NZ Herald
  • Home
  • Latest news
  • Herald NOW
  • Video
  • New Zealand
  • Sport
  • World
  • Business
  • Entertainment
  • Podcasts
  • Quizzes
  • Opinion
  • Lifestyle
  • Travel
  • Viva
  • Weather

Subscriptions

  • Herald Premium
  • Viva Premium
  • The Listener
  • BusinessDesk

Sections

  • Latest news
  • New Zealand
    • All New Zealand
    • Crime
    • Politics
    • Education
    • Open Justice
    • Scam Update
  • Herald NOW
  • On The Up
  • World
    • All World
    • Australia
    • Asia
    • UK
    • United States
    • Middle East
    • Europe
    • Pacific
  • Business
    • All Business
    • MarketsSharesCurrencyCommoditiesStock TakesCrypto
    • Markets with Madison
    • Media Insider
    • Business analysis
    • Personal financeKiwiSaverInterest ratesTaxInvestment
    • EconomyInflationGDPOfficial cash rateEmployment
    • Small business
    • Business reportsMood of the BoardroomProject AucklandSustainable business and financeCapital markets reportAgribusiness reportInfrastructure reportDynamic business
    • Deloitte Top 200 Awards
    • CompaniesAged CareAgribusinessAirlinesBanking and financeConstructionEnergyFreight and logisticsHealthcareManufacturingMedia and MarketingRetailTelecommunicationsTourism
  • Opinion
    • All Opinion
    • Analysis
    • Editorials
    • Business analysis
    • Premium opinion
    • Letters to the editor
  • Politics
  • Sport
    • All Sport
    • OlympicsParalympics
    • RugbySuper RugbyNPCAll BlacksBlack FernsRugby sevensSchool rugby
    • CricketBlack CapsWhite Ferns
    • Racing
    • NetballSilver Ferns
    • LeagueWarriorsNRL
    • FootballWellington PhoenixAuckland FCAll WhitesFootball FernsEnglish Premier League
    • GolfNZ Open
    • MotorsportFormula 1
    • Boxing
    • UFC
    • BasketballNBABreakersTall BlacksTall Ferns
    • Tennis
    • Cycling
    • Athletics
    • SailingAmerica's CupSailGP
    • Rowing
  • Lifestyle
    • All Lifestyle
    • Viva - Food, fashion & beauty
    • Society Insider
    • Royals
    • Sex & relationships
    • Food & drinkRecipesRecipe collectionsRestaurant reviewsRestaurant bookings
    • Health & wellbeing
    • Fashion & beauty
    • Pets & animals
    • The Selection - Shop the trendsShop fashionShop beautyShop entertainmentShop giftsShop home & living
    • Milford's Investing Place
  • Entertainment
    • All Entertainment
    • TV
    • MoviesMovie reviews
    • MusicMusic reviews
    • BooksBook reviews
    • Culture
    • ReviewsBook reviewsMovie reviewsMusic reviewsRestaurant reviews
  • Travel
    • All Travel
    • News
    • New ZealandNorthlandAucklandWellingtonCanterburyOtago / QueenstownNelson-TasmanBest NZ beaches
    • International travelAustraliaPacific IslandsEuropeUKUSAAfricaAsia
    • Rail holidays
    • Cruise holidays
    • Ski holidays
    • Luxury travel
    • Adventure travel
  • Kāhu Māori news
  • Environment
    • All Environment
    • Our Green Future
  • Talanoa Pacific news
  • Property
    • All Property
    • Property Insider
    • Interest rates tracker
    • Residential property listings
    • Commercial property listings
  • Health
  • Technology
    • All Technology
    • AI
    • Social media
  • Rural
    • All Rural
    • Dairy farming
    • Sheep & beef farming
    • Horticulture
    • Animal health
    • Rural business
    • Rural life
    • Rural technology
    • Opinion
    • Audio & podcasts
  • Weather forecasts
    • All Weather forecasts
    • Kaitaia
    • Whangārei
    • Dargaville
    • Auckland
    • Thames
    • Tauranga
    • Hamilton
    • Whakatāne
    • Rotorua
    • Tokoroa
    • Te Kuiti
    • Taumaranui
    • Taupō
    • Gisborne
    • New Plymouth
    • Napier
    • Hastings
    • Dannevirke
    • Whanganui
    • Palmerston North
    • Levin
    • Paraparaumu
    • Masterton
    • Wellington
    • Motueka
    • Nelson
    • Blenheim
    • Westport
    • Reefton
    • Kaikōura
    • Greymouth
    • Hokitika
    • Christchurch
    • Ashburton
    • Timaru
    • Wānaka
    • Oamaru
    • Queenstown
    • Dunedin
    • Gore
    • Invercargill
  • Meet the journalists
  • Promotions & competitions
  • OneRoof property listings
  • Driven car news

Puzzles & Quizzes

  • Puzzles
    • All Puzzles
    • Sudoku
    • Code Cracker
    • Crosswords
    • Cryptic crossword
    • Wordsearch
  • Quizzes
    • All Quizzes
    • Morning quiz
    • Afternoon quiz
    • Sports quiz

Regions

  • Northland
    • All Northland
    • Far North
    • Kaitaia
    • Kerikeri
    • Kaikohe
    • Bay of Islands
    • Whangarei
    • Dargaville
    • Kaipara
    • Mangawhai
  • Auckland
  • Waikato
    • All Waikato
    • Hamilton
    • Coromandel & Hauraki
    • Matamata & Piako
    • Cambridge
    • Te Awamutu
    • Tokoroa & South Waikato
    • Taupō & Tūrangi
  • Bay of Plenty
    • All Bay of Plenty
    • Katikati
    • Tauranga
    • Mount Maunganui
    • Pāpāmoa
    • Te Puke
    • Whakatāne
  • Rotorua
  • Hawke's Bay
    • All Hawke's Bay
    • Napier
    • Hastings
    • Havelock North
    • Central Hawke's Bay
    • Wairoa
  • Taranaki
    • All Taranaki
    • Stratford
    • New Plymouth
    • Hāwera
  • Manawatū - Whanganui
    • All Manawatū - Whanganui
    • Whanganui
    • Palmerston North
    • Manawatū
    • Tararua
    • Horowhenua
  • Wellington
    • All Wellington
    • Kapiti
    • Wairarapa
    • Upper Hutt
    • Lower Hutt
  • Nelson & Tasman
    • All Nelson & Tasman
    • Motueka
    • Nelson
    • Tasman
  • Marlborough
  • West Coast
  • Canterbury
    • All Canterbury
    • Kaikōura
    • Christchurch
    • Ashburton
    • Timaru
  • Otago
    • All Otago
    • Oamaru
    • Dunedin
    • Balclutha
    • Alexandra
    • Queenstown
    • Wanaka
  • Southland
    • All Southland
    • Invercargill
    • Gore
    • Stewart Island
  • Gisborne

Media

  • Video
    • All Video
    • NZ news video
    • Herald NOW
    • Business news video
    • Politics news video
    • Sport video
    • World news video
    • Lifestyle video
    • Entertainment video
    • Travel video
    • Markets with Madison
    • Kea Kids news
  • Podcasts
    • All Podcasts
    • The Front Page
    • On the Tiles
    • Ask me Anything
    • The Little Things
  • Cartoons
  • Photo galleries
  • Today's Paper - E-editions
  • Photo sales
  • Classifieds

NZME Network

  • Advertise with NZME
  • OneRoof
  • Driven Car Guide
  • BusinessDesk
  • Newstalk ZB
  • Sunlive
  • ZM
  • The Hits
  • Coast
  • Radio Hauraki
  • The Alternative Commentary Collective
  • Gold
  • Flava
  • iHeart Radio
  • Hokonui
  • Radio Wanaka
  • iHeartCountry New Zealand
  • Restaurant Hub
  • NZME Events

SubscribeSign In
Advertisement
Advertise with NZME.
Home / Travel

Why swinger cruises are seeing a resurgence and the secret language of lifestyle cruises

Thomas Bywater
By Thomas Bywater
Writer and Multimedia Producer·NZ Herald·
25 Jul, 2022 06:15 AM4 mins to read

Subscribe to listen

Access to Herald Premium articles require a Premium subscription. Subscribe now to listen.
Already a subscriber?  Sign in here

Listening to articles is free for open-access content—explore other articles or learn more about text-to-speech.
‌
Save

    Share this article

Pineapple parties: Swinger shorthand has been developed to help them network on 'Vanilla' cruises. Photo / Getty Images

Pineapple parties: Swinger shorthand has been developed to help them network on 'Vanilla' cruises. Photo / Getty Images

If you like pina colada and getting caught in the rain… pay close attention to the pineapples on your next cruise. For one group of cruise goers they have a very specific meaning, according to Luxury Lifestyle Vacations, a cruise company that specialises in sailings for swingers.

The cruising crowd are a friendly bunch.

"Meeting like-minded people" was listed as a top reason people sail, according to Bliss Cruises, which specialises in "couples only" cruises.

With so many different niche and speciality operators, cruise ships are places where holidaymakers go to follow their interests. There are sailings for culture vultures, naturalists, adrenaline junkies - even swingers. Maybe that should be especially swingers.

Advertisement
Advertise with NZME.
Advertisement
Advertise with NZME.

Swingers - who enjoy the practice of swapping spouses - are increasingly heading to the high seas in search to satisfy their sexual fantasies.

It's something that's not normally discussed in polite society. So swingers have developed a shorthand to catch the attention of passengers who share their niche interest.

Pineapples are just one of a myriad of not-so-secret ways of finding others this shared interest.

It's useful particularly on "Vanilla" - or non adults-only - sailings - say Matt and Bianca Garry, who run The Travelling Swingers vlog. The couple who have been married for 25 years recently discussed the matter on why cruising was seeing a swinging resurgence.

Advertisement
Advertise with NZME.

"We love the cruises," Matt Garry said via the couple's vlog, adding that he and his wife had set up a system of swapping cabin numbers with other passengers to help navigate large ships.

"Walking down the hallway and you start a conversation with somebody and you hit it off, but these ships are so big that you might never see those people again."

Swinging on the high seas: Companies like Bliss Cruises charter large ships from cruise liners to hold their 'lifestyle' itineraries for swingers. Photo / Brandon Newson, Unsplash
Swinging on the high seas: Companies like Bliss Cruises charter large ships from cruise liners to hold their 'lifestyle' itineraries for swingers. Photo / Brandon Newson, Unsplash

The couple say they've done about seven swing-specific cruises. It's a broad church: a mix of all ages from 20s to their 80s, shapes and sizes.

"It's like, you don't just have the cruise as a party you have to have before parties," said Bianca.

Discover more

Travel

Foot and Mouth scare: What you must know before planning a Bali getaway

25 Jul 01:04 AM
Travel

Train passenger wakes up in a city 660km away from intended destination

25 Jul 07:00 AM

"Once you've gone on a 'Lifestyle' cruise you'll never want to go on a 'Vanilla' cruise again.

Apart from pineapples there is supposedly an entire language of secret symbols swingers use to advertise their interests. Growing Pampas grass in your front garden, wearing a wedding ring on the right hand or upside down pineapple accessories, a habbit of misplacing their car keys - there are plenty of tells. Some are more easy to fit into your cruise carry on than others.

That is why specialist cruises like LLV and Bliss Lifestyle Cruises set up shop. Cruises specifically aimed at swinger couples saves a lot of potential embarrassment, subterfuge and beating around the erm… Pampas grass.

Bliss Cruises - says it runs itineraries to give swingers a "safe space" to operate their lifestyle.

Bliss which charters ships from Royal Caribbean and other lines specialises in "couples' only" itineraries. Managing partner Joe Giantonio told USA Today that they organise activities for specific tastes - from lectures on BDSM kink to nude activities like naturalist yoga.

"It could be anything in between just a sexually charged vacation for couples that don't want kids (around), to a hardcore giant orgy in the playroom."

Advertisement
Advertise with NZME.
Pineapples are a symbol used by swingers to identify themselves to others with shared interests. Photo / Getty Images
Pineapples are a symbol used by swingers to identify themselves to others with shared interests. Photo / Getty Images

Still on the website the tone is a bit more Euphemistic, advertising "dancing, entertainment and intimate activities." Giantonio says that only 60 per cent of the cruisers were there to "hang out" with other couples, in the swinger parlance.

Most people get involved via specific "lifestyle" travel agencies who specialise in swinging itineraries. Some passenger smight not be there to swing at all.

As one review of the Bliss Cruise wrote via the Reddit forum r/swingers put it.

"You are on a boat with 4k people, most are swingers (not everyone who goes is), so if you are looking for fun you have a good chance of finding it," they wrote. "Loud music, people dancing badly - all normal swinger party fare, and every day."

Save

    Share this article

Latest from Travel

Travel

Disney Insider: A go to guide to the ultimate Disneyland holiday

15 Jun 07:00 AM
Travel

Australia’s top winter activities you won’t want to miss

14 Jun 08:00 PM
Travel

What it’s like exploring Palawan in the Philippines

14 Jun 08:00 PM

One pass, ten snowy adventures

sponsored
Advertisement
Advertise with NZME.

Latest from Travel

Disney Insider: A go to guide to the ultimate Disneyland holiday

Disney Insider: A go to guide to the ultimate Disneyland holiday

15 Jun 07:00 AM

From skipping the queues to planning your parade spot, here's all you need to know.

Australia’s top winter activities you won’t want to miss

Australia’s top winter activities you won’t want to miss

14 Jun 08:00 PM
What it’s like exploring Palawan in the Philippines

What it’s like exploring Palawan in the Philippines

14 Jun 08:00 PM
This beach is the most complained about in the world

This beach is the most complained about in the world

13 Jun 08:00 PM
Your Fiordland experience, levelled up
sponsored

Your Fiordland experience, levelled up

NZ Herald
  • About NZ Herald
  • Meet the journalists
  • Newsletters
  • Classifieds
  • Help & support
  • Contact us
  • House rules
  • Privacy Policy
  • Terms of use
  • Competition terms & conditions
  • Our use of AI
Subscriber Services
  • NZ Herald e-editions
  • Daily puzzles & quizzes
  • Manage your digital subscription
  • Manage your print subscription
  • Subscribe to the NZ Herald newspaper
  • Subscribe to Herald Premium
  • Gift a subscription
  • Subscriber FAQs
  • Subscription terms & conditions
  • Promotions and subscriber benefits
NZME Network
  • The New Zealand Herald
  • The Northland Age
  • The Northern Advocate
  • Waikato Herald
  • Bay of Plenty Times
  • Rotorua Daily Post
  • Hawke's Bay Today
  • Whanganui Chronicle
  • Viva
  • NZ Listener
  • Newstalk ZB
  • BusinessDesk
  • OneRoof
  • Driven Car Guide
  • iHeart Radio
  • Restaurant Hub
NZME
  • About NZME
  • NZME careers
  • Advertise with NZME
  • Digital self-service advertising
  • Book your classified ad
  • Photo sales
  • NZME Events
  • © Copyright 2025 NZME Publishing Limited
TOP