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An Australian mother-of-six explains how she learned to love her 'beautiful' stretch marks

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Sharny lost 24kg after the birth of her fourth child. Photo / Instagram

Sharny lost 24kg after the birth of her fourth child. Photo / Instagram

For many woman the thought of getting into a bikini after having a baby is daunting.

And for Australian Sharny Kieser, it was even more difficult than losing an impressive 24kg after giving birth to her children.

The mother-of-six has spoken out in an open letter praising her stretch marks and encouraging other woman to love their scars too.

Read her open letter below:

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Stretch marks, I used to hate them. Seal showed us that scars are beautiful. They tell a story. They are unique. My scar story is that I carried 6 babies in my body. That's 4 and a half years of my life I spent pregnant. How can I possibly hate myself for that? What's your scar story? (share your photos with pride!) #scarstories #stretchmarks #scars #travellingfamily #nofilter #travelphotography #thekiesers #youtube #wanderlust #nomad http://sharnyandjulius.com/fitmum

A post shared by Sharny and Julius (@sharnyandjulius) on May 27, 2017 at 5:44pm PDT

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Stretchmarks are disgusting

I used to not see the point in exercise because my body was covered in stretch marks.
"what's the point in having a great body if I will never wear a bikini" I'd think.

If I was ever invited to the beach or a pool party, I'd always decline. On the odd occasion, I couldn't avoid it, I'd stay inside, helping with the food or the cleaning.

I would only wear board shorts and T-shirts. I wished so hard that I could one day wear a bikini.

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Chatting on mornings on #channel9 about obesity (wearing @stylerunner @stellamccartney )

A post shared by Sharny and Julius (@sharnyandjulius) on May 28, 2014 at 4:38pm PDT

Then one day I overheard my loving husband explaining to a bunch of his friends why he thought stretch marks were beautiful.

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They were a sign of being a woman. They are a result of the great love a mother has, that she would scar her own body to bring a child to life... on and on he explained and the more he talked, the more I got it.

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#tbt to 4 months ago โค๏ธ Photo credit ๐Ÿ“ธ @capturedbybec ๐Ÿ“ธ wearing @stylerunner #pregnant #baby6 #40weeks #workout #pregfit #exercise #fitness #kiss #mother #son #wife #family #love

A post shared by Sharny and Julius (@sharnyandjulius) on May 23, 2016 at 9:21pm PDT

I had hated myself for the very reasons he loved me. My body wasn't ruined or disgusting, it had transformed from a selfish girl's body into a selfless mother's body and the scars were a symbol of that transition.

A daily reminder that I was a mother.

I looked at my stretch marks and I felt pride. I felt love. The love of my husband and the love of my children. Each one of them had been nurtured and lived behind those scars for 9 months.

I felt pride.
I felt love.
I felt love for myself.

The craziest thing was that when I started to love myself for what I had now, the body I had now, I began to treat myself better.

I WANTED to eat healthy. I WANTED to exercise, I WANTED to do the things I loved.
Just by changing the way I looked at myself with love and pride instead of hate, I had found the effortless motivation to care for my body.

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I used to not see the point in exercise because my body was covered in stretch marks. 'what's the point in having a great body if I will never wear a bikini' I'd think. If I was ever invited to the beach or a pool party, I'd always decline. On the odd occasion I couldn't avoid it, I'd stay inside, helping with the food or the cleaning. I would only wear board shorts and t-shirts. I wished so hard that I could one day wear a bikini. Then one day I overheard my loving husband explaining to a bunch of his friends why he thought stretch marks were beautiful. They were a sign of being a woman. They are a result of the great love a mother has, that she would scar her own body to bring a child to life... on and on he explained and the more he talked, the more I got it. I had hated myself for the very reasons he loved me. My body wasn't ruined or disgusting, it had transformed from a selfish girls body into a selfless mothers body and the scars were a symbol of that transition. A daily reminder that I was a mother. I looked at my stretch marks and I felt pride. I felt love. The love of my husband and the love of my children. Each one of them had been nurtured and lived behind those scars for 9 months. I felt pride. I felt love. I felt love for myself. The craziest thing was that when I started to love myself for what I had now, the body I had now, I began to treat myself better. I WANTED to eat healthy. I WANTED to exercise, I WANTED to do the things I loved. Just by changing the way I looked at myself with love and pride instead of hate, I had found the effortless motivation to care for my body. Because of this tiny little shift in mindset, magic happened... I got the body I had always dreamed of. The bikini body that I thought was not ever going to be possible for me after being covered in stretch marks, It has became a reality for me. It started though, with me loving myself first. Being grateful for what I had, not wishing for something better. ๐Ÿ‘‰[see comments for more]๐Ÿ‘ˆ

A post shared by Sharny and Julius (@sharnyandjulius) on May 30, 2017 at 2:21am PDT

Because of this tiny little shift in mindset, magic happened...

I got the body I had always dreamed of. The bikini body that I thought was not ever going to be possible for me after being covered in stretch marks, it has became a reality for me.
It started though, with me loving myself first. Being grateful for what I had, not wishing for something better.

I want all mums around the world to be proud of themselves and love themselves. I want all mums to realise how perfect their bodies are.

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Our growing family.... #dadswithabs #fitdad #fitmum #fitparents #activefamily #fitkids #family #sharnyandjulius #eatcleanlivelean @capturedbybec @jjkieser @ultrafitness

A post shared by Sharny and Julius (@sharnyandjulius) on Jan 6, 2015 at 4:02am PST

Stretch marks or no stretch marks, IVF or no IVF, vaginal or C section. Breastfed or bottle feed, it doesn't matter.

You're perfect.
Your kids love you.
You should love you.

Stop beating yourself up and start loving yourself. For the magic that is a mother's body is what you have.

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Happy Australia Day to all our Aussie friends celebrating! Don't party to hard ๐Ÿ˜œ maybe a run and a salad ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‰ #fitness #experiencesnotpossessions #healthybody #australia #australiaday #family #straya #strayaday @thekiesers Photo credit: @capturedbybec

A post shared by Sharny and Julius (@sharnyandjulius) on Jan 26, 2017 at 1:40am PST

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