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'We're all too scared to say it': MAFS bride raises concerns over extreme lengths of reality TV

By James Weir
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6 Apr, 2017 08:30 AM6 mins to read

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Sean and Susan from Married At First Sight.

Sean and Susan from Married At First Sight.

Married At First Sight Australia will come to its explosive end in the next few weeks but, for some the contestants, they're still battling the storm.

Amid claims of altered storylines and extreme conditions - mixed with intense public opinion and discussion - contestants and family members are concerned about the true impact of the controversial Channel Nine reality series.

"What happens when they have someone on one of these shows that is really affected by this in a really bad way ... What would happen then?" Susan Rawlings, one of the brides in the latest series of the show, told news.com.au.

A family member of another contestant who appeared on the show told news.com.au watching the portrayal of their loved one unfold on television was "horrific".

"It's the worst thing you could see (a family member) go through," they said.

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For two months, Australia was glued to the controversial series as it watched 10 couples get matched by three experts, blindly "married", and then work through the struggles of the relationship.

It's rollercoaster entertainment and viewers lap it up. But psychologist and commentator Dr Melissa Keogh says we could be walking down the aisle into dangerous territory.

"At what point do we stop and ask: How ethical is this?" Dr Keogh said.

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"It's really hard to mix psychology and the media because we are bound by very high professional standards. When its done well, it can go well. And other times we can be playing with fire a little bit."

'People are hating me'

On screen, Perth-based truck driver Rawlings, 37, seemed happy and enamoured with her scientifically matched husband, Queensland farmer Sean Hollands.

Throughout the series, Rawlings and Hollands were portrayed as deeply in love, trying to battle the obstacle of distance that's standing in the way of their romance.

But as the final week of the show aired, Rawlings became frustrated with the "complete lie."

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Susan and Sean only have eyes for each other throughout the series.
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She said she felt the burn of national backlash- copping flak from fans and online commenters.

"I said (to the production company), 'Why do you need to do that? Why couldn't you tell the truth? And they're like, 'Don't worry about it, you're both portrayed lovely don't worry about it,' to shut me up," she said.

While Rawlings admits all contestants are told from the beginning they have free access to a psychologist whenever they need, she's concerned the production company behind the series, Endemol Shine Australia, didn't take the initiative to reach out.

"They must know that people are hating me," she said. "It hurts to hear that s**t. It hurts to read peoples' opinions that aren't true. I know I shouldn't care but I do."

At the time of this interview, Rawlings said: "Not once has the psychologist ever called me saying, 'How are you feeling about how you're being portrayed? Are you OK, Susan?"

Susan hugs Sean.
Susan hugs Sean.

An Endemol Shine Australia spokesman said "all participants have access to psychological support".

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"Our production is also in regular contact with the participants and are diligent in reporting any concerns to our psychologist," the company said in a statement.

"We take our duty of care extremely seriously."

Villains get viewers

Throughout the series, Anthony Manton was portrayed as the controlling groom.

Matched with contestant Nadia Stamp, the Sydney racing broadcaster riled viewers with his controversial opinions and dominant attitude towards his wife.

While Rawlings admits Manton did frequently make polarising statements, she says he's not the villain Australia was shown on television.

Contestant Sean Hollands agreed, telling news.com.au last week: "Australia didn't get to see all of Anthony."

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Manton's portrayal on the series has had dramatic effects on his life, Rawlings said.

"Anthony doesn't go out of the house. He's been threatened so many times from drunk people at the racetrack from the way he's being portrayed and they don't even care," she said.

Dr Keogh said the effects of copping such national backlash are "concerning".

"It can have an enormous impact on one's mental health which can have flow on effects to their physical health," she said.

"It must be distressing for contestants who feel like they have not been portrayed fairly or in a balanced manner," she said. "I think being followed up as part of a duty of care would be helpful."

Anthony frequently riles viewers and fellow contestants on the show.
Anthony frequently riles viewers and fellow contestants on the show.

While Rawlings said she "feels lucky Anthony is a strong man", her concern remains for future reality TV contestants who don't know what they're in for.

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"I have that psychologist number to call them and I can reach out. and I have free counselling through work and I love talking to friends. But what happens when they pick someone for one of these shows that isn't like that?" she said.

Rawlings said she was in touch with Manton this weekend after she made claims about the treatment of contestants on the show.

"He texted me this morning, saying: Good on you ... you just said what we all want to say and we're all too scared to say it. We're all too scared."

That's showbiz

What makes the Married At First Sight format stand out from other dating shows is couples are matched by three experts - psychologists Mel Schilling and John Aiken and psychotherapist Trisha Stratford.

Unlike other dating shows, contestants are guided by the experts throughout the series, but Lauren Bran - who made headlines as Married At First Sight's "runaway bride" this year - said she didn't feel the support.

Rawlings also questioned the influence of the psychologists, noting they wore "ear pieces" while filming certain scenes.

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Schilling, Stratford and Aiken match and guide the contestants on the show.
Schilling, Stratford and Aiken match and guide the contestants on the show.

Throughout this recent series, viewers criticised the production staff for not stepping in to defuse fiery personal clashes.

The public are divided when it comes to hearing former reality show contestants speak out against a show that burned them.

Claims of extreme editing, fake storylines and producers with an agenda plague productions every year and fans are quick to roll their eyes when burnt contestants cry foul once it all goes to air.

But while viewers are privy to the inner-workings of reality TV, Dr Keogh said a contestant should still be able to feel "protected".

"I think you should be able to sign up for a reality show in 2017 and still maintain your mental health post-production," she said. "When mental health is not maintained post production, that's where we need to be careful."

Married At First Sight Australia airs on Three Tuesday and Wednesday nights.

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