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Warning: The new Roaring 20s will see all those tacky early-noughties looks reincarnated. Photo / Getty Images

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Lee Suckling: How millennial lives will change in the 2020s

13 Jan, 2020 11:00am
4 minutes to read

Warning: The new Roaring 20s will see all those tacky early-noughties looks reincarnated.

The local auto-wreckers were amused by Lee Suckling's proposition. Image / 123RF

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Lee Suckling: Why I sent my perfectly fine car to the wreckers

6 Jan, 2020 9:18am
5 minutes to read

Eschewing the cash he could have made, Lee Suckling put his car in a crusher.

There's a chance you'll bump into somebody you've had anonymous sex with at a later date. It's New Zealand after all - we're still one big little town, really. Photo / Getty Images

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Lee Suckling: Sex with strangers and the etiquette of threesomes

4 Jan, 2020 9:46am
2 minutes to read

These were the most read columns by Lee Suckling in 2019.

Sand in your nether-regions isn't just uncomfortable and difficult to wash away. It is abrasive. Photo / 123rf

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Lee Suckling: The real dangers of sex on the beach

1 Jan, 2020 7:00am
3 minutes to read

It may seem like an appealing thing to do this summer, but be warned.

Men are most likely to pay attention to the chest size and shape of other men than women do. Photo / 123rf

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Lee Suckling: The body part men compare the most

30 Dec, 2019 2:13pm
4 minutes to read

And why you're wrong to assume it's below the belt.

A little signal of jealousy can be as subtle as extra attention on an attractive alternative passing a couple by. Image / Getty Images

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The negative trait that's key to a thriving relationship

25 Dec, 2019 11:00am
4 minutes to read

Not an attractive attribute, in small doses, this could be good for your relationship.

The best guidance and confirmation of identity for New Zealand's White Anglo-Saxon Protestants (or WASPs) was often summed up by Twitter account @TheDevoFerry. Photo / Getty Images

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The Devonport ferry and other signs of a Kiwi WASP

23 Dec, 2019 7:00am
4 minutes to read

Lee Suckling outlines how to spot a modern-day moneyed New Zealander.

Most bed manufacturers forget what else happens on top of their product, aside from sleep. Photo / 123RF

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The best bed for having sex on

18 Dec, 2019 10:00am
4 minutes to read

Most bed manufacturers forget what else happens on top of their product, aside from sleep.

Oprah taught me nothing in life is just happening around me by coincidence. Photo / AP

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Lee Suckling: Is this Oprah's greatest lesson?

10 Dec, 2019 3:00pm
4 minutes to read

Lee Suckling on the lesson Oprah taught him that helped him through a tough decade.

As we get age, our libidos may wane - but here's how to have the best sex of your life. Photo / 123RF

The Sex Files: 10 rules for midlife sex

9 Dec, 2019 2:56pm
5 minutes to read

As we get age, our libidos may wane - but here's how to have the best sex of your life.

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Lee Suckling: The worst November 'challenge'

27 Nov, 2019 7:00pm
5 minutes to read

There's Movember - then there's this.

We are in a changing era of Hollywood and producers aren't afraid of the gay anymore. But that's not the whole problem. Photo / Getty Images

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The LGBTQ issue with the way we watch TV

18 Nov, 2019 11:00am
4 minutes to read

There's a problem with representation of diversity on screen in 2019, writes Lee Suckling.

To remove all chances of your bed screaming in ecstasy before you do, get off it completely. Photo / Getty Images

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Five ways to have sex without your flatmates hearing

13 Nov, 2019 7:00pm
4 minutes to read

According to a survey, loud sex is considered even worse in flats than late rent payments.

Why did nobody tell us that in our early 30s our bladders would age 40 years overnight and start working to a retiree's schedule? Photo / 123RF

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The age you develop 'Old Man Bladder'

11 Nov, 2019 11:00am
4 minutes to read

Every man I know has noticed a weird change in their peeing habits after this age.

In reality, sex isn't normally the first thing you do when your distance goes from hundreds of kilometres to just a few metres. Photo / 123RF

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Life in a long-distance marriage

6 Nov, 2019 7:25am
4 minutes to read

It's not uncommon to feel like something is "off", even if you can't place it.

So who's actually having the best sex of all? Photo / Getty Images

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Lee Suckling: One night stands versus marital sex

30 Oct, 2019 7:00pm
4 minutes to read

Is a one-night stand really better than the sex you'd have with a spouse?

A new Auckland Uni study has found you have to use social media so excessively - perhaps an impossible amount of hours a day - to really have it hurt you. Photo / 123RF

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Lee Suckling: Why aren't Kiwis affected by social media?

28 Oct, 2019 1:44pm
5 minutes to read

We need to stop blaming modern technology for NZ's mental health problem, says Suckling.

Being gay isn't a sticker you wear on your forehead so everybody knows. Photo / 123RF

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Why every day is 'coming out day' for queer people

21 Oct, 2019 5:00am
5 minutes to read

Being gay isn't a sticker you wear on your forehead so everybody knows.

Jason Momoa is one of the stereotypically

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Jason Momoa and what makes a man a 'Daddy'

16 Oct, 2019 5:00pm
4 minutes to read

Lee Suckling on what it is about men like Jason Momoa that earns them the term.

Celebrating turning one year older has always seemed very odd to me. 123RF

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Lee Suckling: The problem with adult birthdays

14 Oct, 2019 8:18am
5 minutes to read

This past weekend, I had my first birthday party in more than three decades.

The default for all people, male and female, should be to assume that any rough play during sex is unwanted. Photo / 123RF

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The truth about 'Hollywood sex' at home

9 Oct, 2019 7:00am
4 minutes to read

Lee Suckling: What you need to know before trying this at home.

You don't actually have to have that much sex to relieve your anxious woes, either. Photo / 123RF

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Stressed out? Sex might be the answer

24 Sep, 2019 12:49pm
4 minutes to read

It's the anti-stress gift that keeps on giving, writes Lee Suckling.

With great skin and quick weight loss, it was a perfect recipe for a Hollywood bod. Photo / Getty Images

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I did a juice cleanse. I got great skin... and diarrhoea

23 Sep, 2019 3:07pm
5 minutes to read

I lost 3kg in nine days, but it might be due to a few vital organs falling out.

If you've ever had a sexual fantasy about any kind of cartoon or drawing, you're not alone. Photo / Getty Images

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Is cartoon porn the answer to society's current panic?

18 Sep, 2019 2:54pm
3 minutes to read

Lee Suckling seeks out cartoon porn to see what all the fuss is about.

The reality of so-called conversion therapy in New Zealand, at least, is a little different. It's more likely to be one-on-one counselling in a small, unassuming office. Photo / Getty Images

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The reality of gay conversion therapy in New Zealand

16 Sep, 2019 7:25am
5 minutes to read

I'm as surprised as you are that this is happening in New Zealand, writes Lee Suckling.

If you're dating somebody new, this behaviour is what you're doing all the time. When you're in a long-term relationship this sort of behaviour always wanes. Photo / Getty Images

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Lee Suckling: What you're missing before sex

11 Sep, 2019 3:31pm
4 minutes to read

Probably great when you first met, how can you reignite it in a long term relationship?

Why do you think the men's fragrance area at any high-end store is hidden in a corner? Photo / 123RF

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The problem with gender and perfume

9 Sep, 2019 7:00am
4 minutes to read

Why is all perfume okay for women, while only some is appropriate for men?

Lee Suckling: How to invite a friend over in a safe, polite, and non-creepy way. Photo / Getty Images

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Lee Suckling: The etiquette of threesomes

6 Sep, 2019 11:00am
5 minutes to read

Lee Suckling: How to invite a friend over in a safe, polite, and non-creepy way.

There are still many people around the world - and indeed 71 international governments - that believe homosexuality is not normal, but a deviance. Photo / Getty Images

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How the 'gay gene' revelation makes me feel

30 Aug, 2019 1:00pm
4 minutes to read

As a gay man, the headlines going around the world today make my heart sink.

If you're going to vape in bed, you must - I repeat, must - be willing to share. Photo / Getty Images

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What you need to know about vaping after sex

28 Aug, 2019 7:00am
4 minutes to read

And a warning to those who like to vape during sex, writes Lee Suckling.

If we retain some of our own finances, we each keep a sense of dignity. Photo / 123rf

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Why millennial couples don't share their money

26 Aug, 2019 7:00am
4 minutes to read

Lee Suckling explains why sharing bank accounts is avoided by young couples.

Even a vegan diet could spell disaster between the sheets, and not just because plant-based diets tend to make you very gassy. Photo / 123RF

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How Keto and plant-based diets affect your sex life

21 Aug, 2019 7:22am
4 minutes to read

The Sex Files: Lee Suckling explores how what you eat impacts your libido.

Asexuality is not something that needs fixing, just as

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The secret lives of people who don't like sex

14 Aug, 2019 10:00am
5 minutes to read

Society is obsessed with sex, but this doesn't apply to everyone.

Many guys have been left to believe their bodies are like self-cleaning ovens and they don't need to pay much attention to them before or after sex. Photo / Getty Images

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Lee Suckling: What you need to know about sexual hygiene

7 Aug, 2019 8:06am
5 minutes to read

Lee Suckling explains an important consideration often overlooked, especially by men.

I knew from four or five years old that society hated gays. Nobody ever told us it was okay to be gay. Photo / Getty Images

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I still live with gay shame in New Zealand

5 Aug, 2019 7:00am
5 minutes to read

Lee Suckling: This is the way gay shame works.

Are you trying to figure out a part of your own personality in your conscious life? Photo / Getty Images

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Lee Suckling: What sexual dreams really mean

31 Jul, 2019 7:00am
5 minutes to read

The Sex Files: The sexual subconscious knows no limits. Lee Suckling explains.

Niksen is about doing nothing. It's sitting in a chair and looking out a window. Or lying on the grass and musing the shapes of the clouds. Photo / Getty Images

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Is this the answer to millennial burnout?

29 Jul, 2019 7:22am
4 minutes to read

You may remember "hygge". Is this 2019's version?

One-night stands are synonymous with inebriation, but they shouldn't be. Photo / Getty Images

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Five vital elements for a perfect one-night stand

24 Jul, 2019 7:00am
4 minutes to read

Casual sex should be two things: fun and safe. Lee Suckling explains.

Much of our culture revolves around alcoholic beverages. Photo / Getty Images

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What you're missing when it comes to non-alcoholic beer

22 Jul, 2019 7:00am
4 minutes to read

Why alcohol-free beer isn't a sad version of the real thing, according to Lee Suckling.

Music has neuro-psychological effects on us and our sexual experiences. Photo / Getty Images

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Survey reveals couples' unusual use of Apple AirPods

16 Jul, 2019 1:06pm
4 minutes to read

And why, according to Lee Suckling, every couple needs a mixtape of music for the bedroom.

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Porn blamed for dangerous trend among young people

10 Jul, 2019 7:00am
4 minutes to read

The Sex Files: Lee Suckling discusses alarming trend growing popular among young people.

Swinging is sometimes called partner swapping, and it's exclusively sexual and limited in duration. Photo / Getty Images

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Lee Suckling: The life of a modern swinger

3 Jul, 2019 7:00am
4 minutes to read

There's something terribly 70s about swinging. Lee Suckling considers modern alternatives.

Being short is like being red-headed: it's one of the few societally-accepted reasons people can be taken down by others for laughs, and nobody pulls you up on it. Image / Getty Images

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Why is it still okay to belittle short men?

1 Jul, 2019 8:00am
4 minutes to read

Fat-shaming and other forms of bigotry are not okay yet short men are still targeted.

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The Sex Files: Are you failing your kids in sex education?

26 Jun, 2019 8:52am
4 minutes to read

And is what they're learning online accurate and cognisant with modern ideals of consent?

A BDSM experience isn't actually called a sexual encounter. It's referred to as a

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The sex 'scene' that most appeals in your 40s

19 Jun, 2019 8:35am
5 minutes to read

There are several things an E.L. James novel won't teach you, writes Lee Suckling.

How has something so technologically forward-thinking fallen into this trap? Photo / Getty Images

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The big problem with Alexa, Siri and Cortana

17 Jun, 2019 7:14am
5 minutes to read

How has something so technologically forward-thinking fallen into this trap?

An often-cited study represents the illogical notion that men's pleasure is what's important in defining

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Men versus women: major discrepancy in what constitutes good sex

12 Jun, 2019 8:11am
4 minutes to read

What's "too long" for men isn't long enough for women, according to a study.

Go to any beach in Europe and everyone speaks a different language and has a different perspective on life. It's refreshing and helps you learn and grow. Photo / Getty Images

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Why Europeans do summer better than Kiwis

10 Jun, 2019 9:00am
4 minutes to read

Summer in Europe is in full swing. Here's why it's better than the sunny season at home.

Stigma exists about bisexuality and the only thing that will make wider society understand it more is if we see it like any other normal sexuality. Photo / Getty Images

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A cocktail party and an unexpected proposition

5 Jun, 2019 9:00am
5 minutes to read

Lee Suckling shares his advice for those who might have taken up the offer.

I had to suck it up, eventually quit the job, lie about the reasons I was leaving, and then pretend nothing was wrong so I could still get a good reference. Image / Getty Images

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Lee Suckling: What to do if you're being bullied at work

3 Jun, 2019 7:00am
5 minutes to read

Victims are often left to wonder, "Am I being bullied, or is it all in my head?"

When we're cold, we crave closeness and warmth. Photo / Getty Images.

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Why we should have more sex in winter

29 May, 2019 7:00am
3 minutes to read

According to research, we're programmed to want to have more sex in winter.

Males have a physical ease in tight public spaces where many people are forced together, whereas females do not have that luxury. Photo / Getty Images

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Lee Suckling: Why I'm giving women more space

27 May, 2019 10:50am
5 minutes to read

If I'm walking after dark and I see a woman up ahead, I will be the one to cross the road.

Close gay-straight friendships between men never used to be very common. Photo / Getty Images

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Why gay-straight male friendships are the best kind

22 May, 2019 7:23am
5 minutes to read

The Sex Files: Lee Suckling on the positive impact of our culture's changing masculinity.

One of the first things you do after work or a night out with friends is probably sit straight on your bed, fully clothed. Photo / Getty Images

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Public transport: How much dirt are you taking home with you?

20 May, 2019 7:21am
3 minutes to read

Think about how many people sit on each seat on a bus or train each day. Fifty? 100?

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The Sex Files: Can sex be considered exercise?

15 May, 2019 7:00am
3 minutes to read

Does sex really burn calories? Lee Suckling investigates.

Abandoning social media has helped in my quest to understand which voices I should listen to, writes Lee Suckling. Image / Getty Images

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The benefit of being less connected to people

13 May, 2019 9:27am
5 minutes to read

Lee Suckling shares a 'genius little nugget' about all voices being considered equal.

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Lee Suckling: Understanding voyeurism at its most sinister

8 May, 2019 8:08am
5 minutes to read

Lee Suckling discusses a voyeuristic "phenomenon" he's been a victim of - twice.

If you have had a few too many over the warmer months, winter could be a great opportunity to reset. Photo / Getty Images

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Why winter is the perfect time to stop getting drunk

6 May, 2019 8:35am
4 minutes to read

Reset your body and mind during the colder months, says Lee Suckling.

Generally men don't need to carry around a notebook for coverage, but it still happens. Photo / Getty Images

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The puberty hangover that still catches men out

1 May, 2019 7:24am
3 minutes to read

Generally men don't need to carry around a notebook for coverage, but it still happens.

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Lee Suckling: 15 lessons from my Instagram experiment

29 Apr, 2019 7:00am
4 minutes to read

After a year gaining thousands of followers, Lee Suckling deleted his account.

When I married into the Army, I made my bed, and I have to lie in it. Which is exactly what I'll be doing until 10am tomorrow. Photo / Getty Images

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Anzac Day: The people who should sleep in tomorrow

24 Apr, 2019 7:16am
4 minutes to read

Husband to an army officer, Lee Suckling reveals the reality of being married to military.

Ever felt obliged to sleep with someone because they fronted the bill? Photo / Getty Images

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Have you been 'paid' for sex without realising?

22 Apr, 2019 7:00am
4 minutes to read

Have you ever felt obliged to sleep with someone after they've paid for you on a date?