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Singles reveal what ruins a first date in candid confessions

By Latoya Gayle
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1 Jul, 2018 12:15 AMQuick Read

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People from around the world revealed the challenges of finding love in a series of anonymous confessions. Photo / Getty Images.

People from around the world revealed the challenges of finding love in a series of anonymous confessions. Photo / Getty Images.

In the age of Tinder, most active singles likely have their first date chat down to a fine art.

But even the most practised charmer can occasionally say the wrong thing - sending the person they're trying to impress running for the hills.

Singletons around the world have been recalling the occasions they were far too honest on a date on the anonymous sharing app Whisper - with dire consequences for their love life, The Daily Mail reports.

Among those to spill all on the Whisper thread were a woman who discusses her infertility on dates, and another who said telling potential partners how her ex died in Afghanistan puts men off, because they feel they can't compete.

Another girl said she struggled to know when to broach the subject of still being a virgin, and a single dad who said women "avoid him like the plague" once they learn he has a child.

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Here are a selection of those confessions:

One woman believed potential partners were intimidated by her former flame's background in Afghanistan. Photo / whisper
One woman believed potential partners were intimidated by her former flame's background in Afghanistan. Photo / whisper
A woman who struggled to have children blamed her honesty as the deciding factor that frightened men away. Photo / Whipser
A woman who struggled to have children blamed her honesty as the deciding factor that frightened men away. Photo / Whipser
Another woman struggled to find a partner who wasn't discouraged by her virginity or trying to take advantage. Photo / Whisper
Another woman struggled to find a partner who wasn't discouraged by her virginity or trying to take advantage. Photo / Whisper
A singleton with a criminal record revealed their history sent away potential partners regardless of how their date goes. Photo / Whisper
A singleton with a criminal record revealed their history sent away potential partners regardless of how their date goes. Photo / Whisper
One person ran for the hills after discovering their date had a wedding dress hanging in their wardrobe. Photo / Whisper
One person ran for the hills after discovering their date had a wedding dress hanging in their wardrobe. Photo / Whisper
A married man struggled to find women who would agree to being in a polygamous relationship. Photo / Whisper
A married man struggled to find women who would agree to being in a polygamous relationship. Photo / Whisper
Men chose not to pursue a relationship with a woman who had intentions to join the marines. Photo / Whisper
Men chose not to pursue a relationship with a woman who had intentions to join the marines. Photo / Whisper
A mother who cared for her autistic son confessed she had been put off dating anyone after previous bad experiences. Photo / Whisper
A mother who cared for her autistic son confessed she had been put off dating anyone after previous bad experiences. Photo / Whisper
An individual who drank heavily on their date blamed their own behaviour for frightening off their potential partner. Photo / Whisper
An individual who drank heavily on their date blamed their own behaviour for frightening off their potential partner. Photo / Whisper
A woman who was hoping to wait until marriage for intimacy revealed men are often too impatient to stick around. Photo / Whisper
A woman who was hoping to wait until marriage for intimacy revealed men are often too impatient to stick around. Photo / Whisper
One person turned up to their date on drugs only for the person to be scared away. Photo / Whisper
One person turned up to their date on drugs only for the person to be scared away. Photo / Whisper
A divorced father claimed women are uninterested after finding out that he has children. Photo / Whisper
A divorced father claimed women are uninterested after finding out that he has children. Photo / Whisper
One woman continued to refer to her dates as 'daddy' although it has continuously frightened other potential partners away. Photo / Whisper
One woman continued to refer to her dates as 'daddy' although it has continuously frightened other potential partners away. Photo / Whisper
A woman who wasn't short of admirers revealed her main struggle was finding a man with the same interests. Photo / Whisper
A woman who wasn't short of admirers revealed her main struggle was finding a man with the same interests. Photo / Whisper
A woman who enjoyed experimenting in her sex life claimed men were often intimidated by her desires. Photo / Whisper
A woman who enjoyed experimenting in her sex life claimed men were often intimidated by her desires. Photo / Whisper

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