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Lee Suckling: Is life easier for hot people?

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Lee Suckling is a Lifestyle columnist for the NZ Herald.·Herald online·
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Do the likes of Sofia Vergara and Joe Manganiello have it easy because of their looks? Photo / Getty

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Lee Suckling
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Lee Suckling is a Lifestyle columnist for the NZ Herald.
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I'm going to say something nobody is ever supposed to say out loud. I am good-looking.

You're already shocked that I've said it, I know. I already feel like a right tosser for putting it out there.

So let's clarify. I'm definitely not in love with myself. There are countless things about my appearance I don't like. I constantly see people I think are better looking than me.

But I'm not completely blind. I don't look in the mirror and hate my face, nor do I believe the people who have told me I'm good-looking throughout my life have been lying.

I'm also of the belief that rudimentary human attractiveness isn't that subjective. According to numerous studies, men with big jaws, broad chins, and strong eyebrows are perceived to be handsome in most cultures, while the same goes for women with high cheekbones, full lips, big eyes, and a thin chin. And for both sexes, facial symmetry is key.

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Physically, my face ticks all of the boxes from the male category, hence my declaration (which I'm sure is being read by many as an expression of vanity).

However, I've also been told unwarranted, "life must be so easy with a face like that" several times, which has led me to question whether that's really true.

Many studies have, of course, indicated favouritism for attractive people over unattractive people.

The most recent study on attractiveness - released last month by a neuroscientist at University College London - claims that you're more likely to laugh at good-looking people's jokes, regardless of the quality of those witty (or not so witty) one-liners.

People laughing at your jokes is somewhat trivial when attempting to define what comprises an easy life. If we look to examples that might explain how life could be easier for good-looking people, research by the University of Colorado Boulder is a good place to start - two of its studies have found that beautiful people are not only perceived as being healthier, they actually live healthier lives and are presumably less susceptible to illnesses.

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The American Psychological Association theorises that it's easier for good-looking people to find mates (again, because attractiveness signals youth, health, and, naturally, reproductive strength), while the University of Mexico has found general intelligence to be linked to facial and body symmetry - traits that prevail in defining uniformly-agreed attractiveness.

Even good-looking school kids are supposed to be better off, according to the University of North Carolina. Teachers apparently judge them to be smarter and more competent, and such is reflected in the marks they are given.

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In terms of making work easier, a study by Cornell University found there is a pay gap between attractive people and unattractive people - and it's nearly 15 per cent. However, there's a catch. This is only relevant to good-looking men.

While attractive men are thought to be good leaders at work, German researchers published a theory in the journal Zeitschrift für Psychologie exclaiming that implicit sexist prejudices can harm good-looking women in the workplace, namely when seeking in high-level jobs (their competence is undermined by their beauty, researchers said).

Conversely, the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology claims it's not all good news for men. Apparently, if you're interviewed for a job by another male and he believes you're better looking than he is, he is less likely to hire you.

Because good-looking men are also supposed to be in better health than everybody else, doctors apparently take less care when treating them for pain, according to a BBC report.

I'm not going to claim these issues have ever been relevant to me, nor am I going to try and disprove that I've not been afforded more opportunities in life from being attractive. Though I can't quantify or qualify them, I'm sure I have.

I can't say my life is easy, but then again, I've never lived somebody else's life. I don't know what the gauge for "easy" is.

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To me, it's all circumstantial, and it's all relative. Everybody's life seems to be hard at times - no matter what they look like - owing to not only how others treat them, but also how people treat themselves.

Writing this, I can surmise the comments that it will provoke. "Get over yourself", they'll say. "You're not even that good-looking".

Which is true. I'm not a Brad Pitt or a Henry Cavill or a Joe Manganiello. And that's the point: No matter what you look like, there's always going to be somebody more attractive. There's always going to be someone better off than you; always somebody whose life you think is easier.

When people tell me I'm good-looking, I take it with a grain of salt. It's the same as saying, "You have a lovely home" or "You're incredibly good at your job" - things you'd never reply to with the affirmation "I know".

You simply say thank you, get a bit embarrassed, and move on. Because no matter what the studies find, I can honestly say being good-looking doesn't really matter to me in the grand scheme of things.

However, maybe in the same way rich people proclaim money doesn't matter (which they really can only say because they have it), I'll admit that's likely because - through the blessing of genetics - I'm not able to look at it from the other side.

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I suppose, then, I should just enjoy it while I still have it.

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