But it is what has happened in the months since that has made me proud of my old flatmate. He has applied his intelligence to ensure the death of his daughter in Chiang Mai, and four other mysterious deaths in the first two months of this year in the same area, would not be swept under the carpet. That some knowledge would be gained.
Clever statements to the media and a website have kept the pressure on Thai authorities, desperate to protect their tourism industry. He criticised their lack of initial investigation and claims that the deaths of his daughter, a Thai national, and an English couple at about the same time in the same hotel were coincidental.
This week Thai authorities released a report into Sarah's death, which is believed to have been caused by pesticides sprayed in her hotel room. Nine recommendations were made to reduce further risks of chemical and pesticide exposure in Thailand, and to help sick tourists.
Through his agitation, Richard may have saved other families from the devastating loss his has suffered. All I can offer Richard, Anna and their two surviving children are the words their daughter spoke to a friend going through a tough time, who shared her memories in Karori in February. "It's OK to be not OK," Sarah said.