Making decisions around your kids going trick-or-treating - Jeremy Sutton

It's best to have both parent's consent when allowing your kids to go trick-or-treating. Photo / 123RF

Jeremy Sutton is a barrister at Bastion Chambers.

OPINION

Q: My two daughters, aged 14 and 7, want to go trick-or-treating by themselves this year. The girls’ father and I separated two years ago. I’ve encouraged them to do it as I think it would be a fun opportunity for them to spend time together and have a bit of independence. However, their father is concerned about their safety, especially with the younger one being only 7. What advice can you give me in this situation? Can I let them go without their father’s consent?

A: You and your ex-husband will continue to be legal guardians of your children until they reach the age of 18, and as guardians you are responsible for determining (for or with your children) all questions relating to important matters affecting your children.

You and your ex must act jointly when it comes to decisions regarding your children and, in particular, by consulting wherever practicable with the aim of securing agreement.

As with all matters affecting children, what is in the child’s best interest is the paramount consideration.

At the ages of 7 and 14, your children can express their own views.

For your 14-year-old, going out with friends may be exciting and a way to assert independence. However, the 7-year-old may still need closer supervision. If she wants to join her older sibling, ensure your teen is responsible enough to keep an eye on her, or consider following them from a distance to give them a sense of freedom while staying safe.

I think it is best to have their father’s agreement first. You should discuss with their father what precautions are being taken to ensure their safety.

Set clear boundaries like staying in familiar areas, having a curfew, and keeping their phone on for check-ins.

Communication is key – discuss safety tips like staying in well-lit areas, avoiding strangers’ homes and sticking together.