Just over a fortnight ago my 16-year-old son went to his first school ball. After 2011's tragedy when 17-year-old David Gaynor died after being evicted drunk from his school ball, I reminded my son of that. I emphasised that while it might be fine to have a few drinks with parents beforehand (although I've grappled with even that), the problem is decision-making later. Drugs are the biggest fear of any parent. Who knows if teens even listen to these talks?
Many schools banned pre-ball or after-ball functions this year, and Kings College, where Gaynor was a student, didn't hold a ball. I think that was the right decision for that school. Yesterday, toxicology results showed Gaynor's system had 132mg of alcohol to 100ml of blood, the illegal synthetic drug 4-MEC and possibly cannabis. Chief coroner, Judge Neil MacLean said: "The combined effects of the drugs and alcohol would have adversely affected him... and impaired his judgment".
It seems the boy made a bad decision on the night, and in a moment made a subsequently tragic decision. I felt and still do feel utter empathy for his parents. I want to maim whoever gave/sold Gaynor those pills. Of course it was the boy's decision, but teenagers are dumb - they don't expect 'fun' to end their lives. I hope the seller spent their $20 or whatever it was wisely.
We guide our sons and daughters as best we can, but none of that takes into account the ease with which young people can get drugs, half of which we've never even heard of, more or less have experience with. What can we do about that?
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