apologised on behalf of the country those hundreds of apologies have humbled us but there is one apology we have yet to hear."
They said they would not be in court when the 16-year-old reappeared in Taupo Youth Court on Wednesday.
"Our daughter still requires help and we have placed our trust in the experts at Waikato Hospital. Nevertheless, we want the court to consider the seriousness of the case and produce a ruling accordingly."
The accused's mother has said that he had been portrayed as a monster by the media and angry locals had abused her family.