"People have types and they always date the same type. The family know the track record of their loved one and we see them choosing people completely different from the track record.
"We can all obviously go for the chocolate cake, but the whanau say, we are choosing fruit- it's better for you!"
While Smith admires the contestants' courage in allowing other people to make choices for them, she wouldn't be keen for that to happen to herself.
"I take my hat off to them. I wouldn't want my friends and family choosing for me. I wouldn't have that much faith. Let's just say, I like to be part of the process."
She said while the show was very funny, there was wisdom along with the shenanigans.
"I see love and life is actually about timing. If something doesn't work out, it's not actually that they are not the right person for you or that they did something wrong - it's just the timing might not be right. You have to be truly open to love manifesting."
■ Finding Aroha starts on Maori TV on August 4 at 8.30pm.