Palmy North was picked because, just up the road, Feilding is the home of young dairy farming couple Mike and Ryley Short. Mike entered the 2009 Fieldays Rural Bachelor competition on a whim and duly took home the title. But it was a year later, when he returned to judge the competition, that he took home the big prize, his future wife Ryley who was working at the time as an events coordinator for the VIP Centre at Mystery Creek.
The next month for me is going to be hectic after a couple of really tough weeks. But Doug Avery's a top bloke - loves a beer and a good yarn – and it's a pleasure to go on the road with him. He's doing God's work around mental health and told us in Winton that "there's only one bugger I haven't been able to help" and that's because he was suffering from dementia and couldn't take the message in.
Doug's message is very much to share your problems and don't be afraid to ask for help. Burying your head in the sand and simply working harder is not the answer.
I wish my great boyhood friend John had spoken to Doug. I spoke at his funeral recently. I want to leave you with an edited excerpt from my eulogy:
…Fast forward to the turn of the millennium and a wonderful tradition was about to unfold. The boys from that primary school class of 1972 had grown up, gone their separate ways, but stayed mates and kept in touch. Fate and good fortune saw them regroup some 30 years later to go duck shooting on the old Mackay home farm pond.
This annual ritual and bonding session was where I spent most of my quality John time. Early on, John decided that he was going to be the flamboyant star of duck shooting. This was achieved by turning up at the Riversdale pub on duck shooting eve wearing progressively more garish, outrageous, dare-I-say camp outfits. I once described him in a column in the Southland Times as looking like a cross between Rambo and Liberace and was recently reminded of another occasion in print when I suggested he was like Prince Charles about to go out for a quail shoot.
But what he wore was not the only highlight of duck shooting. A close second was the fine fare he brought for us to feast on. Typical maimai tucker is red meat in its various manifestations. There's usually a choice of steak, steak or steak. Not for John. He introduced us to delicacies of English pork pies, the finest of boutique cheeses, the most expensive of wines and ports and he introduced me to the delights of imported craft beers before it was ever trendy to drink them.
John, my old mate, you died tragically, but your duckshooting mates are never going to let your memory die. Come the first weekend of May 2019, your son is coming to the pond to present your inaugural memorial trophy. Rest in peace my old friend and rest assured we'll be having an English pork pie and an expensive Belgian beer in your honour on the morning of May 4.
- Jamie Mackay is the host of The Country which airs on Newstalk ZB and Radio Sport, 12-1pm, weekdays.
Where to get help:
Rural Support Trust: 0800 787 254
Lifeline: 0800 543 354 (available 24/7)
Suicide Crisis Helpline: 0508 828 865 (0508 TAUTOKO) (available 24/7)
Youthline: 0800 376 633
Kidsline: 0800 543 754 (available 24/7)
Whatsup: 0800 942 8787 (1pm to 11pm)
Depression helpline: 0800 111 757 (available 24/7)
If it is an emergency and you feel like you or someone else is at risk, call 111.
