American actor Clark Gable and Scarlett O'Hara. Photo / Getty
American actor Clark Gable and Scarlett O'Hara. Photo / Getty
A relationship expert who describes herself as the 'Get the Ring Coach' has revealed why women looking for marriage should refuse to date men on an exclusive basis - until they propose.
Love and Relationship Coach Sami Wunder, who is based between the UK and Germany, used the same trickherself when she first met Chris, now her husband, by refusing to stop dating other people until he popped the question according to DailyMail.
1931: Joan Crawford (1904 - 1977) and Clark Gable (1901 - 1960). Photo / Getty
Nine months later he did and now they have been happily married for five years and have a son, while Sami has been responsible for 95 proposals in two years of business - with one taking just three months.
'This approach works wonderfully well for that smart, successful, amazing woman who has aced all aspects of her life and career and love is the only thing that hasn't worked out for her,' she told Femail.
She is so ready to settle down and have a family right now, and doesn't want to waste time being someone's girlfriend for years, especially when he has no clear intention of offering her marriage or the commitment she wants.
'The way the system is built, masculine men who aim to settle down themselves and want to commit and have a family, will love a decisive woman who knows what she wants and will give her the commitment she deserves, if they are serious about her and in love.
'If not, they will say no and that helps both parties to move on quickly, without giving false hopes or promises.
'The thing to understand about this system is that it isn't a pressure based manipulation tactic or an ultimatum you're giving to a man.
'He still has the choice to not commit to you, to say no, to go see others himself or simply stop seeing you.
'That is his right. The system only ensures that you don't offer full husband benefits to such a man, that only wants to offer you girlfriend status.
American actor Eddie Albert gazes into the eyes of British-born actress Phyllis Calvert (1915 - 2003). Photo / Getty
'Hence, for self aware, healthy men and woman, who know they are looking for a life time commitment, the system works beautifully well.'
Before Sami met Chris her love life, she admits, was a 'disaster'.
If she did get past the first date, the burgeoning relationship usually fizzled out after two or three months.
'My point of transformation came when a New York based attorney, broke my heart and told me he "wasn't feeling it for me" after two months of electric, intense dating. I truly thought he was the one,' Sami recalled.
