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What you should never say to pregnant women

By Esra Gurkan
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9 Jul, 2017 08:58 PM3 mins to read

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Women have been revealing the inappropriate comments their partners have been making to them while pregnant. Photo / Getty Images

Women have been revealing the inappropriate comments their partners have been making to them while pregnant. Photo / Getty Images

A lot of men are loving, kind and supportive as their partners go through nine months of pregnancy and their bodies undergo big changes.

Others, it seems, don't have the same patience and can be unsympathetic towards the future mothers-to-be - and their fluctuating hormones.

According to the target="_blank">Daily Mail, one woman took to Reddit's BabyBump forum this week and declared her husband "the king" of saying inappropriate things - such as "Millions of women have had babies before you and all of them turned out okay!"

Jokingly, she asked if any other women had experienced similar moments with their partners, and the stories flooded in.

One woman revealed some things her husband said including: "Childbirth is so natural - I don't know why people make such a big deal about it," her husband said.

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"So glad the hospital has free wifi! I'll be able to stream the game."

(To my midwife) "Are all your patients this crazy?"

Another woman posted on Reddit her husband's response to her saying she looked a cow was the best/worse thing.

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"Me: 'God, I look like a cow...'

"DH: 'Well, you'd bring home the blue ribbon for sure!'"

Another woman posted: "Mine said 'Could a c-section be worse than getting my appendix out?' Keep in mind that he had this done laparoscopically so he has three tiny scars and they had to pull out an appendix.... NOT A HUMAN. He was very serious too. Like in his head he was thinking 'yup, I know what it's like to have a kid, but mine was probably worse'"

Another woman revealed an inappropriate comment her husband said while she was suffering a horrible sickness.

"I had HG with my first and my husband said to me 'My mum worked up until she gave birth with me maybe you just need to move around more'. He is an idiot.

"This pregnancy literally while I was crying over the toilet mid vomit he said 'Why are you upset you always get this sick during pregnancy?' This is his forth experience with a pregnant wife and he still hasn't got a clue."

Another woman explained her ex-husband would say "you shouldn't have opened your legs then" when she complained.

One woman was left in disbelief when her husband reacted to a video of a woman in labour.

"Once we were watching something where a woman was in labor, and my husband goes 'Why do women yell and scream so much during birth? It's so unnecessary.'

"Really dude? REALLY?," she posted.

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One woman was left disappointed after her husband's comment when they started to get hot and heavy:

"Mine told me this morning after I was making him aware that I was feeling frisky, 'Are you sure you want to have 30 week sex?' No dude, not anymore. And thanks for letting me know how you see me."

Another woman revealed: "I've been farting. Bad. BAD. And my husband said, 'Oh don't blame this on pregnancy too.'

"Like, hello? Have you smelled anything like this come out of me before?"

One woman said her husband told her to "calm down" because she was "being irrational". She then explained that "is NOT what you want to say to a pregnant lady. It just makes me go pregosaurus even more."

Another poster that her co worker said one of the most inappropriate comment to her about his "super pregnant wife".

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"Well, I've passed kidney stones twice, so I think I know what it feels like."

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