Speaking this morning, the former glamour model said once she started to share a bed with her captor he was being more responsive and answering her questions.
"The more we started talking, the more the bond was kind of forming and once I realised he was starting to like me, I knew I had to use that to my advantage," she said.
She said he asked to kiss her and have a relationship, which she saw as "a chance to get out".
"Once I saw his reaction to what I was saying that things could happen in the future - he was acting excited and really looking forward to it and always talking about it - it was that response that made me realise I needed to keep doing that."
She also hit back at the press saying they had brainwashed the public to hate her.
"I think it's ridiculous that the people still doubt after the court has convicted him" she said.
"I think the media has brainwashed people so much into believing that I was lying.
"Once they realise that someone is controversial I think they just dig deeper and deeper to make the public hate that person even more, because at the end of the day that's what will get the views.
"So that means getting stories from irrelevant people just to make the public hate them and that's what it's done to a lot of people so they still don't believe me".
"It is hurtful because I didn't expect to go through something so bad and then be disbelieved by your own country - but there's nothing I can do until the verdict" she added.
When questioned about witness reports that she laughed and joked with him while eating breakfast in a cafe Ms Ayling said: "Why would you be 'offish' with the person who is starting to have feelings for you and is relying on that to release you? I had to do everything I could to make him fall in love with me."
Discussing the press conference held outside on her return, Ms Ayling said she "guessed" people cast doubt on her claims because of the way she sounded and was dressed.
"I was happy to be there because I'd just come home after a month of not seeing my family and thinking I wouldn't see them again."
"I was really happy to be home, I'd just got off the plane in shorts and a top. People didn't like my outfit there but I was just being me.
"I went to the reporters because I thought that would make them go away so I could have privacy and I could be with my family but it didn't really work.
"People expect me to be crying all the time and shutting myself off from the world not facing any cameras I could have done that but it's not going to help me recover.
"If I shut myself in my house and didn't talk to anyone it wouldn't help".
When questioned on her cold appearance, the 20-year-old said she had to detach herself from the situation.
Herba, a Polish national from the West Midlands was jailed in June for 16 years and nine months for abducting the British model and ordered to pay $10,300 in damages to her.
During his trial, in Milan, Herba claimed he had met Ms Ayling and fallen in love with her and that he wanted to make a scandal to give her publicity.
"I still don't fully understand his motivation," she says. "It can't just be money as why [pick] me and he added me on Facebook two years ago, it's like he's been stalking me for that long so it must be obsession as well."
