Whilst the partner who is struggling with depression needs support more than ever - sometimes they will lash out at those closest to them, whilst others withdraw into sadness and lack of motivation. Some will self medicate with alcohol or drugs. Simply put, the person you love will not be himself or herself and the symptoms will be putting a huge handbrake on the quality of your life together.
The challenge is that as well as dealing with so many behaviours which make communicating feel impossible, the single most important thing that can be done by you is to keep communicating. Helping your partner to accept that there is no shame or stigma in seeking help will be one of the major and all-important steps.
Talk to your partner about your concerns and remind him of the genuine reasons you love him. Offer to accompany him to a health practitioner if he would like you to - and support him in considering the treatment he feels most comfortable with. Depression can be a chemical imbalance in the brain, which is why it can sometimes take anti-depressants to rectify it. Whilst this treatment might be vital for some, is not for everyone. There are also wide ranges of natural remedies that can help relieve symptoms. A combination of treatment and counselling which helps identify triggers has been found to be especially helpful.
The World Health Organisation has described clinical depression as the fourth leading cause of death and disability in the western world. Leading edge research has developed treatments which can alleviate depression and restore the sufferer back to wellbeing.
To promote health in our own communities we each need to do our part to remove any stigma from such a very common condition, which, left untreated, can cause so much pain and heartache for all involved.
Remember that depression is a treatable illness and not a life sentence. It will pass.
As well as finding out information and giving your partner your love and support, don't forget to nurture yourself with your own supports and information.
Despite the stress of it all, the newly opened lines of communication between you both when depression is identified can go on to create a deeper and more meaningful relationship. A reminder to you both that blue skies can sit just above those passing grey mountainous clouds.
If you or someone you know needs help with deperession contact the Depression Helpline on 0800111757 or visit www.depression.org.nz.
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