NZ Herald
  • Home
  • Latest news
  • Herald NOW
  • Video
  • New Zealand
  • Sport
  • World
  • Business
  • Entertainment
  • Podcasts
  • Quizzes
  • Opinion
  • Lifestyle
  • Travel
  • Viva
  • Weather

Subscriptions

  • Herald Premium
  • Viva Premium
  • The Listener
  • BusinessDesk

Sections

  • Latest news
  • New Zealand
    • All New Zealand
    • Crime
    • Politics
    • Education
    • Open Justice
    • Scam Update
  • Herald NOW
  • On The Up
  • World
    • All World
    • Australia
    • Asia
    • UK
    • United States
    • Middle East
    • Europe
    • Pacific
  • Business
    • All Business
    • MarketsSharesCurrencyCommoditiesStock TakesCrypto
    • Markets with Madison
    • Media Insider
    • Business analysis
    • Personal financeKiwiSaverInterest ratesTaxInvestment
    • EconomyInflationGDPOfficial cash rateEmployment
    • Small business
    • Business reportsMood of the BoardroomProject AucklandSustainable business and financeCapital markets reportAgribusiness reportInfrastructure reportDynamic business
    • Deloitte Top 200 Awards
    • Deloitte Fast 50
    • CompaniesAged CareAgribusinessAirlinesBanking and financeConstructionEnergyFreight and logisticsHealthcareManufacturingMedia and MarketingRetailTelecommunicationsTourism
  • Opinion
    • All Opinion
    • Analysis
    • Editorials
    • Business analysis
    • Premium opinion
    • Letters to the editor
  • Politics
  • Sport
    • All Sport
    • OlympicsParalympics
    • RugbySuper RugbyNPCAll BlacksBlack FernsRugby sevensSchool rugby
    • CricketBlack CapsWhite Ferns
    • Racing
    • NetballSilver Ferns
    • LeagueWarriorsNRL
    • FootballWellington PhoenixAuckland FCAll WhitesFootball FernsEnglish Premier League
    • GolfNZ Open
    • MotorsportFormula 1
    • Boxing
    • UFC
    • BasketballNBABreakersTall BlacksTall Ferns
    • Tennis
    • Cycling
    • Athletics
    • SailingAmerica's CupSailGP
    • Rowing
  • Lifestyle
    • All Lifestyle
    • Viva - Food, fashion & beauty
    • Society Insider
    • Royals
    • Sex & relationships
    • Food & drinkRecipesRecipe collectionsRestaurant reviewsRestaurant bookings
    • Health & wellbeing
    • Fashion & beauty
    • Pets & animals
    • The Selection - Shop the trendsShop fashionShop beautyShop entertainmentShop giftsShop home & living
    • Milford's Investing Place
  • Entertainment
    • All Entertainment
    • TV
    • MoviesMovie reviews
    • MusicMusic reviews
    • BooksBook reviews
    • Culture
    • ReviewsBook reviewsMovie reviewsMusic reviewsRestaurant reviews
  • Travel
    • All Travel
    • News
    • New ZealandNorthlandAucklandWellingtonCanterburyOtago / QueenstownNelson-TasmanBest NZ beaches
    • International travelAustraliaPacific IslandsEuropeUKUSAAfricaAsia
    • Rail holidays
    • Cruise holidays
    • Ski holidays
    • Luxury travel
    • Adventure travel
  • Kāhu Māori news
  • Environment
    • All Environment
    • Our Green Future
  • Talanoa Pacific news
  • Property
    • All Property
    • Property Insider
    • Interest rates tracker
    • Residential property listings
    • Commercial property listings
  • Health
  • Technology
    • All Technology
    • AI
    • Social media
  • Rural
    • All Rural
    • Dairy farming
    • Sheep & beef farming
    • Horticulture
    • Animal health
    • Rural business
    • Rural life
    • Rural technology
    • Opinion
    • Audio & podcasts
  • Weather forecasts
    • All Weather forecasts
    • Kaitaia
    • Whangārei
    • Dargaville
    • Auckland
    • Thames
    • Tauranga
    • Hamilton
    • Whakatāne
    • Rotorua
    • Tokoroa
    • Te Kuiti
    • Taumaranui
    • Taupō
    • Gisborne
    • New Plymouth
    • Napier
    • Hastings
    • Dannevirke
    • Whanganui
    • Palmerston North
    • Levin
    • Paraparaumu
    • Masterton
    • Wellington
    • Motueka
    • Nelson
    • Blenheim
    • Westport
    • Reefton
    • Kaikōura
    • Greymouth
    • Hokitika
    • Christchurch
    • Ashburton
    • Timaru
    • Wānaka
    • Oamaru
    • Queenstown
    • Dunedin
    • Gore
    • Invercargill
  • Meet the journalists
  • Promotions & competitions
  • OneRoof property listings
  • Driven car news

Puzzles & Quizzes

  • Puzzles
    • All Puzzles
    • Sudoku
    • Code Cracker
    • Crosswords
    • Cryptic crossword
    • Wordsearch
  • Quizzes
    • All Quizzes
    • Morning quiz
    • Afternoon quiz
    • Sports quiz

Regions

  • Northland
    • All Northland
    • Far North
    • Kaitaia
    • Kerikeri
    • Kaikohe
    • Bay of Islands
    • Whangarei
    • Dargaville
    • Kaipara
    • Mangawhai
  • Auckland
  • Waikato
    • All Waikato
    • Hamilton
    • Coromandel & Hauraki
    • Matamata & Piako
    • Cambridge
    • Te Awamutu
    • Tokoroa & South Waikato
    • Taupō & Tūrangi
  • Bay of Plenty
    • All Bay of Plenty
    • Katikati
    • Tauranga
    • Mount Maunganui
    • Pāpāmoa
    • Te Puke
    • Whakatāne
  • Rotorua
  • Hawke's Bay
    • All Hawke's Bay
    • Napier
    • Hastings
    • Havelock North
    • Central Hawke's Bay
    • Wairoa
  • Taranaki
    • All Taranaki
    • Stratford
    • New Plymouth
    • Hāwera
  • Manawatū - Whanganui
    • All Manawatū - Whanganui
    • Whanganui
    • Palmerston North
    • Manawatū
    • Tararua
    • Horowhenua
  • Wellington
    • All Wellington
    • Kapiti
    • Wairarapa
    • Upper Hutt
    • Lower Hutt
  • Nelson & Tasman
    • All Nelson & Tasman
    • Motueka
    • Nelson
    • Tasman
  • Marlborough
  • West Coast
  • Canterbury
    • All Canterbury
    • Kaikōura
    • Christchurch
    • Ashburton
    • Timaru
  • Otago
    • All Otago
    • Oamaru
    • Dunedin
    • Balclutha
    • Alexandra
    • Queenstown
    • Wanaka
  • Southland
    • All Southland
    • Invercargill
    • Gore
    • Stewart Island
  • Gisborne

Media

  • Video
    • All Video
    • NZ news video
    • Herald NOW
    • Business news video
    • Politics news video
    • Sport video
    • World news video
    • Lifestyle video
    • Entertainment video
    • Travel video
    • Markets with Madison
    • Kea Kids news
  • Podcasts
    • All Podcasts
    • The Front Page
    • On the Tiles
    • Ask me Anything
    • The Little Things
  • Cartoons
  • Photo galleries
  • Today's Paper - E-editions
  • Photo sales
  • Classifieds

NZME Network

  • Advertise with NZME
  • OneRoof
  • Driven Car Guide
  • BusinessDesk
  • Newstalk ZB
  • Sunlive
  • ZM
  • The Hits
  • Coast
  • Radio Hauraki
  • The Alternative Commentary Collective
  • Gold
  • Flava
  • iHeart Radio
  • Hokonui
  • Radio Wanaka
  • iHeartCountry New Zealand
  • Restaurant Hub
  • NZME Events

SubscribeSign In

Advertisement
Advertise with NZME.
Home / New Zealand

Huge surprise party planned for 9yo with epilepsy after bullies make her life hell

By Dubby Henry and Sieska Verdonk
NZ Herald·
16 May, 2017 05:00 PM3 mins to read

Subscribe to listen

Access to Herald Premium articles require a Premium subscription. Subscribe now to listen.
Already a subscriber?  

Listening to articles is free for open-access content—explore other articles or learn more about text-to-speech.
‌
Save
    Share this article
Watch NZH Local Focus: Mean girls won't spoil Gabi's birthday
Watch NZH Local Focus: Mean girls won't spoil Gabi's birthday
Video Player is loading.
Current Time 0:00
/
Duration 0:00
Loaded: 0%
0:00
Stream Type LIVE
Remaining Time -0:00
 
1x
    • Chapters
    • descriptions off, selected
    • subtitles settings, opens subtitles settings dialog
    • subtitles off, selected

      This is a modal window.

      Beginning of dialog window. Escape will cancel and close the window.

      Text
      Text Background
      Caption Area Background
      Font Size
      Text Edge Style
      Font Family

      End of dialog window.

      This is a modal window. This modal can be closed by pressing the Escape key or activating the close button.

      Kea Kids News: Pound puppy parade!

      UP NEXT:

      Mum refuses to let mean girls ruin Gabi’s birthday.
      NOW PLAYING • Watch NZH Local Focus: Mean girls won't spoil Gabi's birthday
      Watch NZH Local Focus: Mean girls won't spoil Gabi's birthday

      A little Whanganui girl whose classmates refused to come to her birthday is about to be flooded with friends, presents and birthday well-wishes from all over the world.

      Gabi Barnett, 9, has suffered some setbacks in the last two years. Merciless bullying by another girl has made Gabi shy and withdrawn.

      Her mum Toni says the bully picked on someone every year, and one year she chose Gabi.

      "It was pretty nasty stuff. She would say things like 'You should just die'.

      "Gabi got really depressed and chopped one side of her hair off, so she had to get a haircut and we could only cut it short - then there was more bullying, she was getting called a boy. It snowballed."

      Advertisement
      Advertise with NZME.
      Advertisement
      Advertise with NZME.

      The girl's family eventually moved and Gabi was delighted - but then out of the blue she had an epileptic seizure. It temporarily affected her speech and coordination, and once she was back to school, she wasn't allowed to swim or climb too high in case of a seizure.

      "Gabi loves swimming, so it really got to her. She loved the big playground, but she couldn't go on it. A whole lot of kids started teasing her. They didn't understand epilepsy."

      Some of the things children say are shocking, especially because they're only at primary school, Barnett says.

      Advertisement
      Advertise with NZME.

      "It makes you wonder, where are they getting it from?"

      Gabi's a normal girl - her favourite colours are purple and teal, and she loves painting her nails, doing her hair and music. And she loves school.

      But severe bullying has taken its toll, Barnett says.

      "I've watched her go from a happy-go-lucky fun kid with no problems, who's not really phased about anything, to a kid who is finding normal everyday things are too much for her."

      Discover more

      New Zealand

      Bullied girl Gabi's party goes ahead

      21 May 09:33 AM

      Gabi turns 10 on May 21. As the "big double digits" approached, Barnett decided to throw a party to give her daughter a boost.

      Gabi's mother has organised a birthday party for her after she was bullied at school. Photo / Sieska Verdonk
      Gabi's mother has organised a birthday party for her after she was bullied at school. Photo / Sieska Verdonk

      But when Gabi invited girls from school, they replied that they "didn't want to come to a retard's birthday".

      So Barnett plans to show her daughter how loved and beautiful she is, by throwing her a 10th birthday she'll never forget.

      Gabi loves singing - she and her mum have a busking license and she loves nothing more than to belt out a tune for passers-by. "When she's singing she forgets about that stuff," Barnett says.

      Barnett and her friends have hatched a plan to set up a surprise party on Gabi's birthday this Sunday, complete with karaoke.

      Gabi can sing and perform to her heart's content, surrounded by well-wishers and people who think she's wonderful.

      Advertisement
      Advertise with NZME.
      Toni Barnett, mother of Gabi Barnett. Photo / Sieska Verdonk
      Toni Barnett, mother of Gabi Barnett. Photo / Sieska Verdonk

      A Facebook post about Gabi's birthday has quickly gone viral, and she now has a special 10th birthday page with more than 700 followers.

      Presents and cards are already being mailed from as far as the UK and the USA.

      Anyone can record a birthday video or send her a card. And Barnett would also like to invite a select group of children to come to Gabi's birthday in person.

      Children who have been through bullying - or who have dealt with an issue like epilepsy - will be guests of honour at the party.

      Barnett would like the parents of those children to get in touch this week so they can help surprise Gabi. Anyone interested can join the Facebook page here.

      "She is a beautiful child. It's just because there are uneducated kids - but there are more good people out there."

      Advertisement
      Advertise with NZME.
      Save
        Share this article

      Latest from New Zealand

      Politics

      'Frankly outrageous': Government making thousands more building products available in New Zealand

      New Zealand

      Severe weather warnings issued as heavy rain, high winds loom

      New Zealand

      What teens think about banning social media for under-16s


      Sponsored

      Solar bat monitors uncover secrets of Auckland’s night sky

      Advertisement
      Advertise with NZME.

      Recommended for you

      Severe weather warnings issued as heavy rain, high winds loom
      New Zealand

      Severe weather warnings issued as heavy rain, high winds loom

      Israel allows Gaza aid airdrops amid famine fears
      World

      Israel allows Gaza aid airdrops amid famine fears

      What teens think about banning social media for under-16s
      Bay of Plenty Times

      What teens think about banning social media for under-16s

      'It's silly': Webster fumes over questionable rule in defeat to Titans
      Warriors

      'It's silly': Webster fumes over questionable rule in defeat to Titans

      Playmates, Workmates and life in acting: Matt Whelan’s new love letter to Kiwi theatre
      Entertainment

      Playmates, Workmates and life in acting: Matt Whelan’s new love letter to Kiwi theatre

      Kiwi pride: Riders poised for BMX World Championship challenge
      Rotorua Daily Post

      Kiwi pride: Riders poised for BMX World Championship challenge



      Latest from New Zealand

      'Frankly outrageous': Government making thousands more building products available in New Zealand
      Politics

      'Frankly outrageous': Government making thousands more building products available in New Zealand

      The minister says thousands of overseas building products have been given the green light.

      27 Jul 01:00 AM
      Severe weather warnings issued as heavy rain, high winds loom
      New Zealand

      Severe weather warnings issued as heavy rain, high winds loom

      27 Jul 12:52 AM
      What teens think about banning social media for under-16s
      New Zealand

      What teens think about banning social media for under-16s

      27 Jul 12:04 AM


      Solar bat monitors uncover secrets of Auckland’s night sky
      Sponsored

      Solar bat monitors uncover secrets of Auckland’s night sky

      06 Jul 09:47 PM

      NZ Herald
      • About NZ Herald
      • Meet the journalists
      • Newsletters
      • Classifieds
      • Help & support
      • Contact us
      • House rules
      • Privacy Policy
      • Terms of use
      • Competition terms & conditions
      • Our use of AI
      Subscriber Services
      • NZ Herald e-editions
      • Daily puzzles & quizzes
      • Manage your digital subscription
      • Manage your print subscription
      • Subscribe to the NZ Herald newspaper
      • Subscribe to Herald Premium
      • Gift a subscription
      • Subscriber FAQs
      • Subscription terms & conditions
      • Promotions and subscriber benefits
      NZME Network
      • The New Zealand Herald
      • The Northland Age
      • The Northern Advocate
      • Waikato Herald
      • Bay of Plenty Times
      • Rotorua Daily Post
      • Hawke's Bay Today
      • Whanganui Chronicle
      • Viva
      • NZ Listener
      • Newstalk ZB
      • BusinessDesk
      • OneRoof
      • Driven Car Guide
      • iHeart Radio
      • Restaurant Hub
      NZME
      • About NZME
      • NZME careers
      • Advertise with NZME
      • Digital self-service advertising
      • Book your classified ad
      • Photo sales
      • NZME Events
      • © Copyright 2025 NZME Publishing Limited
      All Access. All in one subscription. From $2 per week
      Subscribe now

      All Access Weekly

      From $2 per week
      Pay just
      $15.75
      $2
      per week ongoing
      Subscribe now
      BEST VALUE

      All Access Annual

      Pay just
      $449
      $49
      per year ongoing
      Subscribe now
      Learn more
      30
      TOP
      search by queryly Advanced Search