But chances are, those generalised comments do not hurt nearly as much as the friendly question that implies they are not a Kiwi. These New Zealand Chinese feel as Kiwi as a Maori or a New Zealand European. They were born here, went to school here, grew up here, belong here.
How painful it would be have your nationality questioned, even innocently, because your face and name reflects your Asian heritage.
New Zealand needs to grow up in this respect. Britain is far more well attuned to its multi-cultural make up than we are.
Britons whose forebears migrated from the Indian subcontinent, Africa or the West Indies generations ago, do not get asked where they come from. When they speak with one of Britain's distinctive accents, we still find it surprising. The British think nothing of it.
Immigration in recent decades has lifted the Asian component of New Zealand's population to be comparable now with the proportion of Pacific Island extraction, and Maori. It should not take very long before the nationality of all is taken for granted. In the meantime treat everyone is a Kiwi.