Did your daughter who has her driver's licence do your shopping for you during last year's lockdown? Did your granddaughter vote for the man you wanted to be our city's MP as she'd heard you saying good things about him?
Don't like our prime minister because she's a woman? Why not try the opposition leader? Oh.
When I was 17 I did a speech on feminism and asked the young men in my economics class how they defined feminism. Most said it was women's rights, equal rights, something along those lines.
But one wrote lesbians with hairy legs. He thought he was being funny. If he'd been right the lady shaver industry would be out of business.
Words ending in –ism can of course be divisive, often because of their black and white nature. Communism and fascism come to mind.
Some people view feminism with suspicion as they see it as taking away their rights but it's about giving women the same rights as men, not taking away men's rights (though it might make some men uncomfortable).
Potted Potter, which opened at Centrepoint Theatre on Saturday, takes a dig at Emma Watson – the English actress who played Hermione Granger in the Harry Potter movies - for her advocacy of women's rights.
When I googled feminism quotes, a quote by Watson was one of the first to appear. "If you stand for equality, then you're a feminist. Sorry to tell you."
In the half century I've been circling the sun, women's rights have come so, so far. I'm grateful my niece, who has just started university, is living in a vastly different world to me when I was 17.
Talking about menstruation is slowly becoming more socially acceptable. Having your period can be such a big part of a girl or woman's life - particularly if it is painful, lengthy or more frequent than 28 days - that the more support and understanding she receives the better. My grandmother hadn't been given the "talk" when she started bleeding. She must have been so scared.
As a nation we have three key areas to focus on. Firstly, more women on company boards. Secondly, acceptance by all that girls and women don't exist to satisfy the sexual wants of men. Thirdly, increased division of emotional labour in households, such as remembering Nana's birthday, organising where Christmas will be held this year, and visiting Granddad when he's had a fall.
When I was younger the slogan "girls can do anything" was popular. I'd say this is still relevant but add "and girls can choose what they do".
Here's to International Women's Day on March 8. And yes, there is an International Men's Day - ironically, on my birthday.
+ Judith Lacy is editor of the Manawatū Guardian.
