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Bridesmaid commits cardinal sin of wedding dress reveals

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A bride-to-be has revealed how her bridesmaid shared a picture of her dress online and tagged her fiancé, ruining the surprise gown reveal. Photo / Getty Images

A bride-to-be has revealed how her bridesmaid shared a picture of her dress online and tagged her fiancé, ruining the surprise gown reveal. Photo / Getty Images

Not showing the groom or even the guests the wedding dress before the big day is a time-honoured tradition.

But one bride-to-be has revealed how her own bridesmaid ruined the surprise reveal of her perfect gown by posting a picture of her wearing it on Facebook - and tagging her fiancé.

Sharing the shocking news on Mumsnet, the woman, thought to be from the UK, explained how she was left feeling "gutted" by her pal's actions.

The woman asked for advice on Mumsnet, and explained how her partner and father had seen the photograph of her wearing the dress at the bridal fitting. Photo / Mumsnet
The woman asked for advice on Mumsnet, and explained how her partner and father had seen the photograph of her wearing the dress at the bridal fitting. Photo / Mumsnet

Dozens of people replied saying she should be angry with her friend, with some saying they would 'sack the bridesmaid' over the inconsiderate post.

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The woman revealed how she'd already fully paid for the dress and didn't have time to get another one before her upcoming wedding day. Photo / Getty Images
The woman revealed how she'd already fully paid for the dress and didn't have time to get another one before her upcoming wedding day. Photo / Getty Images

In her post the woman explained that she didn't think she would ever find "the one" dress as she's "very body conscious and anxious" but was happy with her choice.

She explained: "I went back for final fitting at the weekend and took one of my bridesmaids as she wanted to see.

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"After finishing the appointment and getting home I saw that she had posted a photo of me in the dress on Facebook (during the appointment so it had already been on an hour or two when I saw it)."

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Several people said they would have been furious. Photo / Mumsnet
Several people said they would have been furious. Photo / Mumsnet
Some even said they would sack the bridesmaid. Photo / Mumsnet
Some even said they would sack the bridesmaid. Photo / Mumsnet
People thought that her post on Facebook was unthoughtful. Photo / Mumsnet
People thought that her post on Facebook was unthoughtful. Photo / Mumsnet

The bride-to-be went on to explain how her partner had been tagged in the post and her friend had written: "She bets he couldn't wait to marry me and how lovely my dress is."

However, when she asked her friend to remove the picture the friend acted as if it wasn't important.

She said: "When I asked her to remove it her response was 'it doesn't matter if he's seen it he's a man so he will have forgotten what it looks like in five minutes time'.

"My dad had also seen it as well and it was going to be a surprise for him on the day too.

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"I just don't know what to do or how to feel! I am so gutted that it now won't be a surprise to my partner or my dad.

"She knew how much that meant to me and the only thing I had asked for was that details of how I will look on the day were kept a surprise from my dad and partner.

"As I paid in installments the dress is now fully paid for and I don't have time to get another one and do all the alterations etc. Someone tell me I will stop feeling like this soon!"

Dozens of people responded to the post and said the bride-to-be was right to feel so disappointed.

One person said: 'I would be furious! I'd be seriously considering if she would be coming to the wedding!'

And another agreed and said: "Sack the bridesmaid! Don't worry, your dress will look different when your hair and make-up are done etc. Try not to let it spoil the day."

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Others agreed with "sacking" the bridesmaid and not giving the woman a part in the wedding.

Some tried to reassure the bride-to-be that her wedding day would still be "special". Photo / Mumsnet
Some tried to reassure the bride-to-be that her wedding day would still be "special". Photo / Mumsnet
Others thought it was best she try to get over it. Photo / Mumsnet
Others thought it was best she try to get over it. Photo / Mumsnet
Despite the dress saga, people told her she'd have a good day. Photo / Mumsnet
Despite the dress saga, people told her she'd have a good day. Photo / Mumsnet

Someone else said: "I would be angry at that one. You don't share pictures of someone else's wedding dress before the wedding!"

While one person said they would be "furious" and even called the bridesmaid a "b***h".

They said: "She's a massive b***h or a complete idiot. I'd be furious and you are not unreasonable in the slightest!"

Someone else tried to reassure the woman, but agreed the bridesmaid didn't seem like a good friend.

They wrote: "It doesn't matter in the long run. But how devastated you must feel. I don't think she sounds like much of a friend, personally."

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