He said the family had also been trying to be realistic about the chances of seeing their treasures again. "But the confirmation it is gone is still pretty hard."
He was unsure what the next step for the family would be.
Mr Fellows would have liked to make his way over to Matakana Island to see what else had washed up but feared getting in trouble for poking through other people's property.
"And there may be things we don't want to see," he said.
"The videos, the photos, the mementoes we collected through our travels, the things the kids have made us at day care. They are things no one else would understand because it may just be a piece of clay."
However, the confirmation meant he could now get on to his insurance company.