There is an anecdote about boiling a frog that I kind of like. It's from the 1800s when experiments of this type were much in vogue. The premise is that if you put a frog in a pan of cold water and then heat it up very, very, veeeeeeeeeeery slowly the frog won't notice the incremental change in temperature and, instead of simply leaping out to save its own life, will in fact sit there until it boils to death.
There is much scientific dispute about the veracity of this principle, however I don't care because I love the analogy. This is because for many years, I was that frog. I was getting more and more ill with adrenal fatigue in a corporate job that I hated but amazingly just kept on rocking up to, going in each day even though it was literally killing me. I couldn't see it because it had got worse so incrementally; little by little my body was packing up and my soul was being crushed. If it had been a big thing, like I had been hit by a car, or the company had been in an acquisition with new management I would have noticed and made the obvious decision to get the hell out. But the descent into illness and misery was so gradual I couldn't see it.
I see so many clients who have a job/ health situation/ relationship/ living arrangement/whatever/ which, on the face of it, looks completely and obviously untenable. It is remarkable that they are still in it. They are exhausted beyond measure or bullied at work beyond sufferance, or in a marriage of together alone.
And yet they will say "it's fine, really", and it is, because it's only 0.005% worse than it was yesterday, so it's really not that bad.
Sometimes a reality check is in order. If someone had to come in fresh and be in that relationship, that job or that health situation, would they trade places with you? If "quite obviously not" is the answer, something is obviously and objectively not right. Consider you may be living a "boiled frog" existence in part of your life.
If someone else would come in fresh and say "this is madness!" and change it straight away, they are a frog who can feel the heat.
