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People reveal the secrets they never share on a first date

By Latoya Gayle
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3 Jun, 2018 02:36 AMQuick Read

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One woman struggled with when to raise the issue of infertility. Photo / Whisper

One woman struggled with when to raise the issue of infertility. Photo / Whisper

Everyone holds back to a certain degree while testing the waters with a new potential love interest on a first date, but some are keeping bigger secrets than others.

People from around the world have taken to the anonymous secret sharing app Whisper to share the truths about themselves they don't dare reveal when they first meet someone they like.

One woman said that she wants to be honest, but is constantly torn over discussing her infertility, while another doesn't like to admit she's visually impaired.

Another said they don't reveal how rich they are until a few dates in and often choose a budget venue for the meeting to check the other person isn't superficial.

From past history with drugs to a previous job as a stripper, these are the kind of secrets your next first date could be harbouring.

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One woman struggled with when to raise the issue of infertility. Photo / Whisper
One woman struggled with when to raise the issue of infertility. Photo / Whisper
Another individual stated they were immediately turned off from pursuing anyone who wants to discuss sex on a first date. Photo / Whisper
Another individual stated they were immediately turned off from pursuing anyone who wants to discuss sex on a first date. Photo / Whisper
One woman revealed she tested men for a month before revealing her background of working as a stripper. Photo / Whisper
One woman revealed she tested men for a month before revealing her background of working as a stripper. Photo / Whisper
Another individual who feared how they would be perceived, confessed they avoided sharing information about their drug history. Photo / Whisper
Another individual who feared how they would be perceived, confessed they avoided sharing information about their drug history. Photo / Whisper
One woman withheld discussing her visual impairment until she reached a second date. Photo / Whisper
One woman withheld discussing her visual impairment until she reached a second date. Photo / Whisper
A wealthy man claimed he tested the intentions of his dates by keeping his income a secret until the relationship progressed. Photo / Whisper
A wealthy man claimed he tested the intentions of his dates by keeping his income a secret until the relationship progressed. Photo / Whisper
One person who was embarrassed by their living arrangements revealed they would rather lie than share the truth on a first date. Photo / Whisper
One person who was embarrassed by their living arrangements revealed they would rather lie than share the truth on a first date. Photo / Whisper
Another individual who was reluctant to share personal information, claimed the fear of being kidnapped made them hide details of their career. Photo / Whisper
Another individual who was reluctant to share personal information, claimed the fear of being kidnapped made them hide details of their career. Photo / Whisper
To avoid being judged in the early stages of getting to know someone, one man hid the fact he has children. Photo / Whisper
To avoid being judged in the early stages of getting to know someone, one man hid the fact he has children. Photo / Whisper
A self-proclaimed Disney addict feared possible partners would be put off by their obsession. Photo / Whisper
A self-proclaimed Disney addict feared possible partners would be put off by their obsession. Photo / Whisper
One person confessed they avoid discussing their battles with depression until they know their date more. Photo / Whisper
One person confessed they avoid discussing their battles with depression until they know their date more. Photo / Whisper
Another individual was convinced they wouldn't be offered even a first date if people knew they had dyslexia. Photo / Whisper
Another individual was convinced they wouldn't be offered even a first date if people knew they had dyslexia. Photo / Whisper
An embarrassed person revealed they always lied about their disability on first dates. Photo / Whisper
An embarrassed person revealed they always lied about their disability on first dates. Photo / Whisper
A substance user withheld information about smoking to avoid potential partners being turned off or wanting to smoke straight away. Photo / Whisper
A substance user withheld information about smoking to avoid potential partners being turned off or wanting to smoke straight away. Photo / Whisper
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