Do these statistics mean that half of women are currently "living in fear"? No, and this has never been a claim that has been made by the research. Compared with other countries, New Zealand reported the biggest decrease between lifetime and 12-month prevalence.
This suggests that Women's Refuges, courts, and other supports that New Zealand has to put in place to address partner violence are going some way toward ensuring that those who are unfortunate enough to experience partner violence, don't have to stay there.
Did we survey men? No, we didn't, for a variety of reasons like research ethics, safety of respondents, and insufficient budget to answer that research question too.
Does that mean we think women's violence against men doesn't occur? Nope. We know the statistics from the NZ Crime Victimisation Survey too, and we think that men who are victimised in their relationships also deserve support and help. Because for us, as violence prevention researchers, and as human beings, compassion is not a zero sum game.
So what about the gender issue? Is there one? Yes, absolutely. Data on deaths from family violence in NZ for 2007-2010 indicate big gender differences, with 75 per cent of homicide victims being women murdered by their male partner or ex-partner. Of homicides in couples, 70 perpetrators were male and 9 were female. We also think the fact that women make up 90 per cent of those applying for protection orders through the Family Court is a significant piece of the puzzle.
Our findings are consistent with the USA National Violence Against Women Survey, the largest study in the world undertaken to answer the question about male versus female perpetrated violence. This study documented significant gender differences, with women more likely to experience physical violence by male partners, more likely to be injured, and more likely to be stalked.
So what do we pledge, with or without a white ribbon? We endorse Mr McCoskrie's call for a pledge to stop violence towards men, women and children. We would also support a call for a nation-wide discussion about what sort of relationships we want people to have (healthy? Respectful? Challenging? Fun? Nurturing? Ones that foster personal growth?), and what we as a society are willing to do to support people to achieve these goals.
Along the way, we might also make a commitment to reporting data accurately, and not being afraid to address the hard issues, like gender, that are staring us in the face. Because while gender-based violence is not good for women, it is also not good for men. We need them to be standing emotionally and physically strong beside us, as partners in all senses of the word.
* Dr Janet Fanslow is a senior lecturer in Social and Community Health at The University of Auckland and is co-director of the New Zealand Family Violence Clearinghouse.