Cyberbullying: Fern coped by talking to her friends

Silver Ferns shooter Cathrine Tuivaiti (nee Latu) has been cyberbullied because she was bigger than most netball players - and that used to hurt.

But having a surer sense of who she was made it easier to deal with other people's criticism, she said.

"It still gets to me but I know myself more now. Talking to my partner and my friends [helps]."

Although she was quick to stand up for herself and others, Tuivaiti said she remembered there were always younger people watching and learning from her actions.

"Fighting fire with fire never helps anyone and it doesn't make you feel better either," she said. "I'm never malicious because I always know someone's watching. I want [young people] to see about being strong, not about being nasty."

The netballer, who is 1.9m tall, lost 15kg in 2013 but said at the time it wasn't because of what people said.

Talking about how she felt about bullying with family and friends was key.

"I don't think saying ignore it is a realistic message," she said.

"The more we say we don't care, the more it gets us when we're alone."

When a fellow athlete, Warriors winger Manu Vatuvei, was attacked on social media after an energy drinks and prescription pills scandal last month, Tuivaiti came to his defence.

"When I saw Manu taking all this ... my heart really went out to him.

"I saw this man who had given his life to league for our country.

"For him to make a mistake, that let's be honest, a lot of people have made in their life, I felt that he didn't deserve that."

As well as receiving hateful messages on social media, Vatuvei's children were also subject to schoolyard bullying.

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