Amanda Platell: What Princess Diana needed was another mother like Carole

What became ever more apparent as I read Diana's own words was her overwhelming longing for a loving family life. Photo / Getty Images

Princess Diana had an overwhelming longing for a loving family life, writes Amanda Platell.

As a longtime admirer of Princess Diana, warts and all, I thought there was nothing more I could learn about her.

Yet this week's riveting serialisation in the Mail of The Diana Tapes - recordings of her conversations with royal author Andrew Morton - has given me a new and haunting insight into her fragile world.

With often child-like simplicity she spoke about her initial desperation to make Charles feel proud of her, about wanting to love and be loved, reports Daily Mail.

But the tapes spell out just how bereft she came to feel, how lonely and vulnerable, after she was catapulted into the stiff-upper-lip world of The Firm where no one talked about their feelings.

She could not turn to Charles, whom she felt systematically undermined her, criticising her dress sense and how plump or how thin she was while making little secret of his enduring love for Camilla.

Her own parents offered no sanctuary - they had separated after a bitter divorce and could not begin to understand her anguish.

What became ever more apparent as I read her own words was her overwhelming longing for a loving family life - which she tried and failed to create with Charles and her two sons.

This, I think, explains so much about William's behaviour today, 20 years on from his mother's death, and the way he has been so incredibly protective of Kate.

It is the reason he has immersed himself in the Middleton family, breaking with royal precedent by spending so much time with his in-laws, Carole and Michael.

And it's why he locked himself away with Kate and his children in Norfolk safe from prying eyes and cherishing spending family time together.

I've been among Kate and William's harshest critics over the way they barricaded themselves behind the walls of their estate, avoiding public functions as the Queen and Prince Philip continue to perform their duties into their 90s.

I have questioned whether the Middletons are shameless social climbers, desperate for their children to "marry up".

Yet, to their immense credit, they offered Kate something Diana never had - a stable, loving family offering unconditional support to their children.

No wonder William was drawn to it. A mum like Carole could have made all the difference to Diana.