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Lee Suckling's solution for seasonal affective disorder is to find the 'sunny spots'.
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"Going blonde is a reinvention; one often sought in times of crisis," writes Lee Suckling.
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Influencers who have tried to keep up their status look 'tone deaf', writes Lee Suckling.
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I genuinely never thought I'd be on any kind of welfare, writes Lee Suckling.
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"This is me showing up; this is my protest," writes Lee Suckling.
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There are some issues in a marriage that are insurmountable, writes Lee Suckling.
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"Millennials know no other way than economic and financial insecurity," writes Suckling.
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A saviour in early lockdown days, Lee Suckling says it's time to 'leave meeting' for good.
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COMMENT: I worry the world is changing for the worse, in ways we will never see reversed.
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Lee Suckling on a positive change in society sparked by coronavirus pandemic.
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Or maybe it's 12. Or 14? Lee Suckling on the realities of life in total isolation.
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Remember when you could get on an app and find someone to have sex with?
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With health on everybody's minds, Lee Suckling debunks some of the common STI myths.
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OPINION: Lee Suckling explains why he thinks Mother Nature is breathing a sigh of relief.
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Consciously not having sex doesn't sound appealing, but sometimes it's necessary.
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Lee Suckling on what to do instead.
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Have you been coming at your goals from entirely the wrong angle?
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These were the most read columns by Lee Suckling in 2019.
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Are you 100 per cent body confident? asks Lee Suckling.
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Menopause doesn't mean the death of your libido but here's what to expect.
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Lee Suckling tries to figure out where on earth all the top knot hatred is coming from.
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Finally, after 34 years, this Kiwi understands what tūrangawaewae really means to him.
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We usually think of porn as being visual - but audio porn is making a comeback.
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The trend of living apart together, or LAT, is increasing in prevalence across the world.
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Young users are turning to darker methods to elicit attention and sympathy online.
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Lee Suckling: Do we really understand sexual harassment in all its forms?
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Everyone knows you took 80 pictures to get that good one where your biceps are bulging.
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A slippery business, Lee Suckling explains how to go about it safely.
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Warning: The new Roaring 20s will see all those tacky early-noughties looks reincarnated.
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Eschewing the cash he could have made, Lee Suckling put his car in a crusher.
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It may seem like an appealing thing to do this summer, but be warned.
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And why you're wrong to assume it's below the belt.
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Not an attractive attribute, in small doses, this could be good for your relationship.
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Lee Suckling outlines how to spot a modern-day moneyed New Zealander.
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Most bed manufacturers forget what else happens on top of their product, aside from sleep.
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Lee Suckling on the lesson Oprah taught him that helped him through a tough decade.
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There's Movember - then there's this.
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There's a problem with representation of diversity on screen in 2019, writes Lee Suckling.
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According to a survey, loud sex is considered even worse in flats than late rent payments.
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Every man I know has noticed a weird change in their peeing habits after this age.
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It's not uncommon to feel like something is "off", even if you can't place it.
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Is a one-night stand really better than the sex you'd have with a spouse?
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We need to stop blaming modern technology for NZ's mental health problem, says Suckling.
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Being gay isn't a sticker you wear on your forehead so everybody knows.
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Lee Suckling on what it is about men like Jason Momoa that earns them the term.
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This past weekend, I had my first birthday party in more than three decades.
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Lee Suckling: What you need to know before trying this at home.
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It's the anti-stress gift that keeps on giving, writes Lee Suckling.
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I lost 3kg in nine days, but it might be due to a few vital organs falling out.
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Lee Suckling seeks out cartoon porn to see what all the fuss is about.
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I'm as surprised as you are that this is happening in New Zealand, writes Lee Suckling.
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Probably great when you first met, how can you reignite it in a long term relationship?
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Why is all perfume okay for women, while only some is appropriate for men?
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Lee Suckling: How to invite a friend over in a safe, polite, and non-creepy way.
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As a gay man, the headlines going around the world today make my heart sink.
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And a warning to those who like to vape during sex, writes Lee Suckling.
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Lee Suckling explains why sharing bank accounts is avoided by young couples.
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The Sex Files: Lee Suckling explores how what you eat impacts your libido.
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Society is obsessed with sex, but this doesn't apply to everyone.
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Lee Suckling explains an important consideration often overlooked, especially by men.
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Lee Suckling: This is the way gay shame works.