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Polly Gillespie: The rudest man I've met in a long time

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Without looking at me he responded with an abrupt, dismissive flick of the hand. Photo / Supplied

Without looking at me he responded with an abrupt, dismissive flick of the hand. Photo / Supplied

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I have a few wires, switches, buttons and such missing: Mainly the wires that join my brain to my mouth and the button that stops me from walking in the wrong direction.

I have extra wires too. They call this synaesthesia. It's an odd condition that a lot of weird, wild and wonderful people have. It means I see everything as colours and can't read a map. Pharrell has it, but I think he got the better version. He got the pro version. I just got the free app.

Part of what I'm missing is my lack of respect for most authority.

Now, let me be clear: I do respect in main the police, the fire service, good teachers, the late Celia Lashlie, the Dalai Lama, Noam Chomsky and nurses.

I'm not a huge fan of most doctors, and very few specialists. There are exceptions though. I will always be eternally gratefully to Mr Adrian Stewart who helped me successfully negotiate three pregnancies.

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Mr Stewart was possibly the best obstetrician ever. He had a wicked sense of humour when you knew him, and I remember my midwife saying, "What he doesn't know about obstetrics and gynaecology could be written on the back of a tiny postage stamp!"

I will always truly love that man. He is a man blessed with an incredible ability to help hopeless women give birth to live babies, but who has himself suffered terrible personal tragedy. If he reads this, and I hope he does, then he now knows he is one of my most favourite people in the world.

I cannot say the same for some other specialists, however. Most I have had for my numerous maladies - some imagined and some real - have been great.

But a couple of weeks ago I went with my partner to a specialist at the hospital. This gentleman was talking to my partner (I think they call it "consulting") about something fairly serious.

I sat next to him and, as I do, added one or two details to the story - now told to 34 doctors over the past eight weeks.

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The specialist ignored me, and did not make eye contact with me once. Oh, it could be well argued that it was not my appointment and I was not the patient. I'll take that.

I was possibly not within my rights to expect to be acknowledged, just considered the interrupting girlfriend. I piped up near the end of the 10-minute appointment we'd waited an hour for, to ask in a loud but warm and interested way: "What about his blood pressure? Should we be concerned at all and have that checked at some stage? I know blood pressure can cause complications with all kinds of things."

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That was when without looking at me he responded with an abrupt, dismissive flick of the hand, and muttered at no one in particular, certainly not to me: "That's for nurses. Don't talk to a specialist about blood pressure!"

Why, you big dollop of rude douche-baggery! Not only did he dismiss me, my partner's blood pressure, and the importance of nurses, but he flicked his hand like someone dismissing a choir boy at the royal court. What self-righteous entitlement, expecting to be able to behave poorly because of a degree in human plumbing.

I wanted to hiss at him or throw a gypsy curse. One that would make his sweat constantly seep through his shirts and give him offensive sweat stains in front of horrified patients.

I hold respect for the following:

The fire service: My dad was in the fire service. Those guys and gals are heroes. I love them.

Great teachers: I love them. They made me interested in learning about history and art and English, and sometimes, even science.

Police: Good God, what a job. What they see. What the deal with. What they clean up. The abuse, the long lasting images seared in to their minds. Yes, in general, I respect the police.

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Ambulance officers and rescues teams: Well, that goes without saying.

Nurses: The most incredible women and men on earth. I bow in their presence.

GPs: They tend to be good people. I like them. I have respect for a lot of them.

I respect all of those people ... but with one flick of his hand a specialist made it on to my list of people I'd most like to light sabre, should The Force ever be with me.

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