NZ Herald
  • Home
  • Latest news
  • Herald NOW
  • Video
  • New Zealand
  • Sport
  • World
  • Business
  • Entertainment
  • Podcasts
  • Quizzes
  • Opinion
  • Lifestyle
  • Travel
  • Viva
  • Weather

Subscriptions

  • Herald Premium
  • Viva Premium
  • The Listener
  • BusinessDesk

Sections

  • Latest news
  • New Zealand
    • All New Zealand
    • Crime
    • Politics
    • Education
    • Open Justice
    • Scam Update
  • Herald NOW
  • On The Up
  • World
    • All World
    • Australia
    • Asia
    • UK
    • United States
    • Middle East
    • Europe
    • Pacific
  • Business
    • All Business
    • MarketsSharesCurrencyCommoditiesStock TakesCrypto
    • Markets with Madison
    • Media Insider
    • Business analysis
    • Personal financeKiwiSaverInterest ratesTaxInvestment
    • EconomyInflationGDPOfficial cash rateEmployment
    • Small business
    • Business reportsMood of the BoardroomProject AucklandSustainable business and financeCapital markets reportAgribusiness reportInfrastructure reportDynamic business
    • Deloitte Top 200 Awards
    • CompaniesAged CareAgribusinessAirlinesBanking and financeConstructionEnergyFreight and logisticsHealthcareManufacturingMedia and MarketingRetailTelecommunicationsTourism
  • Opinion
    • All Opinion
    • Analysis
    • Editorials
    • Business analysis
    • Premium opinion
    • Letters to the editor
  • Politics
  • Sport
    • All Sport
    • OlympicsParalympics
    • RugbySuper RugbyNPCAll BlacksBlack FernsRugby sevensSchool rugby
    • CricketBlack CapsWhite Ferns
    • Racing
    • NetballSilver Ferns
    • LeagueWarriorsNRL
    • FootballWellington PhoenixAuckland FCAll WhitesFootball FernsEnglish Premier League
    • GolfNZ Open
    • MotorsportFormula 1
    • Boxing
    • UFC
    • BasketballNBABreakersTall BlacksTall Ferns
    • Tennis
    • Cycling
    • Athletics
    • SailingAmerica's CupSailGP
    • Rowing
  • Lifestyle
    • All Lifestyle
    • Viva - Food, fashion & beauty
    • Society Insider
    • Royals
    • Sex & relationships
    • Food & drinkRecipesRecipe collectionsRestaurant reviewsRestaurant bookings
    • Health & wellbeing
    • Fashion & beauty
    • Pets & animals
    • The Selection - Shop the trendsShop fashionShop beautyShop entertainmentShop giftsShop home & living
    • Milford's Investing Place
  • Entertainment
    • All Entertainment
    • TV
    • MoviesMovie reviews
    • MusicMusic reviews
    • BooksBook reviews
    • Culture
    • ReviewsBook reviewsMovie reviewsMusic reviewsRestaurant reviews
  • Travel
    • All Travel
    • News
    • New ZealandNorthlandAucklandWellingtonCanterburyOtago / QueenstownNelson-TasmanBest NZ beaches
    • International travelAustraliaPacific IslandsEuropeUKUSAAfricaAsia
    • Rail holidays
    • Cruise holidays
    • Ski holidays
    • Luxury travel
    • Adventure travel
  • Kāhu Māori news
  • Environment
    • All Environment
    • Our Green Future
  • Talanoa Pacific news
  • Property
    • All Property
    • Property Insider
    • Interest rates tracker
    • Residential property listings
    • Commercial property listings
  • Health
  • Technology
    • All Technology
    • AI
    • Social media
  • Rural
    • All Rural
    • Dairy farming
    • Sheep & beef farming
    • Horticulture
    • Animal health
    • Rural business
    • Rural life
    • Rural technology
    • Opinion
    • Audio & podcasts
  • Weather forecasts
    • All Weather forecasts
    • Kaitaia
    • Whangārei
    • Dargaville
    • Auckland
    • Thames
    • Tauranga
    • Hamilton
    • Whakatāne
    • Rotorua
    • Tokoroa
    • Te Kuiti
    • Taumaranui
    • Taupō
    • Gisborne
    • New Plymouth
    • Napier
    • Hastings
    • Dannevirke
    • Whanganui
    • Palmerston North
    • Levin
    • Paraparaumu
    • Masterton
    • Wellington
    • Motueka
    • Nelson
    • Blenheim
    • Westport
    • Reefton
    • Kaikōura
    • Greymouth
    • Hokitika
    • Christchurch
    • Ashburton
    • Timaru
    • Wānaka
    • Oamaru
    • Queenstown
    • Dunedin
    • Gore
    • Invercargill
  • Meet the journalists
  • Promotions & competitions
  • OneRoof property listings
  • Driven car news

Puzzles & Quizzes

  • Puzzles
    • All Puzzles
    • Sudoku
    • Code Cracker
    • Crosswords
    • Cryptic crossword
    • Wordsearch
  • Quizzes
    • All Quizzes
    • Morning quiz
    • Afternoon quiz
    • Sports quiz

Regions

  • Northland
    • All Northland
    • Far North
    • Kaitaia
    • Kerikeri
    • Kaikohe
    • Bay of Islands
    • Whangarei
    • Dargaville
    • Kaipara
    • Mangawhai
  • Auckland
  • Waikato
    • All Waikato
    • Hamilton
    • Coromandel & Hauraki
    • Matamata & Piako
    • Cambridge
    • Te Awamutu
    • Tokoroa & South Waikato
    • Taupō & Tūrangi
  • Bay of Plenty
    • All Bay of Plenty
    • Katikati
    • Tauranga
    • Mount Maunganui
    • Pāpāmoa
    • Te Puke
    • Whakatāne
  • Rotorua
  • Hawke's Bay
    • All Hawke's Bay
    • Napier
    • Hastings
    • Havelock North
    • Central Hawke's Bay
    • Wairoa
  • Taranaki
    • All Taranaki
    • Stratford
    • New Plymouth
    • Hāwera
  • Manawatū - Whanganui
    • All Manawatū - Whanganui
    • Whanganui
    • Palmerston North
    • Manawatū
    • Tararua
    • Horowhenua
  • Wellington
    • All Wellington
    • Kapiti
    • Wairarapa
    • Upper Hutt
    • Lower Hutt
  • Nelson & Tasman
    • All Nelson & Tasman
    • Motueka
    • Nelson
    • Tasman
  • Marlborough
  • West Coast
  • Canterbury
    • All Canterbury
    • Kaikōura
    • Christchurch
    • Ashburton
    • Timaru
  • Otago
    • All Otago
    • Oamaru
    • Dunedin
    • Balclutha
    • Alexandra
    • Queenstown
    • Wanaka
  • Southland
    • All Southland
    • Invercargill
    • Gore
    • Stewart Island
  • Gisborne

Media

  • Video
    • All Video
    • NZ news video
    • Herald NOW
    • Business news video
    • Politics news video
    • Sport video
    • World news video
    • Lifestyle video
    • Entertainment video
    • Travel video
    • Markets with Madison
    • Kea Kids news
  • Podcasts
    • All Podcasts
    • The Front Page
    • On the Tiles
    • Ask me Anything
    • The Little Things
  • Cartoons
  • Photo galleries
  • Today's Paper - E-editions
  • Photo sales
  • Classifieds

NZME Network

  • Advertise with NZME
  • OneRoof
  • Driven Car Guide
  • BusinessDesk
  • Newstalk ZB
  • Sunlive
  • ZM
  • The Hits
  • Coast
  • Radio Hauraki
  • The Alternative Commentary Collective
  • Gold
  • Flava
  • iHeart Radio
  • Hokonui
  • Radio Wanaka
  • iHeartCountry New Zealand
  • Restaurant Hub
  • NZME Events

SubscribeSign In
Advertisement
Advertise with NZME.
Home / New Zealand

<i>Deborah Coddington</i>: The hardest part - knowing when to say goodbye

Herald on Sunday
6 Mar, 2010 03:00 PM4 mins to read

Subscribe to listen

Access to Herald Premium articles require a Premium subscription. Subscribe now to listen.
Already a subscriber?  Sign in here

Listening to articles is free for open-access content—explore other articles or learn more about text-to-speech.
‌
Save

    Share this article

Taja was always up for a stroll, even in her autumn years. Photo / Supplied

Taja was always up for a stroll, even in her autumn years. Photo / Supplied

Opinion by

Just one more day, I wanted to ask of her. Give me one more day. But owners have to make that terrible decision for our pets.

It was called the Death With Dignity Bill.

Narrowly defeated, it intended to give us the chance, when still of sane mind, to state that if we ended up incurably ill and didn't want to suffer a long and painful death, voluntary euthanasia was an option.

We could have
someone legally act on our wishes, and not allow us To Die Like a Dog, as says the title of Lesley Martin's book.

It sounded so compassionate, but what about the person - wife, husband, parent - who would have to make that decision?

This week I made that decision for the sweetest-natured dog I've ever known, and I've had quite a few. Taja was 17 years old, a marathon effort for a chocolate labrador.

When she arrived as a puppy we weren't emotionally prepared; still grieving over Khan, who'd been hit by a train by Remuera station. But rural relatives couldn't keep this skinny, timid little bitch, so how could we turn her away?

Dogs do that. They take over your heart. The kids begged to let the puppy stay. They promised to take her for walks, clean up her house-training mistakes, feed her every night, and wash her when she'd rolled in muck.

Somehow it was always me who ended up the sucker, but I wouldn't have it any other way. When you have a dog for 17 years, the family memories go back a while.

A stand-out was the time, about 14 years ago, when Imogen had pet day at Remuera Primary, and decided to enter Taja as best-dressed.

So we popped Taja in a pink ballet tutu, tied a big pink bow around her neck and took her off to school. Her initial doggy gloominess rapidly gave way to pure, unadulterated love when she spotted Mark Leishman's golden labrador, Dexter the Wonderdog.

Taja danced around, up on her hand legs, twisting and turning, like a true ballerina. Boy, was she glad she was in a pink tutu, standing out from the rest of the crowd, trying to get Dexter's attention.

Sad to say it was unrequited love. Dexter totally ignored this silly teenage wannabe sleb in her pink tutu, raised his muzzle disdainfully, and looked the other way.

Not that Taja got the hint, shameful slapper that she was. She rolled on her back, waved her legs in the air, exposed her private parts in absolute desperation until she was dragged away, upside down, in disgrace.

But she did win the prize for the best-dressed dog.

When I lived in Remuera, each morning she walked with me over Mt Hobson and made friends with every dog she met. Her favourite times were riding with the kids - through vineyards in Kumeu, and latterly, with me across the Martinborough hills.

In the past few months, however, as her arthritis got worse, I guiltily sneaked out riding without her. Taja's famous stoicism, and stubborn streak, would have driven her to clamber across the Southern Alps if it meant being with me.

She never complained, never hurt anyone or anything, and was the best-behaved dog. The kids taught her to look away when anyone was eating, and never to take food from little children's hands.

The only disapproval she ever voiced was the classic labrador sigh, always expressed with head resting between paws, eyes trained firmly on you with that long-suffering look.

The ducks stepped across her while she slept. The hedgehogs ate her dinner while she watched them help themselves. Occasionally, just because she could, she chased the cat all of 2m.

But on Tuesday she couldn't get up and her eyes told me she'd had enough.

Just one more day, I wanted to ask of her. Give me one more day. But owners have to make that terrible decision for our pets. We cuddle them, and end their suffering. Could we do it for a spouse?

There were many people to tell - London, Sydney, all over New Zealand - Taja touched hundreds of lives, and messages flowed in from dog lovers. Everyone who knew her, who looked after her for me, truly loved her.

What person, in honesty, could ever have that said about them?

Advertisement
Advertise with NZME.
Advertisement
Advertise with NZME.
Save

    Share this article

Latest from New Zealand

Politics

Exclusive: National loses control of cost of living to Labour in new survey

18 Jun 05:00 PM
Premium
Letters to the Editor

Letters: New vape rules leave much still to be addressed

18 Jun 05:00 PM
New Zealand

Morning quiz: A group of mice is called what?

18 Jun 05:00 PM

Jono and Ben brew up a tea-fuelled adventure in Sri Lanka

sponsored
Advertisement
Advertise with NZME.

Latest from New Zealand

Exclusive: National loses control of cost of living to Labour in new survey

Exclusive: National loses control of cost of living to Labour in new survey

18 Jun 05:00 PM

Inflation is the top issue for Kiwis and they think Labour is best to keep prices down.

Premium
Letters: New vape rules leave much still to be addressed

Letters: New vape rules leave much still to be addressed

18 Jun 05:00 PM
Morning quiz: A group of mice is called what?

Morning quiz: A group of mice is called what?

18 Jun 05:00 PM
'Compelled to stay': More teachers working past 65 amid shortages

'Compelled to stay': More teachers working past 65 amid shortages

18 Jun 05:00 PM
Help for those helping hardest-hit
sponsored

Help for those helping hardest-hit

NZ Herald
  • About NZ Herald
  • Meet the journalists
  • Newsletters
  • Classifieds
  • Help & support
  • Contact us
  • House rules
  • Privacy Policy
  • Terms of use
  • Competition terms & conditions
  • Our use of AI
Subscriber Services
  • NZ Herald e-editions
  • Daily puzzles & quizzes
  • Manage your digital subscription
  • Manage your print subscription
  • Subscribe to the NZ Herald newspaper
  • Subscribe to Herald Premium
  • Gift a subscription
  • Subscriber FAQs
  • Subscription terms & conditions
  • Promotions and subscriber benefits
NZME Network
  • The New Zealand Herald
  • The Northland Age
  • The Northern Advocate
  • Waikato Herald
  • Bay of Plenty Times
  • Rotorua Daily Post
  • Hawke's Bay Today
  • Whanganui Chronicle
  • Viva
  • NZ Listener
  • Newstalk ZB
  • BusinessDesk
  • OneRoof
  • Driven Car Guide
  • iHeart Radio
  • Restaurant Hub
NZME
  • About NZME
  • NZME careers
  • Advertise with NZME
  • Digital self-service advertising
  • Book your classified ad
  • Photo sales
  • NZME Events
  • © Copyright 2025 NZME Publishing Limited
TOP