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Why do you think the men's fragrance area at any high-end store is hidden in a corner? Photo / 123RF

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The problem with gender and perfume

9 Sep, 2019 7:00am
4 minutes to read

Why is all perfume okay for women, while only some is appropriate for men?

Lee Suckling: How to invite a friend over in a safe, polite, and non-creepy way. Photo / Getty Images

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Lee Suckling: The etiquette of threesomes

6 Sep, 2019 11:00am
5 minutes to read

Lee Suckling: How to invite a friend over in a safe, polite, and non-creepy way.

There are still many people around the world - and indeed 71 international governments - that believe homosexuality is not normal, but a deviance. Photo / Getty Images

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How the 'gay gene' revelation makes me feel

30 Aug, 2019 1:00pm
4 minutes to read

As a gay man, the headlines going around the world today make my heart sink.

If you're going to vape in bed, you must - I repeat, must - be willing to share. Photo / Getty Images

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What you need to know about vaping after sex

28 Aug, 2019 7:00am
4 minutes to read

And a warning to those who like to vape during sex, writes Lee Suckling.

If we retain some of our own finances, we each keep a sense of dignity. Photo / 123rf

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Why millennial couples don't share their money

26 Aug, 2019 7:00am
4 minutes to read

Lee Suckling explains why sharing bank accounts is avoided by young couples.

Even a vegan diet could spell disaster between the sheets, and not just because plant-based diets tend to make you very gassy. Photo / 123RF

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How Keto and plant-based diets affect your sex life

21 Aug, 2019 7:22am
4 minutes to read

The Sex Files: Lee Suckling explores how what you eat impacts your libido.

Asexuality is not something that needs fixing, just as

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The secret lives of people who don't like sex

14 Aug, 2019 10:00am
5 minutes to read

Society is obsessed with sex, but this doesn't apply to everyone.

Many guys have been left to believe their bodies are like self-cleaning ovens and they don't need to pay much attention to them before or after sex. Photo / Getty Images

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Lee Suckling: What you need to know about sexual hygiene

7 Aug, 2019 8:06am
5 minutes to read

Lee Suckling explains an important consideration often overlooked, especially by men.

I knew from four or five years old that society hated gays. Nobody ever told us it was okay to be gay. Photo / Getty Images

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I still live with gay shame in New Zealand

5 Aug, 2019 7:00am
5 minutes to read

Lee Suckling: This is the way gay shame works.

Are you trying to figure out a part of your own personality in your conscious life? Photo / Getty Images

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Lee Suckling: What sexual dreams really mean

31 Jul, 2019 7:00am
5 minutes to read

The Sex Files: The sexual subconscious knows no limits. Lee Suckling explains.

Niksen is about doing nothing. It's sitting in a chair and looking out a window. Or lying on the grass and musing the shapes of the clouds. Photo / Getty Images

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Is this the answer to millennial burnout?

29 Jul, 2019 7:22am
4 minutes to read

You may remember "hygge". Is this 2019's version?

One-night stands are synonymous with inebriation, but they shouldn't be. Photo / Getty Images

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Five vital elements for a perfect one-night stand

24 Jul, 2019 7:00am
4 minutes to read

Casual sex should be two things: fun and safe. Lee Suckling explains.

Much of our culture revolves around alcoholic beverages. Photo / Getty Images

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What you're missing when it comes to non-alcoholic beer

22 Jul, 2019 7:00am
4 minutes to read

Why alcohol-free beer isn't a sad version of the real thing, according to Lee Suckling.

Music has neuro-psychological effects on us and our sexual experiences. Photo / Getty Images

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Survey reveals couples' unusual use of Apple AirPods

16 Jul, 2019 1:06pm
4 minutes to read

And why, according to Lee Suckling, every couple needs a mixtape of music for the bedroom.

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Porn blamed for dangerous trend among young people

10 Jul, 2019 7:00am
4 minutes to read

The Sex Files: Lee Suckling discusses alarming trend growing popular among young people.

Swinging is sometimes called partner swapping, and it's exclusively sexual and limited in duration. Photo / Getty Images

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Lee Suckling: The life of a modern swinger

3 Jul, 2019 7:00am
4 minutes to read

There's something terribly 70s about swinging. Lee Suckling considers modern alternatives.

Being short is like being red-headed: it's one of the few societally-accepted reasons people can be taken down by others for laughs, and nobody pulls you up on it. Image / Getty Images

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Why is it still okay to belittle short men?

1 Jul, 2019 8:00am
4 minutes to read

Fat-shaming and other forms of bigotry are not okay yet short men are still targeted.

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The Sex Files: Are you failing your kids in sex education?

26 Jun, 2019 8:52am
4 minutes to read

And is what they're learning online accurate and cognisant with modern ideals of consent?

A BDSM experience isn't actually called a sexual encounter. It's referred to as a

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The sex 'scene' that most appeals in your 40s

19 Jun, 2019 8:35am
5 minutes to read

There are several things an E.L. James novel won't teach you, writes Lee Suckling.

How has something so technologically forward-thinking fallen into this trap? Photo / Getty Images

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The big problem with Alexa, Siri and Cortana

17 Jun, 2019 7:14am
5 minutes to read

How has something so technologically forward-thinking fallen into this trap?

An often-cited study represents the illogical notion that men's pleasure is what's important in defining

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Men versus women: major discrepancy in what constitutes good sex

12 Jun, 2019 8:11am
4 minutes to read

What's "too long" for men isn't long enough for women, according to a study.

Go to any beach in Europe and everyone speaks a different language and has a different perspective on life. It's refreshing and helps you learn and grow. Photo / Getty Images

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Why Europeans do summer better than Kiwis

10 Jun, 2019 9:00am
4 minutes to read

Summer in Europe is in full swing. Here's why it's better than the sunny season at home.

Stigma exists about bisexuality and the only thing that will make wider society understand it more is if we see it like any other normal sexuality. Photo / Getty Images

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A cocktail party and an unexpected proposition

5 Jun, 2019 9:00am
5 minutes to read

Lee Suckling shares his advice for those who might have taken up the offer.

I had to suck it up, eventually quit the job, lie about the reasons I was leaving, and then pretend nothing was wrong so I could still get a good reference. Image / Getty Images

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Lee Suckling: What to do if you're being bullied at work

3 Jun, 2019 7:00am
5 minutes to read

Victims are often left to wonder, "Am I being bullied, or is it all in my head?"

When we're cold, we crave closeness and warmth. Photo / Getty Images.

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Why we should have more sex in winter

29 May, 2019 7:00am
3 minutes to read

According to research, we're programmed to want to have more sex in winter.

Males have a physical ease in tight public spaces where many people are forced together, whereas females do not have that luxury. Photo / Getty Images

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Lee Suckling: Why I'm giving women more space

27 May, 2019 10:50am
5 minutes to read

If I'm walking after dark and I see a woman up ahead, I will be the one to cross the road.

Close gay-straight friendships between men never used to be very common. Photo / Getty Images

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Why gay-straight male friendships are the best kind

22 May, 2019 7:23am
5 minutes to read

The Sex Files: Lee Suckling on the positive impact of our culture's changing masculinity.

One of the first things you do after work or a night out with friends is probably sit straight on your bed, fully clothed. Photo / Getty Images

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Public transport: How much dirt are you taking home with you?

20 May, 2019 7:21am
3 minutes to read

Think about how many people sit on each seat on a bus or train each day. Fifty? 100?

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The Sex Files: Can sex be considered exercise?

15 May, 2019 7:00am
3 minutes to read

Does sex really burn calories? Lee Suckling investigates.

Abandoning social media has helped in my quest to understand which voices I should listen to, writes Lee Suckling. Image / Getty Images

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The benefit of being less connected to people

13 May, 2019 9:27am
5 minutes to read

Lee Suckling shares a 'genius little nugget' about all voices being considered equal.

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Lee Suckling: Understanding voyeurism at its most sinister

8 May, 2019 8:08am
5 minutes to read

Lee Suckling discusses a voyeuristic "phenomenon" he's been a victim of - twice.

If you have had a few too many over the warmer months, winter could be a great opportunity to reset. Photo / Getty Images

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Why winter is the perfect time to stop getting drunk

6 May, 2019 8:35am
4 minutes to read

Reset your body and mind during the colder months, says Lee Suckling.

Generally men don't need to carry around a notebook for coverage, but it still happens. Photo / Getty Images

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The puberty hangover that still catches men out

1 May, 2019 7:24am
3 minutes to read

Generally men don't need to carry around a notebook for coverage, but it still happens.

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Lee Suckling: 15 lessons from my Instagram experiment

29 Apr, 2019 7:00am
4 minutes to read

After a year gaining thousands of followers, Lee Suckling deleted his account.

When I married into the Army, I made my bed, and I have to lie in it. Which is exactly what I'll be doing until 10am tomorrow. Photo / Getty Images

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Anzac Day: The people who should sleep in tomorrow

24 Apr, 2019 7:16am
4 minutes to read

Husband to an army officer, Lee Suckling reveals the reality of being married to military.

Ever felt obliged to sleep with someone because they fronted the bill? Photo / Getty Images

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Have you been 'paid' for sex without realising?

22 Apr, 2019 7:00am
4 minutes to read

Have you ever felt obliged to sleep with someone after they've paid for you on a date?

In Australasia, the UK, and Europe, the rhetoric around circumcision veers closer to the

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Lee Suckling: Whose decision is circumcision?

17 Apr, 2019 7:00am
4 minutes to read

Once deemed a necessary health procedure, Lee Suckling explains today's views.

What really constitutes sleeping with someone else? Photo / Getty Images

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Reconsidering what constitutes 'having sex'

8 Apr, 2019 7:00am
4 minutes to read

Lee Suckling answers the question many people ponder when they begin seeing somebody new.

Exclusively stating the race you are sexually attracted to can be a form of racism, writes Lee Suckling. Photo / Getty Images

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Tinder, Grindr and the racism in 'sexual preference'

3 Apr, 2019 7:00am
4 minutes to read

In the Tinder and Grindr age, daters have taken "preference" to a whole new level.

If I see you on the street in heels – particularly classic stilettos – forgive me if I applaud. Photo / Getty Images

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Lee Suckling: Diary of a man in heels

1 Apr, 2019 9:05am
5 minutes to read

Lee Suckling dons a pair of red high heels for the day. And learns a valuable lesson.

Instead of making time for sex with our spouses, are we using Netflix as an alternate reality to distract ourselves from our

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Does it matter if you choose Netflix over sex?

27 Mar, 2019 7:00am
4 minutes to read

Lee Suckling on what it really means if you'd prefer another episode of Riverdale tonight.

Should the results of a DNA test change anything about you? Photo / Getty Images

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Why my DNA test left me shocked

25 Mar, 2019 8:13am
4 minutes to read

Lee Suckling's Christmas gift has left him questioning what he really knows about himself.

While Botox has traditionally been used to fight ageing, this millennial cohort aren't trying to look like teenagers. Photo / Getty Images

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Why are millennials filling their faces with plastic?

18 Mar, 2019 8:21am
4 minutes to read

It's common to see young influencers posting about Botox. Lee Suckling finds out why.

Tattoos are so normalised now that people jump into them without enough thought. Getting inked is so

LIFESTYLE

Kiwi ink: Are we a nation of bad tattoos?

13 Mar, 2019 7:00am
4 minutes to read

You can't go to a gym, a bar, or a beach in New Zealand without seeing a deluge of ink.

In the modern age of internet dating, nude selfies have become a modern courting device. Photo / Getty Images

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The Sex Files: Why do people take nude selfies?

6 Mar, 2019 7:00am
4 minutes to read

We know people take them, but we never admit to taking our own. So why do we do it?

Wanting to save money, but also buy a home? Why not go small? Photo / Getty Images

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How to make the most of living in a small house

4 Mar, 2019 9:22am
4 minutes to read

Thinking of buying, but want to save cash long term? Why not go small?

What package couples represent is a loss of independence by two people. Photo / Getty Images

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Have you become part of a 'package couple'?

27 Feb, 2019 7:00am
3 minutes to read

When was the last time you had a night out, without your partner?

You may be the type who likes to use their words in the bedroom. But certain phrases must be avoided if you want to continue a healthy sexual relationship. Photo / Getty Images

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Ten things you should never say during sex

20 Feb, 2019 7:00am
4 minutes to read

Think during sex is the right time to say "I love you"? Think again.

Aziz Al-Sa'afin was attacked in a homophobic hate crime on Auckland's Karangahape Rd. Photo / Newshub

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Homophobic attack on K'Rd: Sickening, not surprising

12 Feb, 2019 1:50pm
4 minutes to read

Lee Suckling: Sickened but not surprised by Kiwi reporter bashed in hate crime.

Buying sushi and muffins become so much more convenient than making a salad at home before work. But they'll hurt your health and your wallet. Photo / Getty Images

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How to boost your health while spending less

11 Feb, 2019 8:04am
4 minutes to read

Have your health-based resolutions taken a slide since January?

There's a chance you'll bump into somebody you've had anonymous sex with at a later date. It's New Zealand after all – we're still one big little town, really. Photo / Getty Images

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The unspoken rules of anonymous sex in New Zealand

6 Feb, 2019 7:00am
4 minutes to read

The Sex Files: Anonymous sex is easier than ever. Lee Suckling outlines the rules.

Many households don't tell their kids anything about incoming and outgoing finances, yet it's a private pressure that quietly simmers amongst most Kiwi families. Photo / Getty Images

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How to teach your teenager about money

4 Feb, 2019 8:11am
4 minutes to read

As Kiwi teenagers go back to the classroom, consider what they won't learn in school.

The reality is, for the person on the other end of the smartphone, conversing with you might just be fun and games, or something to pass the time because they're lonely or isolated. Photo / Getty Images

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Are your Instagram habits ruining your sex life?

30 Jan, 2019 7:00am
4 minutes to read

It's not just Instagram's effect on how you feel about your body, writes Lee Suckling.

Festival season is upon us and it's important to be prepared. Photo / Getty Images

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Lee Suckling: Are music festivals unsafe?

28 Jan, 2019 7:00am
4 minutes to read

The Laneway Festival hits Auckland today, here's how to keep your wits about you.

Not only are people less tired during the summertime, they also generally eat healthier, do more exercise, and are more sociable. Photo / Getty Images

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Lee Suckling: Why people have more sex in summer

23 Jan, 2019 8:10am
3 minutes to read

The Sex Files: Your sex drive does actually increase during the summer months. Here's why.

Struggling to save? These tips might help. Photo / Getty Images

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How to recover from your holiday finances hangover

21 Jan, 2019 7:31am
4 minutes to read

The holiday season is done and dusted. Now it's time for the financial hangover.

Physically being in a new place helps you escape wherever you came from, which can be good for intimacy and creating a sexual spark. Photo / Getty Images

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Lee Suckling: Why sex in hotels is better

16 Jan, 2019 8:29am
3 minutes to read

The Sex Files: Lee Suckling delves into the world of sex in hotel rooms.

If this is an all too familiar sight, then read on. Photo / Getty Images

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Why fashion is so hard for men in this heat

14 Jan, 2019 8:31am
4 minutes to read

From pooling underarm liquid, lower back sweat and the dreaded dripping brow.

Lee Suckling explains why you should create sex goals for 2019. Photo / Getty Images

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The most important goal to set with your partner this year

9 Jan, 2019 7:00am
4 minutes to read

You've heard of #RelationshipGoals. Now it's time for #SexGoals.

How to maintain your penchant for beauty buys and still keep some cash in your piggy bank. Photo / Getty Images

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Six tricks to save money on beauty products

7 Jan, 2019 7:00am
4 minutes to read

Do you find yourself spending all your extra cash on moisturisers and makeup?

Buying sex toys feels dirty because we have been taught to think they're for the sad and lonely. Photo / Getty Images

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Why does buying sex toys seem so gross?

4 Jan, 2019 7:55am
4 minutes to read

If you've ever bought one, odds are you felt ashamed about it. Lee Suckling explains why.

This particular shade of pink is so last year. Photo / Getty Images

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Ten trends you'll probably get sucked into this year

1 Jan, 2019 7:00am
4 minutes to read

From food to fashion to phones and baby names, here's what you'll be coveting in 2019.