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Married, and if you ask he can tell

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The very last thing United States Navy Lieutenant Gary Ross did before exchanging marriage vows with partner Dan Swezy early yesterday was to check his wristwatch. It was the stroke of midnight.

Fifteen minutes earlier, the couple had walked into a log cabin at Moose Meadow Lodge, a hillside bed-and-breakfast in rural Vermont.

Ross wore full dress uniform. Swezy was in white tie. "This," said the justice of the peace taking the ceremony, "is Gary's official coming out."

That was one way of putting things. The happy couple, who are 33 and 49 respectively, tied the knot just seconds after the repeal of Don't Ask Don't Tell, the notorious law which has since the mid-1990s made it illegal for gays and lesbians to serve openly in the US armed forces.

They had travelled several thousand kilometres east, from their home in Tucson, to become the first military couple to take advantage of their right to tie the knot. Vermont is the most easterly of the six US states that allow gay marriage, so the clock struck midnight earlier there than it would have in any alternative wedding location.

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Though Ross said "anyone with moderate perception" could probably have figured out his sexuality, he has had to keep his partnership with Swezy - a civilian - completely secret throughout the 11 years they have been together. Had Ross told colleagues he was in a same-sex relationship, his faithful service would have been unceremoniously halted.

Had he been killed or wounded in combat, Swezy would neither have been officially informed, nor given any of the normal rights or compensation due to a bereaved partner.

"It requires you to lie several times a day," Ross said of the old system. The formal repeal of the law yesterday represents one of the most progressive gestures of President Barack Obama's time in office, and brings the US in line with most other developed nations.

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It was achieved despite stiff opposition from conservatives, who argue that allowing gays and lesbians to serve will undermine the order and discipline essential to the effectiveness of the armed forces.

It remains to be seen whether that will be the case. Yesterday, as the Pentagon began formally accepting job applications from homosexuals, military leaders said at least 97 per cent of the million-odd members of the armed forces had had training in the new law. They are confident it will not have any serious effect on everyday operations.

A slew of closeted soldiers duly took advantage of their newfound ability to acknowledge their sexuality. Several contributed personal stories to Outserve, a new magazine aimed at gay and lesbian members of the military.

Eddy Sweeney, an Air Force intelligence officer, told the publication he was celebrating the end of "a destructive life of deception, lies, and evasion with myself and the Government of the United States of America".

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Josh Seefried, another airman, said he was hopeful his colleagues would embrace the news of his homosexuality. "You take a chance and you have to hope everything is okay. I think everything is going to be more than okay. That kind of family-ness I see in the Air Force, that is going to be mine, too."

There are still several hurdles to overcome before gay rights advocates can celebrate full equality in the US armed forces, though. Although same-sex partners will be entitled to become life-insurance beneficiaries of serving troops, a move to allow them to receive military health insurance (in common with heterosexual partners) has been blocked. They also have been denied access to military support groups while their spouses are overseas.

Even thornier is a proposal that would have allowed Navy chaplains to conduct same-sex marriage ceremonies in states where it is illegal. That has been put on ice while the Pentagon decides.Independent

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