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Deborah Hill Cone

The New Zealand Herald has more than 200 journalists across the country, bringing you the stories that matter on our website and app, in print and across our social media platforms.

We are your advocate, Aotearoa. Uncovering stories that matter, asking hard-hitting questions of those in power, live-blogging sport events, monitoring the highs and lows of the NZX and providing Premium expert opinion and analysis. Bringing you distinctive, quality journalism and breaking news from across New Zealand and around the world. With specialists working together to create indepth reads, engaging video, and unmissable podcasts.

Check out Deborah’s latest content
Shame on us? How did slamming others become the defining feature of our generation?
Lifestyle

Shame on us? How did slamming others become the defining feature of our generation?

25 Jan 08:03 PM
Deborah Hill Cone: So long and thanks for the blankets
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: So long and thanks for the blankets

25 Nov 04:00 PM

COMMENT: It's always felt less terrifying to write it down.

Deborah Hill Cone: A bit of shame isn't a bad thing
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: A bit of shame isn't a bad thing

18 Nov 04:00 PM

COMMENT: Being able to laugh after a fall is a path to authentic self-esteem.

Deborah Hill Cone: DHBs must start offering more talk therapy
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: DHBs must start offering more talk therapy

11 Nov 04:00 PM

COMMENT: I worry we are not giving people the best advice for how to treat depression.

Deborah Hill Cone: Why do I find it so hard to finish anythi...
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: Why do I find it so hard to finish anythi...

04 Nov 04:00 PM

COMMENT: Deliberately choosing absurdly tiny goals helps a lot.

Hill Cone: Can we improve after Ross mess?
Opinion

Hill Cone: Can we improve after Ross mess?

28 Oct 04:00 PM

COMMENT: Our mental illness is co-created with those around us.

Fearing the coming of Armageddon
Opinion

Fearing the coming of Armageddon

14 Oct 04:00 PM

COMMENT: It takes strength to see your children surpass you

Five ways to deal with women's rage
Opinion

Five ways to deal with women's rage

07 Oct 04:00 PM

COMMENT: Anger is one of the most hopeful and forward thinking of all our emotions.

Deborah Hill Cone: What we can learn when powerful men melt
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: What we can learn when powerful men melt

30 Sep 04:00 PM

COMMENT: Kavanaugh revealed how brittle these pillars of our establishment are.

Deborah Hill Cone: The gift of my cancer scare
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: The gift of my cancer scare

16 Sep 05:00 PM

COMMENT: Threat of disease is enough to put life into perspective.

How to truly take care of yourself
Opinion

How to truly take care of yourself

09 Sep 05:00 PM

COMMENT: Befriend your inner-child to be kind to your adult self.

Deborah Hill Cone: It's time for Daughter's Day
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: It's time for Daughter's Day

02 Sep 05:00 PM

COMMENT: Girls need fathers who adore them — not a Steve Jobs.

Comment | The things unsaid about the death of Greg Boyed
Opinion

Comment | The things unsaid about the death of Greg Boyed

26 Aug 05:00 PM

COMMENT: It has been powerful to see the reaction to Greg's death.

Deborah Hill Cone: Let's not descend to Parliament's level
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: Let's not descend to Parliament's level

19 Aug 05:00 PM

COMMENT: We can't uncover our deeper emotions if we argue like sulky teenagers.

Are you a dandelion, a tulip or an orchid?
Opinion

Are you a dandelion, a tulip or an orchid?

12 Aug 05:00 PM

COMMENT: Harden-up culture no value to the highly sensitive.

Deborah Hill Cone: Stop dumping kids in 'factory farms'
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: Stop dumping kids in 'factory farms'

05 Aug 05:00 PM

COMMENT: Children need to live free range in their early years.

Deborah Hill Cone: An awful inverse snob — who, moi?
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: An awful inverse snob — who, moi?

22 Jul 05:00 PM

COMMENT: It's hard to know how to avoid hating the ultra-rich.

Why I struggle with the Bazley report
Opinion

Why I struggle with the Bazley report

08 Jul 05:00 PM

COMMENT: A culture rooted in power and domination is extremely hard to change.

Deborah Hill Cone: In defence of Wellywood
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: In defence of Wellywood

01 Jul 05:00 PM

COMMENT: Wellywood line could be proof we are still philistines.

Deborah Hill Cone: Eight things I learnt from quitting Facebook
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: Eight things I learnt from quitting Facebook

24 Jun 05:00 PM

COMMENT: It pays to choose your five chimps carefully.

Deborah Hill Cone: Stop drinking entrepreneur Kool-Aid
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: Stop drinking entrepreneur Kool-Aid

17 Jun 05:00 PM

COMMENT: Let's stop the hero-worship of young entrepreneurs, writes Deborah Hill Cone.

Deborah Hill Cone: What two celebrity deaths can teach us
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: What two celebrity deaths can teach us

10 Jun 05:00 PM

COMMENT: Praising people for outing their mental illness shows stigma is alive and well.

Deborah Hill Cone: Want to get rid of bullying? Get rid of schools
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: Want to get rid of bullying? Get rid of schools

03 Jun 05:00 PM

COMMENT: As far as I can see, schools are factories for shame, writes Deborah Hill Cone.

Deborah Hill Cone: Make therapy free, because it works
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: Make therapy free, because it works

20 May 05:00 PM

COMMENT: Everyone should be able to get therapy because I know that it works.

Deborah Hill Cone: I make my own rules
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: I make my own rules

13 May 12:47 AM

COMMENT: Here are 12 guidelines for living in a chaotic world .

Attacking Gayford: Hill Cone - What was I thinking?
Opinion

Attacking Gayford: Hill Cone - What was I thinking?

29 Apr 05:00 PM

COMMENT: If we totally avoid edginess, for fear of hurting anyone, we also avoid growth.

Deborah Hill Cone: Why does Clarke Gayford bug me?
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: Why does Clarke Gayford bug me?

22 Apr 05:00 PM

COMMENT: There's something about our First Bloke that keeps nagging me.

Deborah Hill Cone: NZ society's having a fatal art attack
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: NZ society's having a fatal art attack

15 Apr 05:00 PM

COMMENT: Why do the arts always lose out in our sports-obsessed country?

Deborah Hill Cone: We can fix our prison system
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: We can fix our prison system

08 Apr 05:00 PM

COMMENT: Inmates should be treated like family to rehabilitate.

Deborah Hill Cone: Sports heroes replaced with cheaters
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: Sports heroes replaced with cheaters

01 Apr 06:35 PM

COMMENT: How many stars need to be shown to be flawed before we take them from pedestals.

Deborah Hill Cone: Shall I delete Facebook?
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: Shall I delete Facebook?

25 Mar 04:00 PM

COMMENT: Data scandal highlights danger of treating people like products.

Why I'm wary of Alison Mau's #MeToo campaign
Opinion

Why I'm wary of Alison Mau's #MeToo campaign

12 Mar 05:00 AM

OPINION: I worry about Alison Mau's #metoo initiative – but not for the reasons you think.

Deborah Hill Cone: 4 reasons Air NZ got it wrong
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: 4 reasons Air NZ got it wrong

04 Mar 04:00 PM

COMMENT: Air New Zealand maintains safety video was not offensive. This is arrogant.

Deborah Hill Cone: How I let younger women down
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: How I let younger women down

25 Feb 04:00 PM

COMMENT:Scurrying around after older, powerful men isn't career enhancing. I wish I hadn't

Deborah Hill Cone: Law firm culture is still a 'Brotopia'
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: Law firm culture is still a 'Brotopia'

18 Feb 04:00 PM

COMMENT: Will anything really change at law firms like Russell McVeagh?

Deborah Hill Cone: Silence is golden so let's STFU
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: Silence is golden so let's STFU

11 Feb 04:00 PM

COMMENT: I'm learning gentle art of listening - or I would if I could ever stop talking.

The secret to the best sex of your life
Lifestyle

The secret to the best sex of your life

09 Feb 06:00 PM

You don't have to be a sexpot to have great sex, writes Deborah Hill Cone.

Deborah Hill Cone: How to tackle middle-class trauma
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: How to tackle middle-class trauma

04 Feb 04:00 PM

COMMENT: Some experts argue victimhood is being encouraged among the young.

Deborah Hill Cone: Mental-health crisis needs new method
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: Mental-health crisis needs new method

28 Jan 04:00 PM

COMMENT: When is the #metoo revolution coming for mental illness?

Deborah Hill Cone: Feminism's battle of generations
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: Feminism's battle of generations

21 Jan 04:00 PM

COMMENT: It seems there is no love lost between new and old feminism.

Deborah Hill Cone: Why tech giants need kick in the software
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: Why tech giants need kick in the software

14 Jan 04:00 PM

COMMENT: They're over-large, under-regulated and of zero conscience.

Deborah Hill Cone: How 'doing a Trump' makes things worse
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: How 'doing a Trump' makes things worse

07 Jan 04:00 PM

COMMENT: Trump compounds issues when he doubles down.

Deborah Hill Cone: Facing up to ultimate change
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: Facing up to ultimate change

17 Dec 04:00 PM

COMMENT: Accepting our fates might help us enjoy simple pleasures of being alive.

Deborah Hill Cone: Blocks that stop us accepting truth
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: Blocks that stop us accepting truth

10 Dec 04:00 PM

COMMENT: We can react like a possum, freezing and playing dead so predator loses interest.

Deborah Hill Cone: I'm so glad I'm not like Tina Brown
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: I'm so glad I'm not like Tina Brown

03 Dec 04:00 PM

COMMENT: I used to idolise her but now I almost feel sorry for her.

Deborah Hill Cone: Introvert's guide to Christmas
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: Introvert's guide to Christmas

26 Nov 04:00 PM

COMMENT: Why do I still feel like running a mile when I see real fake snow?

Deborah Hill Cone: 10 things for a teen girl
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: 10 things for a teen girl

19 Nov 04:00 PM

Deborah Hill Cone: Happy birthday Gussie and here is a column for you.

12 ways to lessen the grief of ageing
Opinion

12 ways to lessen the grief of ageing

12 Nov 04:00 PM

It's inevitable. You have to give up things when you get older.

Hill Cone: So sue me, I still like men. And it's not all their fault
Opinion

Hill Cone: So sue me, I still like men. And it's not all their fault

05 Nov 04:00 PM

Comment: Since the Weinstein scandal there has been a lot written saying men are sleazy.

Deborah Hill Cone: Confessions of a reformed right-winger
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: Confessions of a reformed right-winger

29 Oct 04:00 PM

COMMENT: It's not weak to care or to acknowledge you need other people.

Deborah Hill Cone: Weinstein scandal turns into a catfight
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: Weinstein scandal turns into a catfight

15 Oct 04:00 PM

COMMENT: In the wake of scandal many women have felt able to share their stories.

Deborah Hill Cone: No end to age of power abusers
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: No end to age of power abusers

08 Oct 04:00 PM

COMMENT: Weinstein scandal show little has really changed.

Deborah Hill Cone: A John Cleese kind of school
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: A John Cleese kind of school

01 Oct 04:00 PM

COMMENT: Opting out of mainstream education can lift creativity.

Deborah Hill Cone: A pro real estate vote result
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: A pro real estate vote result

24 Sep 04:00 PM

COMMENT: Sometimes it feels like we have become a nation of real estate agents.

Deborah Hill Cone: Learn how to love yourself
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: Learn how to love yourself

17 Sep 05:00 PM

COMMENT: Embrace all your flaws and shed the self-loathing.

Deborah Hill Cone: The true secret to wealth
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: The true secret to wealth

10 Sep 05:00 PM

COMMENT: I get the feeling it is increasingly awkward being seen to be rich these days.

Deborah Hill Cone: Don't overthink this election
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: Don't overthink this election

03 Sep 05:00 PM

COMMENT: Deborah Hill Cone presents six easy steps to understanding the election.

Deborah Hill Cone: The Big Feels Club gets my vote
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: The Big Feels Club gets my vote

27 Aug 05:00 PM

COMMENT: Consultant's view on mental health system rings true.

Deborah Hill Cone: There's a toddler in charge
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: There's a toddler in charge

20 Aug 05:00 PM

COMMENT: Whoever you vote for this year, choose a grown up, writes Deborah Hill Cone.

It's the end of the world and I feel fine
Opinion

It's the end of the world and I feel fine

13 Aug 05:00 PM

COMMENT: Whatever your idol, you will eventually be disappointed.

7 things I have learned from Jacinda
Opinion

7 things I have learned from Jacinda

06 Aug 05:00 PM

COMMENT: Jacinda's rise to the top Labour job has taught me some things.

What we can learn from Charlie's death
Opinion

What we can learn from Charlie's death

30 Jul 05:00 PM

COMMENT: We should be reminded that we don't own our children.

10 great things about turning 50
Opinion

10 great things about turning 50

23 Jul 05:00 PM

COMMENT: There's no point in wishing we could relive our younger days.

Deborah Hill Cone: Can TNZ foil Google too?
Opinion

Deborah Hill Cone: Can TNZ foil Google too?

02 Jul 05:00 PM

COMMENT: After all, ComCom isn't doing anything to stop power of web giants.

Letting boys have feelings too
Opinion

Letting boys have feelings too

25 Jun 05:00 PM

COMMENT: These days I worry more about how we bring up boys.

The truth about middle-aged women and sex
Lifestyle

The truth about middle-aged women and sex

23 Jun 06:21 PM

A new TV series is being lauded for its depiction of middle-aged female sexuality.

Puzzling politics of preferential treatment
Opinion

Puzzling politics of preferential treatment

18 Jun 05:00 PM

COMMENT: Getting into the University of Otago medical school is not the same for everyone.

Hey MPs - learn from House of Cards
Opinion

Hey MPs - learn from House of Cards

12 Jun 09:19 AM

COMMENT: Hill Cone says our government could learn a few tricks from Frank Underwood.

Hill Cone: I was an intellectual bully
Opinion

Hill Cone: I was an intellectual bully

04 Jun 05:00 PM

COMMENT: In society which judges us by our smarts, it's wisest of all to avoid being dill.

Hill Cone: Jail doesn't help addicts
Opinion

Hill Cone: Jail doesn't help addicts

28 May 05:00 PM

COMMENT: New Zealanders are starting to think the current approach does not work.

Hill Cone: Two weddings and a bottom
Opinion

Hill Cone: Two weddings and a bottom

21 May 05:00 PM

COMMENT: Pippa Middleton's wedding makes me feel like an alien, writes Deborah Hill Cone.

Sex, power and Brigitte Macron
Opinion

Sex, power and Brigitte Macron

14 May 05:00 PM

COMMENT: Brigitte Macron sends a scary message about older woman syndrome.

Sometimes I parent like a maître d'
Opinion

Sometimes I parent like a maître d'

07 May 05:00 PM

COMMENT: We are putting far too much pressure on our kids, says Deborah Hill Cone.

Ten tips from 550 hours of therapy
Opinion

Ten tips from 550 hours of therapy

30 Apr 09:39 PM

COMMENT: Deborah Hill Cone shares her top life tips gleaned from 550 hours of therapy.

Immigration - looking in the wrong queue
Opinion

Immigration - looking in the wrong queue

23 Apr 05:00 PM

COMMENT: Immigrants are neither the scourge or the solution, says Deborah Hill Cone.

Hill Cone: Education's art attack is wrong
Opinion

Hill Cone: Education's art attack is wrong

16 Apr 05:00 PM

COMMENT: Obsessive focus on literacy and numeracy is squeezing lifeblood from creativity.

We need to talk about autism
Opinion

We need to talk about autism

09 Apr 05:00 PM

COMMENT: Parents need Govt to fund help courses, writes Deborah Hill Cone.

The travails of getting a column out
Opinion

The travails of getting a column out

02 Apr 05:00 PM

It's hard to learnt lessons without experiencing pain first, says Deborah Hill Cone.

Winner-take-all attitude switches off sensitivity
Opinion

Winner-take-all attitude switches off sensitivity

26 Mar 04:00 PM

We learn gentleness and empathy from experiences not a whiteboard

Hill Cone: Ten ways to restore goodness
Opinion

Hill Cone: Ten ways to restore goodness

12 Mar 04:00 PM

COMMENT: 'I would like to proffer a list of some of the good things that have been making life worth living', says Deborah Hill Cone.

'A shambles: My years of ego and lust'
Opinion

'A shambles: My years of ego and lust'

26 Feb 04:00 PM

COMMENT: I've had a lot of love affairs. Years of crushes, hangovers and hookups; silly, slutty, unrequited, quick and dirty, writes Deborah Hill Cone.

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