A man born without a penis has lost his virginity aged 45 thanks to a bionic manhood made from his own skin. / Dailymail
A man born without a penis has lost his virginity aged 45 thanks to a bionic manhood made from his own skin.
Andrew Wardle, from Manchester, had a £50,000 ($99,800) penile implant operation at University College Hospital London in June - but had to wait six weeks before he couldhave sex for the first time.
After activating a button in his groin to pump up his "ridiculously big" new penis, he lost his virginity to his girlfriend of six years Fedra Fabian as they prepared for a romantic getaway to Amsterdam, the Daily Mail reports.
"Two days before we went away, it just happened," he told The Sun. "It was nice and natural — and that's how I wanted it to be."
He said the sex lasted for about half an hour and felt "fantastic". Talking about his new manhood, he added: "I'm so pleased with it."
The caterer, who was born with a condition called bladder exstrophy, said he will take a fertility test to see whether they can conceive and they will adopt if they can't.
After the operation in June, Andrew told MailOnline: "I'm very excited that I can move on now. But I think having sex for the first time is more of a big deal for everyone else than it is for me.
"I've spent 44 years without a penis and I've coped with not having sex for all that time. It will take me a while to get in the swing of things.
"Of course, I'm looking forward to it. But, for me, it's not the be-all-and-end-all. It's a byproduct of the operation. It will enable me to feel part of society."
He went on: "I'm feeling good because they've given me painkillers but I'm sure I will feel a bit sore later on. I do feel different. I'm very aware there's some robotics inside me but it feels a part of me now. I'm very aware that I am half-human half-robot at the moment. I'm like the bionic man. I will even be able to perform if I am drunk."
Andrew Wardle with his girlfriend Fedra Fabian in hospital. Photo / Daily Mail
Andrew was born with bladder exstrophy, a rare birth defect that means the organ formed on the outside of his body. Although he has one testicle, the one-in-20-million condition meant Andrew was born without a penis.
As a child he underwent a surgical procedure to create an artificial opening known as a stoma in his urinary system. He had countless operations to build a tube from his bladder so he could pass water normally and suffered from kidney problems.
His rare birth defect led Andrew to attempt suicide but in 2012 he was given hope after being referred to Dan Wood, a consultant urologist at UCLH in London
He said: "My GP knew about my depression and suicide attempts. She told me: 'You can't live like this'.
"I thought: 'I've heard all this before,' but she actually got in touch with Mr Wood and said: 'I've got a guy who wants to meet you.'
"I went down to London and I was so skint I had to sleep on the streets. But it was worth it.
"Until then everybody had said: 'I can't do anything.' But he said: 'I can build you a new bladder and my friend can build you a penis.'
"It took me the whole journey home to understand what he meant. I thought: 'I've been in every hospital in the country and they've never said this before'."
Andrew had his first operation to remove his urostomy bag – his urine had been diverted into a specially-converted stoma – in February 2014.
He now has a Mitrofanoff – or catheter – to enable him to go to the lavatory.
"I think that saved my life more than my penis," he said.
"The urostomy was the worst thing. I didn't feel human, but I thought I was stuck with it.
"Now I have freedom. I'm never busting for the toilet any more. I find it better than a normal bladder."
Here's the science of how it works. Graphic / Daily Mail
However, his new bladder did cause complications. "The complete procedure was supposed to take two years," he said, "but in the end it was five years.
"They found a tiny pin prick in my abdomen, which slowed things down, which could have got infected.
"It caused a huge delay but there was nothing I could do about it because there was nowhere else I could go.
"They looked at operating, but it would have meant working around work they had already done so in the end they decided to avoid it."
Meanwhile, Mr Wood referred Andrew to see his colleague David Ralph, a fellow urologist and specialist in genital reconstruction.
Andrew and his surgeon decided the size of his appendage.
"They check your arm," explained Andrew. "I had a healthy forearm, so I got a nice size penis."
Then, in November 2015, Dr Ralph operated on Andrew, building the penis from the skin, muscles and nerves in his left arm and the vein in his right leg.
"Nobody told me until afterwards," he laughed. "I had slashes all over my body when I woke up.
"They moved all the muscle from my arm and then gave me a bum lift, the skin on my arm came from my bum.
After the operation in June, Andrew Wardle said he was excited that he can move on. Photo / Daily Mail
"The skin does feel tight, but I have feeling and everything now. It's amazing. The scars don't bother me but I'm going to have it tattooed.
"Otherwise I will have to cover it up when I go to Tesco. I don't want people coming up to me and asking me about it. It's too weird a conversation.
Andrew revealed that he had always felt like an outsider after being born with the congenital disease bladder exstrophy - literally turned inside out.
He felt abandoned by his birth mother, who had him adopted, and rejected by his birth parents for not being normal.
At school, he failed to fit in as his life was consumed by hospital appointments, rather than play dates and homework.
After dropping out, he turned to drugs, hiding his disability from scores of girlfriends, because he was too wasted to have sex.
It was only after he had an epiphany in Thailand, after quitting drugs, and meeting his current girlfriend Fedra Fabian, that he turned his life round.
"I had a lot of pain growing up. I went through a lot of operations and knew there was something wrong," he said.
It's technically possible for Fedra Fabian and Andrew Wardle to have children but they will wait and see whether they can conceive. Photo / Daily Mail
"I remember hearing a nurse speaking to a doctor saying: 'It's such a shame. He's such a handsome lad.'
"But it was only as a teenager that it hit me that it was going to be a real problem in the future.
"I tried to end my life twice. I turned to drugs. I turned to crime. I turned in on myself.
"I had really dark years. It was only when I found this hospital at the age of 39, that my life began to turn around."
Born in 1973, at Stepping Hill Hospital in Stockport, Cheshire, the son of single mother, Andrew was so ill that doctors thought he would not survive.
As well as bladder exstrophy, Andrew had epispadias, meaning that his bladder was not properly formed and his hips weren't fully joined.
Unable to cope, his mother put him up for adoption but it took 18 years of fostering before he was adopted.
He spent his childhood in and out of hospital - although surgeons managed to move his bladder inside his body, it was tiny and he was prone to infection.
"My whole life was operation after operation after operation,' he grimaced. 'The problem with my condition is that you look fine.
"But as soon as you operate on somebody's bladder, you increase the risk of infection.
"My school friends didn't know what was wrong but they knew that I was different because I always had bandages on me.
"I got very adept in the changing rooms. I was a genius at getting changed, like a burlesque dancer."
I remember hearing a nurse speaking to a doctor saying: 'It's such a shame. He's such a handsome lad.
However, as he hit puberty, the realisation struck that he was different from his peers.
"I started getting depressed," he said. "I hid it through comedy, having a laugh, messing around, like a typical schoolboy.
"I was taking a lot of drugs - ecstasy, LSD, cocaine," he admitted. "You could really blend in as it was the early 1990s, the days of acid house music.
"I used to take so many drugs that they called me the Chemical Brother. I didn't care what I was doing to myself."
Once I was in a relationship, I had to make excuses not to go to bed with them such as staying up late watching a film.
Perhaps because of his lack of availability, Andrew became a magnet for the girls.
But they were just a front to hide his disability: he never had sex with them, coming up with a range of excuses for being unable to perform.
"I was never single," he said. "But I never slept with them. For someone else it must sound bonkers but for me it was completely normal.
"Women found it really appealing because I didn't go for one-night stands. They loved it. They thought I was a gentleman.
"But once I was in a relationship, I had to make excuses not to go to bed with them such as staying up late watching a film.
"I would even end up in a wrestling match with them on the bed. I once told a woman I was a Muslim because I had run out of anything else.
"She said: 'But I've seen you drinking,' and I said: 'Alcohol free.' My biggest excuse was being too drugged up.
"I preferred a woman to leave me because I was off my head on drugs than for the real reason."
If the relationship lasted, he would eventually come clean: some women were understanding; others took it badly.
"I once got punched in the face," he recalled. "I thought that was a bit harsh but she did say sorry.
"Then she said: 'I'm going to have a chat with my mum and see what my mum says about it.'
"And I thought: 'Well she's going to say, listen if you love someone, it's really worth fighting for.'
"I was really naive. Her mum actually said: 'Just get rid of him straight away.' I couldn't believe it.
Andrew Wardle and his girlfriend of six years Fedra Fabian are heading off for a romantic getaway to Amsterdam. Photo / Facebook
"The timing was always really difficult. You can't go up to someone and say: 'My name's Andrew and I haven't got a willy.' People would think I was nutty.
"So, you are always going to lead someone on. There is never a right time. No matter what anyone says. It's always going to come across badly.
"The longer you leave it the harder it is but if you say it at the beginning you look mental."
Gradually Andrew's life spiralled out of control. In 2007, at the age of 34, he left Butlin's and drifted into casual work at fast food outlets in the seaside town of Skegness, Lincolnshire.
At Christmas 2011 he made his second suicide attempt.
"And then one day I was walking on the beach and saw an old woman in a hammock.
"She was obviously homeless but was chatting and friendly and it just hit me: 'If she can be happy and have a life when she is homeless then surely I can.'
"I left my anger and depression in Thailand and was a completely different person when I came home."
WHERE TO GET HELP:
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