Is this really a safe fantasy?

The secret reason some women call their partners "daddy". Photo / 123rf

Every couple has their own unique fetishes and quirks in the bedroom.

But for many women, there is one word that often comes out during sex.

"Daddy".

It's an intriguing word that for some is a turn on, but for others raises alarm bells.

Does calling your boyfriend or husband "Daddy" mean you have serious daddy issues? Does it mean you want to have a physical relationship with your father or a father figure?

According to sex therapist and relationship coach Jacqueline Hellyer there is nothing to be worried about.

Hellyer told Whimn.com.au that calling your partner "Daddy" during sex is just another type of role play - a perfectly normal concept within the boundaries of a safe relationship.

"Role plays - and in particular, power exchange role plays - are a very safe way for people with strong personalities to let go.

"You often find that women who like to be 'submissive' in relationships - like the kind of women who'd call their partner 'Daddy' in bed - are actually pretty high-powered in their day-to-day lives. Engaging in this role play is their way of letting go and giving in to vulnerability."

Hellyer believes the term "Daddy" is symbolic to the qualities a father possesses - "caring, supportive and assertive".

"We tend to come up with things that make us safe. The father figure is a very safe person, so it's an ideal way to express your sexuality and experience pleasure."

She also said the healthiest relationships are often ones where sexual fantasies can be explored safely where there are clear boundaries and communication and trust are evident.