Every parent has been through it a million times. We can't be everywhere our kids want us, our employers want us, our partners want us. This if life, so we work out what matters.
I would argue D-Day matters. And it matters more than what she decided mattered more, a meeting in Marlborough spruiking her Wellbeing Budget. In fact she might be the last one standing arguing that a meeting spruiking a Budget beats the commemoration of a significant day in history.
Which is why I raise this now - we need to have something better from her.
"I can't be everywhere" is a fob off.
Why was she allowed to fob it off so badly? Why is a one-liner, a glib top of the mind one-liner, allowed to pass from a Prime Minister as even remotely acceptable?
Why doesn't the media ask a few follow up questions? And more importantly in asking those follow up questions, aren't you fascinated to know just how something as significant as D-Day got dropped down a list of things to do, or places to be?
Not in Portsmouth, not in Wellington, why? The event has been in the calendar for 75 years, so short notice isn't a reason. Did someone in her office not think D-Day mattered?
Is she surrounded by millennials that have never heard of D-Day? Was there not a single person in her life that at some point alerted her to D-Day, its significance or wondered out loud, perhaps even in an alarming fashion, that maybe D-Day beats Marlborough?
Why, dare I ask, didn't she all by herself instinctively know that what she did that day was an extraordinary mistake, if not an insult?
Lest we forget how that day shaped this country, all allied countries and because of the bravery of those men, the world changed. If we don't have the humanity to mark that at the highest level, what was the point of the fight?