“It has changed my life, since the abuse happened, I don’t feel like a normal kid anymore, I feel nervous.
The girl was 11 when the man, who has name suppression, showed her online pornography, told her to undress and then indecently assaulted her.
“I don’t trust people like I used to, I have a hard time focusing on school now, I try to pay attention, but my head goes blank, I feel like I can’t keep up anymore,” she told the court during his sentencing this week.
“I just get angry, other times I start crying, people think I am being dramatic, but they don’t know what is going on inside.
The court heard of numerous assaults; the man had initially accused the girl’s mother of cheating and pushed her up against a wall, about six months into their relationship.
He then backhand punched her while she was holding a baby in the back seat of a car he was driving.
After that he started verbally abusing her almost every day .
“She would get a hiding at least once a week,” Judge Neave said.
He would punch her while she was holding an infant, and sometimes in the face.
Another incident resulted in a permanent scar on her neck.
Christchurch District Court Photo / Nate McKinnon, RNZ
On yet another occasion, he held a kitchen knife to her neck and applied pressure.
“She thought you were going to kill her,” the judge said.
The assaults continued after she discovered she was pregnant.
The woman told the man in a statement she read in court that she “walked on eggshells” around him as the assaults happened while the children were present.
One thing that could not be excused was the sexual abuse of her daughter, she said.
Crown prosecutor Penny Brown said it was both violent and sexual offending with numerous and extensive attacks to the neck and in the presence of children.
There was also a risk to an unborn child, she said.
“I want to say the guilty plea was extremely late, it spared the young victim from giving evidence at trial.”
Defence lawyer Kathy Basire said there were multiple reports and letters of support and she described him as a “different man now”.
She said a sentence of home detention could be reached.
There was a “nexus” with his background issues in terms of the offending, she said.
Judge Neave responded, saying the man had turned into a “violent terrorist in the home”.
Basire said he was coming down off methamphetamine.
“It doesn’t justify or explain six months of violence,” the judge said.
Judge Neave jailed the man for two years and 10 months on charges of an indecent act with a child, exposure of a young person to indecent material, assault with a weapon (representative), assault on a person in a family relationship (representative) and assault on a person in a family relationship.
Al Williams is an Open Justice reporter for the New Zealand Herald, based in Christchurch. He has worked in daily and community titles in New Zealand and overseas for the last 16 years. Most recently he was editor of the Hauraki-Coromandel Post, based in Whangamatā. He was previously deputy editor of the Cook Islands News.