Is a "situation-ship" with a bad boy really such a bad thing? Photo / 123RF
Is a "situation-ship" with a bad boy really such a bad thing? Photo / 123RF
Opinion by Jana Hocking
OPINION:
Question: Why is sex with the wrong guy always the hottest kind of sex?
Seriously! It was a topic that came up in conversation with my girlfriends the other night over drinks.
Okay, full disclosure, it was Valentine’s night and we had met for a post-work cocktail and commiseration.You see, we are all single, and all have “situation-ships” with guys we know don’t make good partners.
You know the type: they’re not interested in commitment, always hot and cold with their attention and have questionable track records (and occasionally, criminal records), but we can’t seem to get out of it because our love lives have never been hotter.
It feels a bit naughty, it’s experimental because we know it’s not going to last, therefore aren’t worried about coming across as “wife material”, and we can’t be 100 per cent sure we’re going to do it again, so it’s slightly addictive.
Good lord, just thinking about it makes me hot under the collar. So, here’s another question for you: is sex with someone who is not “the one” a bad thing?
I’ve really been pondering it since our cocktail-filled chat, and I’ve come to the conclusion that it could actually be a blessing in disguise.
Put aside the horrible side-effect, known as “catching the feels” and what you’re left with is a fire-emoji-filled love life.
I’ll take the wrong man and a cheeky night, thanks. Photo / 123RF
And we all know the serotonin released after a good romp in the hay can last a full 24 hours. So forget green juices and a good gym session, I’ll take the wrong man and a cheeky night, thanks.
I say this with the full knowledge of someone who has found themselves in quite the bad boy predicament. Well … not necessarily a “bad boy” but definitely not the right boy for me.
After a whopper of a fight last year, we made up after weeks of not talking, and I tell you with my hand on my heart, the make-up session was worth every second of the anxious-ridden few months we didn’t talk.
So what are the benefits?
Well for one, it sure makes you feel alive. You’re doing something you shouldn’t be, which always feels a bit edgy.
Instead of falling for a normal guy with a normal job going on normal dates, you’re stepping outside your comfort zone and life is throwing plot twists left, right and centre.
Will he call again? Who knows. How exciting. (Yes, I know I know, toxic … but nevertheless … exciting.)
