Opinion: There's nothing wrong with asking for help

Having a tough time with feelings and emotions is not a sign of weakness and you don't have to hold it in. Photo/File

The fact that in the last year 606 Kiwis chose to commit suicide is heartbreaking.

The Chief Coroner's provisional suicide statistics for 2016/17, released this week,showed 606 people died by suicide in New Zealand - up from 579 the year before, which was the previous highest number.

That included 17 people in the Lakes District Health Board area, down from the 21 people who died by suicide in 2015/16, but an increase from the 10 and 15 in the previous two years.

In my opinion, one would be too many.

It's an issue close to my heart. I lost a cousin to suicide almost exactly two years ago. We were really close as kids and drifted apart a little as we grew older, but the fact that she didn't think she could talk to me about whatever was happening in her life is still really upsetting.

I write this article in the hope than anyone reading it will realise it's okay to ask for help.

Talk to someone about what you are going through. Having feelings and emotions is not weak, you don't have to hold it in.

You might feel alone and, it might not seem like it, but I can guarantee there are people out there who care about you. Even if they don't always act like it - we all get caught up in our own lives from time to time - but there are people who would be devastated to know you are in a bad place.

I consider myself really lucky that I'm part of a group of mates who aren't afraid to talk about how they are feeling or what is bothering them. You'd be amazed at how good it feels just to get stuff off your chest.

If you don't feel comfortable talking to friends and family there are helplines and counselling organisations full of people who are ready to listen.

Just please, don't try and go it alone. There is nothing to be ashamed of.

Where to get help:

• Lifeline: 0800 543 354 (available 24/7)
• Suicide Crisis Helpline: 0508 828 865 (0508 TAUTOKO) (available 24/7)
• Youthline: 0800 376 633
• Kidsline: 0800 543 754 (available 24/7)