NZ Herald
  • Home
  • Latest news
  • Herald NOW
  • Video
  • New Zealand
  • Sport
  • World
  • Business
  • Entertainment
  • Podcasts
  • Quizzes
  • Opinion
  • Lifestyle
  • Travel
  • Viva
  • Weather

Subscriptions

  • Herald Premium
  • Viva Premium
  • The Listener
  • BusinessDesk

Sections

  • Latest news
  • New Zealand
    • All New Zealand
    • Crime
    • Politics
    • Education
    • Open Justice
    • Scam Update
  • Herald NOW
  • On The Up
  • World
    • All World
    • Australia
    • Asia
    • UK
    • United States
    • Middle East
    • Europe
    • Pacific
  • Business
    • All Business
    • MarketsSharesCurrencyCommoditiesStock TakesCrypto
    • Markets with Madison
    • Media Insider
    • Business analysis
    • Personal financeKiwiSaverInterest ratesTaxInvestment
    • EconomyInflationGDPOfficial cash rateEmployment
    • Small business
    • Business reportsMood of the BoardroomProject AucklandSustainable business and financeCapital markets reportAgribusiness reportInfrastructure reportDynamic business
    • Deloitte Top 200 Awards
    • CompaniesAged CareAgribusinessAirlinesBanking and financeConstructionEnergyFreight and logisticsHealthcareManufacturingMedia and MarketingRetailTelecommunicationsTourism
  • Opinion
    • All Opinion
    • Analysis
    • Editorials
    • Business analysis
    • Premium opinion
    • Letters to the editor
  • Politics
  • Sport
    • All Sport
    • OlympicsParalympics
    • RugbySuper RugbyNPCAll BlacksBlack FernsRugby sevensSchool rugby
    • CricketBlack CapsWhite Ferns
    • Racing
    • NetballSilver Ferns
    • LeagueWarriorsNRL
    • FootballWellington PhoenixAuckland FCAll WhitesFootball FernsEnglish Premier League
    • GolfNZ Open
    • MotorsportFormula 1
    • Boxing
    • UFC
    • BasketballNBABreakersTall BlacksTall Ferns
    • Tennis
    • Cycling
    • Athletics
    • SailingAmerica's CupSailGP
    • Rowing
  • Lifestyle
    • All Lifestyle
    • Viva - Food, fashion & beauty
    • Society Insider
    • Royals
    • Sex & relationships
    • Food & drinkRecipesRecipe collectionsRestaurant reviewsRestaurant bookings
    • Health & wellbeing
    • Fashion & beauty
    • Pets & animals
    • The Selection - Shop the trendsShop fashionShop beautyShop entertainmentShop giftsShop home & living
    • Milford's Investing Place
  • Entertainment
    • All Entertainment
    • TV
    • MoviesMovie reviews
    • MusicMusic reviews
    • BooksBook reviews
    • Culture
    • ReviewsBook reviewsMovie reviewsMusic reviewsRestaurant reviews
  • Travel
    • All Travel
    • News
    • New ZealandNorthlandAucklandWellingtonCanterburyOtago / QueenstownNelson-TasmanBest NZ beaches
    • International travelAustraliaPacific IslandsEuropeUKUSAAfricaAsia
    • Rail holidays
    • Cruise holidays
    • Ski holidays
    • Luxury travel
    • Adventure travel
  • Kāhu Māori news
  • Environment
    • All Environment
    • Our Green Future
  • Talanoa Pacific news
  • Property
    • All Property
    • Property Insider
    • Interest rates tracker
    • Residential property listings
    • Commercial property listings
  • Health
  • Technology
    • All Technology
    • AI
    • Social media
  • Rural
    • All Rural
    • Dairy farming
    • Sheep & beef farming
    • Horticulture
    • Animal health
    • Rural business
    • Rural life
    • Rural technology
    • Opinion
    • Audio & podcasts
  • Weather forecasts
    • All Weather forecasts
    • Kaitaia
    • Whangārei
    • Dargaville
    • Auckland
    • Thames
    • Tauranga
    • Hamilton
    • Whakatāne
    • Rotorua
    • Tokoroa
    • Te Kuiti
    • Taumaranui
    • Taupō
    • Gisborne
    • New Plymouth
    • Napier
    • Hastings
    • Dannevirke
    • Whanganui
    • Palmerston North
    • Levin
    • Paraparaumu
    • Masterton
    • Wellington
    • Motueka
    • Nelson
    • Blenheim
    • Westport
    • Reefton
    • Kaikōura
    • Greymouth
    • Hokitika
    • Christchurch
    • Ashburton
    • Timaru
    • Wānaka
    • Oamaru
    • Queenstown
    • Dunedin
    • Gore
    • Invercargill
  • Meet the journalists
  • Promotions & competitions
  • OneRoof property listings
  • Driven car news

Puzzles & Quizzes

  • Puzzles
    • All Puzzles
    • Sudoku
    • Code Cracker
    • Crosswords
    • Cryptic crossword
    • Wordsearch
  • Quizzes
    • All Quizzes
    • Morning quiz
    • Afternoon quiz
    • Sports quiz

Regions

  • Northland
    • All Northland
    • Far North
    • Kaitaia
    • Kerikeri
    • Kaikohe
    • Bay of Islands
    • Whangarei
    • Dargaville
    • Kaipara
    • Mangawhai
  • Auckland
  • Waikato
    • All Waikato
    • Hamilton
    • Coromandel & Hauraki
    • Matamata & Piako
    • Cambridge
    • Te Awamutu
    • Tokoroa & South Waikato
    • Taupō & Tūrangi
  • Bay of Plenty
    • All Bay of Plenty
    • Katikati
    • Tauranga
    • Mount Maunganui
    • Pāpāmoa
    • Te Puke
    • Whakatāne
  • Rotorua
  • Hawke's Bay
    • All Hawke's Bay
    • Napier
    • Hastings
    • Havelock North
    • Central Hawke's Bay
    • Wairoa
  • Taranaki
    • All Taranaki
    • Stratford
    • New Plymouth
    • Hāwera
  • Manawatū - Whanganui
    • All Manawatū - Whanganui
    • Whanganui
    • Palmerston North
    • Manawatū
    • Tararua
    • Horowhenua
  • Wellington
    • All Wellington
    • Kapiti
    • Wairarapa
    • Upper Hutt
    • Lower Hutt
  • Nelson & Tasman
    • All Nelson & Tasman
    • Motueka
    • Nelson
    • Tasman
  • Marlborough
  • West Coast
  • Canterbury
    • All Canterbury
    • Kaikōura
    • Christchurch
    • Ashburton
    • Timaru
  • Otago
    • All Otago
    • Oamaru
    • Dunedin
    • Balclutha
    • Alexandra
    • Queenstown
    • Wanaka
  • Southland
    • All Southland
    • Invercargill
    • Gore
    • Stewart Island
  • Gisborne

Media

  • Video
    • All Video
    • NZ news video
    • Herald NOW
    • Business news video
    • Politics news video
    • Sport video
    • World news video
    • Lifestyle video
    • Entertainment video
    • Travel video
    • Markets with Madison
    • Kea Kids news
  • Podcasts
    • All Podcasts
    • The Front Page
    • On the Tiles
    • Ask me Anything
    • The Little Things
  • Cartoons
  • Photo galleries
  • Today's Paper - E-editions
  • Photo sales
  • Classifieds

NZME Network

  • Advertise with NZME
  • OneRoof
  • Driven Car Guide
  • BusinessDesk
  • Newstalk ZB
  • Sunlive
  • ZM
  • The Hits
  • Coast
  • Radio Hauraki
  • The Alternative Commentary Collective
  • Gold
  • Flava
  • iHeart Radio
  • Hokonui
  • Radio Wanaka
  • iHeartCountry New Zealand
  • Restaurant Hub
  • NZME Events

SubscribeSign In
Advertisement
Advertise with NZME.
Home / Lifestyle

The brutal cost of Sam and Phoebe Burgess' marriage break-up

By Staff Writer
news.com.au·
2 Nov, 2019 11:23 PM7 mins to read

Subscribe to listen

Access to Herald Premium articles require a Premium subscription. Subscribe now to listen.
Already a subscriber?  Sign in here

Listening to articles is free for open-access content—explore other articles or learn more about text-to-speech.
‌
Save

    Share this article

Sam and Phoebe Burgess ... "First mummy daddy date night for my birthday @samburgess8" Photo / Instagram

Sam and Phoebe Burgess ... "First mummy daddy date night for my birthday @samburgess8" Photo / Instagram

Just one year ago Sam and Phoebe Burgess were Australia's golden couple.

The successful TV presenter and her hunky NRL superstar husband dominated glitzy showbiz events, walking red carpets together at events, arm in arm, setting the bar high. It seemed the pair had the perfect relationship, the world entirely at their feet.

But just a few weeks ago, it was revealed the Burgess' almost four year marriage was over. The pair had called time on their relationship for the second time in 10 months.

Since then, things have begun to unravel at an alarming rate.

This week Sam was forced into early retirement after being plagued by a "chronic left shoulder condition" and he was charged with domestic violence-related intimidation after a reported dispute with his father-in-law Mitchell Hooke.

Advertisement
Advertise with NZME.
Advertisement
Advertise with NZME.

Police had filed an interim Apprehended Domestic Violence Order (AVO) following an incident at Phoebe's parents home in Bowral earlier in October, this week serving his lawyers with notice of the criminal offence charge.

Sam Burgess has been charged over an alleged incident between him and father-in-law Mitch Hooke, pictured here with Phoebe at Mitch's 60th birthday. Photo / Supplied
Sam Burgess has been charged over an alleged incident between him and father-in-law Mitch Hooke, pictured here with Phoebe at Mitch's 60th birthday. Photo / Supplied

The 30-year-old is expected to appear at Moss Vale Local Court on December 18.

Despite his apparent troubles, Sam hasn't appeared to have been letting his change in luck get to him — heading to Mexico to enjoy a getaway with mates.

Advertisement
Advertise with NZME.

While there, he's been lapping up the sunshine and a few drinks on a luxury boat, where social media footage showed things getting a little wild as women in bikinis climbed on his and his mates shoulders.

His wild partying raised eyebrows as Sam's shoulder is injured. Photo / Instagram
His wild partying raised eyebrows as Sam's shoulder is injured. Photo / Instagram

At the same time, reports emerged back home the footy star was sending "flirty" text messages to Married At First Sight alum Jessika Power — something the reality star shut down when contacted by news.com.au.

"Honestly, when I heard about his situation I wished him well and we had a small conversation. That's it. He never offered to fly me anywhere either," she said.

All this drama has unfolded as his estranged wife retreated to her family home with their kids, Poppy, two, and Billy, 10 months.

Discover more

Entertainment

The biggest Hollywood break-ups

20 Sep 07:20 PM
Entertainment

The biggest celebrity splits of 2016

29 Dec 08:00 PM
New Zealand

Workplace death near Ranfurly

03 Nov 03:02 AM

Phoebe has remained tight-lipped about their troubles, but her Instagram shows an idyllic family life, her doting on the two kids.

A photo shared at the start of the week shows the mum sitting on a trampoline in the back yard, little Billy beside her and Poppy leaning in for a kiss.

"Nowhere I'd rather be," she captioned the snap.

View this post on Instagram

Even when I hide in the storage room for a minute of peace .... they find me 😈😈

A post shared by PHOEBE. (@mrsphoebeburgess) on Oct 15, 2019 at 9:59pm PDT

Another photo shows Phoebe is still working, sharing a snap of the kids in the bath and tagging it as a "paid sponsorship" with Johnsons Baby Australia. She also currently has roles with vitamin brand Ostelin and coffee company Nespresso.

View this post on Instagram

With a 10 month old & a 2.5 year old, they enjoy almost everything differently 👶🏼👧🏼, including bath time 🛁 whether we’re all in the tub together🧖🏼‍♀️ or Billy’s thrown in the sink at the farm (yes he still fits. Just. ) or Pops is all about the bubbles and play 💚one thing is consistent : we NEVER miss it !! The latest and greatest, and our personal favourite, to come out of the @johnsonsbabyau lab 👩🏼‍🔬🔬is their new Cottontouch range 🍃🌾🌿 (created with REAL cotton fibres) 🧺. It’s the perfect PH balance for newborns’ sensitive skin🧼, leaves no residue, feels as smooth as a baby’s bum 🧸and smells like heaven 🍏(it is also my Billy’s smell as I have used it on him since his very first bath 👶🏼) which is why I now hijack the kids’ bath time 🧖🏼‍♀️.... #Cottontouch #PBpartner #imajohnsonsmum #ChooseGentle

A post shared by PHOEBE. (@mrsphoebeburgess) on Oct 16, 2019 at 1:24am PDT

The couple called it quits for the second time this month after a desperate last-ditch attempt to save their marriage following a high-profile sexting scandal. They previously broke up in December 2018, just weeks after their son Billy was born, and reunited a few months later.

THE FIRST BREAK-UP

In January, just three weeks after the couple welcomed their newborn son William, who goes by the nickname Billy, shock reports emerged claiming they had split.

Advertisement
Advertise with NZME.

Once again, things began to unravel at an alarming rate for the former lovebirds, with the rumour mill going into overdrive — including claims of a bitter family divide.

The pair tied the knot after a whirlwind romance. Photo / Supplied
The pair tied the knot after a whirlwind romance. Photo / Supplied

Sam's mum Julie and his sister-in-law Johanna appeared to snub Phoebe when they appeared to unfollow her on Instagram. Julie also removed a feature photo from the couple's lavish wedding from her Facebook account, replacing it with a snap of her grandkids.

By March though, there were claims the pair were "back on track" after Phoebe was pictured supporting hubby Sam as he trained for a big Rabbitohs game.

THE SEXTING SCANDAL

Speculation that things weren't going well had begun months before Sam was snapped moving his belongings out of their Eastern Suburbs home in January, when the pair were rocked by a sexting scandal.

A woman claimed she was exposed to lewd images of Rabbitohs players sent from Sam's social media account.

The 30-year-old league player was embroiled in the controversy in September 2018, though Sam was later officially cleared of any wrongdoing by the Souths.

Advertisement
Advertise with NZME.

In emails to the club, the 23-year-old woman claimed she felt violated in her online interaction with the players, who she claimed exposed themselves to her in a video chat.

The dad-of-two later admitted the media attention had taken a devastating toll on his family, saying it pained him to see the upset the whole ordeal had caused Phoebe, who was six months pregnant at the time.

"I'm not angry. What hurts me the most is seeing my wife upset about what's out there," he told reporters, adding he was hoping the situation would be "resolved quickly".

"I just want to protect my family in this whole thing.

"I've got a wife. I've got a daughter. My wife's heavily pregnant. I just want them to be safe and happy. In my current situation at home there's just no chance of that."

The strain on their relationship must have been monumental, though you wouldn't have known it looking at Phoebe's blissfully happy family snaps on her social media at the time.

Advertisement
Advertise with NZME.

THEIR WHIRLWIND ROMANCE

After meeting at an Avicii concert in Sydney back in 2014, the pair had a secret long distance relationship for eight months before going public at the Dally M's.

When Sam relocated to Bath in the UK to play with Bath Rugby for three years, Phoebe didn't hesitate to follow him, cementing their romance.

"As much as Sam will probably cringe at this, when you love someone, you know where you're supposed to be," she told a British paper at the time.

Eight months later, Phoebe was flashing a large diamond ring on her engagement finger following a romantic holiday to Greece, sparking rumours the pair had become engaged.

The happy news was later confirmed by Samantha Armytage who wished the then Phoebe Hooke her sincerest congratulations on social media, accidentally letting the cat out of the bag.

Just six months later, the loved-up couple tied the knot in Bowral, surrounded by their friends and family. The stylish wedding was held at her family home, with Sam telling the world it was the "most amazing day of my life".

Advertisement
Advertise with NZME.

NOT OVER YET

While things between Phoebe and Sam have gone pretty quiet at the moment with the pair in different countries, if the drama of the last few weeks is anything to go by, the Burgess break-up saga is only just beginning.

Save

    Share this article

Latest from Lifestyle

Lifestyle

How a law graduate's art purchase could deliver $1m to Auckland Gallery

26 Jun 02:00 AM
Lifestyle

Easy roasted butternut soup with coconut cream and herbs

26 Jun 12:05 AM
Premium
Lifestyle

Does Lemsip really work? Experts weigh in on its effectiveness

26 Jun 12:00 AM

Why wallpaper works wonders

sponsored
Advertisement
Advertise with NZME.

Latest from Lifestyle

How a law graduate's art purchase could deliver $1m to Auckland Gallery

How a law graduate's art purchase could deliver $1m to Auckland Gallery

26 Jun 02:00 AM

Australian philanthropist donates McCahon, Binney and Killeen art to fundraising auction.

Easy roasted butternut soup with coconut cream and herbs

Easy roasted butternut soup with coconut cream and herbs

26 Jun 12:05 AM
Premium
Does Lemsip really work? Experts weigh in on its effectiveness

Does Lemsip really work? Experts weigh in on its effectiveness

26 Jun 12:00 AM
Simplify your cleaning routine with just five items

Simplify your cleaning routine with just five items

25 Jun 11:53 PM
A new care model to put patients first
sponsored

A new care model to put patients first

NZ Herald
  • About NZ Herald
  • Meet the journalists
  • Newsletters
  • Classifieds
  • Help & support
  • Contact us
  • House rules
  • Privacy Policy
  • Terms of use
  • Competition terms & conditions
  • Our use of AI
Subscriber Services
  • NZ Herald e-editions
  • Daily puzzles & quizzes
  • Manage your digital subscription
  • Manage your print subscription
  • Subscribe to the NZ Herald newspaper
  • Subscribe to Herald Premium
  • Gift a subscription
  • Subscriber FAQs
  • Subscription terms & conditions
  • Promotions and subscriber benefits
NZME Network
  • The New Zealand Herald
  • The Northland Age
  • The Northern Advocate
  • Waikato Herald
  • Bay of Plenty Times
  • Rotorua Daily Post
  • Hawke's Bay Today
  • Whanganui Chronicle
  • Viva
  • NZ Listener
  • Newstalk ZB
  • BusinessDesk
  • OneRoof
  • Driven Car Guide
  • iHeart Radio
  • Restaurant Hub
NZME
  • About NZME
  • NZME careers
  • Advertise with NZME
  • Digital self-service advertising
  • Book your classified ad
  • Photo sales
  • NZME Events
  • © Copyright 2025 NZME Publishing Limited
TOP