And just like that… my friend was dead too

For Father's Day, Lee Suckling reflects on the lessons he wish he had learnt.

'People are terrible at taking compliments. I know I am,' writes Suckling.

Lee Suckling explains why he is voting yes in the upcoming referendum.

Comment: 'Straight people are welcome in gay bars, but they have to behave.'

COMMENT: Labels of queerness are part of who LGBTQ people are, writes Lee Suckling.

"The use of woke as a derogatory judgement shall not be commandeered," writes Suckling.

Lee Suckling argues mental health professionals need to check up on people in isolation.

Lee Suckling: Why have Asian Kiwis been left out of the race conversation?

New Zealand is looking back rather than moving forward, writes Lee Suckling.

Suckling explains why telling your private thoughts to a laptop is a 'curious experience'.

Lee Suckling's solution for seasonal affective disorder is to find the 'sunny spots'.

"Going blonde is a reinvention; one often sought in times of crisis," writes Lee Suckling.

Influencers who have tried to keep up their status look 'tone deaf', writes Lee Suckling.

I genuinely never thought I'd be on any kind of welfare, writes Lee Suckling.

"This is me showing up; this is my protest," writes Lee Suckling.

There are some issues in a marriage that are insurmountable, writes Lee Suckling.

"Millennials know no other way than economic and financial insecurity," writes Suckling.

A saviour in early lockdown days, Lee Suckling says it's time to 'leave meeting' for good.

COMMENT: I worry the world is changing for the worse, in ways we will never see reversed.

Lee Suckling on a positive change in society sparked by coronavirus pandemic.

Or maybe it's 12. Or 14? Lee Suckling on the realities of life in total isolation.

Remember when you could get on an app and find someone to have sex with?

With health on everybody's minds, Lee Suckling debunks some of the common STI myths.

OPINION: Lee Suckling explains why he thinks Mother Nature is breathing a sigh of relief.

Consciously not having sex doesn't sound appealing, but sometimes it's necessary.

Lee Suckling on what to do instead.

Have you been coming at your goals from entirely the wrong angle?

Are you 100 per cent body confident? asks Lee Suckling.

Menopause doesn't mean the death of your libido but here's what to expect.

Lee Suckling tries to figure out where on earth all the top knot hatred is coming from.

Finally, after 34 years, this Kiwi understands what tūrangawaewae really means to him.

We usually think of porn as being visual - but audio porn is making a comeback.

The trend of living apart together, or LAT, is increasing in prevalence across the world.

Young users are turning to darker methods to elicit attention and sympathy online.

Lee Suckling: Do we really understand sexual harassment in all its forms?

Everyone knows you took 80 pictures to get that good one where your biceps are bulging.

A slippery business, Lee Suckling explains how to go about it safely.

Warning: The new Roaring 20s will see all those tacky early-noughties looks reincarnated.

Eschewing the cash he could have made, Lee Suckling put his car in a crusher.

These were the most read columns by Lee Suckling in 2019.

It may seem like an appealing thing to do this summer, but be warned.

And why you're wrong to assume it's below the belt.

Jealousy, in small doses, reminds our lover that we want them, writes Lee Suckling.

Not an attractive attribute, in small doses, this could be good for your relationship.

Lee Suckling outlines how to spot a modern-day moneyed New Zealander.

Most bed manufacturers forget what else happens on top of their product, aside from sleep.

Lee Suckling on the lesson Oprah taught him that helped him through a tough decade.

As we get age, our libidos may wane - but here's how to have the best sex of your life.

There's a problem with representation of diversity on screen in 2019, writes Lee Suckling.

Every man I know has noticed a weird change in their peeing habits after this age.

It's not uncommon to feel like something is "off", even if you can't place it.

Is a one-night stand really better than the sex you'd have with a spouse?

We need to stop blaming modern technology for NZ's mental health problem, says Suckling.

Being gay isn't a sticker you wear on your forehead so everybody knows.

Lee Suckling on what it is about men like Jason Momoa that earns them the term.

This past weekend, I had my first birthday party in more than three decades.

Lee Suckling: What you need to know before trying this at home.

It's the anti-stress gift that keeps on giving, writes Lee Suckling.

I lost 3kg in nine days, but it might be due to a few vital organs falling out.

Lee Suckling seeks out cartoon porn to see what all the fuss is about.

I'm as surprised as you are that this is happening in New Zealand, writes Lee Suckling.

Probably great when you first met, how can you reignite it in a long term relationship?

Lee Suckling: How to invite a friend over in a safe, polite, and non-creepy way.

As a gay man, the headlines going around the world today make my heart sink.

And a warning to those who like to vape during sex, writes Lee Suckling.

Lee Suckling explains why sharing bank accounts is avoided by young couples.

The Sex Files: Lee Suckling explores how what you eat impacts your libido.

Society is obsessed with sex, but this doesn't apply to everyone.

Lee Suckling explains an important consideration often overlooked, especially by men.

Lee Suckling: This is the way gay shame works.