Maybe you want to have a do-over, maybe the timing was never quite right or maybe you still love them. Whatever it is, it's why we as a society are so obsessed with nostalgia for our ex and why we are rooting for Bennifer to make it this time.
J-Lo and Ben Affleck have been sneaking around for a while according to the infamous "close source" but this week she lived all our sitting pretty in a hotel bar dreams by making it IG official with her ex-boyfriend (now current boyfriend) Benny boy.
Side note: her way of making it IG official - on a boat, in a bikini, looking smoking hot and turning 52, was perhaps more iconic than the "I'm back with my ex-boyfriend" announcement but I'm happy to debate it.
There's no doubt Bennifer is one for the books. Obviously, their couple name is cute and enviable, but it goes deeper than that. They were engaged in 2002 with a $1.2 million ring and the tabloids were full of beautiful interviews where the two gushed over each other. It was a classic aughts relationship. But they broke up and went on to marry and have mini me's with other people.
Years later, whether by fate or convenient timing, they're single at the same time and have reunited. The once innocent and cute lovey-dovey couple has flourished into super-hot, "right person, wrong time" icons.
Curious whether rekindling love was possible, I asked my BFF whose parents pulled a Bennifer and he explained their love story in the best way possible:
"They were childhood sweethearts who took space to work out the grass wasn't greener."
Now if that doesn't scream Bennifer, I don't know what does. It also explains why most of us romanticise the heck out of rekindling old feelings because nothing will compare to your first love and sometimes it takes a moment to figure that out.
I'm going to end this column on a positive note because I'm feeling mushy; Bennifer has proven to me, in a world of billions of people, your other half is somewhere out there, and they might be someone you've dated before.
My mum talks about divine timing a lot and thanks to Bennifer I'm now convinced the universe will always put you in the right place at the right time.
Finally, to all the conspiracy theorists who think Bennifer is for publicity, Ben (almost) looks like he's enjoying himself, which is a massive step forward because the sad boy cigarette memes basically defined him. So Bennifer is real, okay? And so are soulmates.
